How To Read ANYONE

  • Опубликовано:  Год назад
  • How To Read ANYONE
    Today we are going to cover the skill of reading people. Which is an awesome skill - to be able to know what someone is thinking or feeling will save you a lot of grief. You won’t look silly talking to someone who is not interested, you’ll get a better of idea of who is interested and isn’t saying anything.

    But we won’t stop there

    Because one of the most amazing things that developing your ability to read an individual does is that it enables you to improve. And I saw in the comments, a lot of you were asking what I studied to be able to do the charisma breakdowns - truly there was no class - it was just a matter of doing these steps over and over. And there is a science to it.

    So let’s get into

    1. Increase self-awareness
    2. Find where their attention is (eye contact is huge)
    3. Get good at identifying micro-expressions, potentially use this site:
    4. Identify common patterns
    5. Make predictions based on people's body language
    6. Experiment in your own life

    Hope you find that helpful in identifying the body language to read people.

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Комментарии: 3 586

  • Lilly Perra
    Lilly Perra 5 часов назад

    This hottie is smart y'all

  • Nicholas Cheap
    Nicholas Cheap 6 часов назад

    Great Chanel

  • archana solanki
    archana solanki День назад

    u r so me

  • Morningstar
    Morningstar День назад

    Your hand is very long like creatures

  • Manal Jawad
    Manal Jawad 3 дня назад

    Have you studied psychology?

  • Jelena Jensen
    Jelena Jensen 6 дней назад

    This guy loves the sound of his own voice and is an egotist. There you go, that is how to read people.

  • Jake Carroll
    Jake Carroll 6 дней назад

    Repent for your sins and believe the gospel of Jesus Christ

  • oliver kreitmeyer
    oliver kreitmeyer 7 дней назад

    How I see by some signs, you are a little scared while filming. (Your arms are the sign)

  • Амалия Каримовп
    Амалия Каримовп 8 дней назад


  • Luke Wentworth
    Luke Wentworth 9 дней назад

    Analysis steeple hands to show confidence in the subject. Palm flashing I’m tilling the truth trust me yet you might have overdone it a bit. For those that are more experienced to much palm flashing indicates a very accomplished liar.🙌

  • Antonio Herrera
    Antonio Herrera 9 дней назад

    wow what a ameture

  • Alex Willis
    Alex Willis 10 дней назад

    This person is the sexiest person that I've ever seen in my life that is intelligent and that's young. Ps HMU

  • Tanner Paul
    Tanner Paul 10 дней назад

    Watch usually. Its good tips and tricks. Use it to help me connect more with customers and promote my auto detailing business. Charisma and connection make customers and not just good work. Keep your videos up!

  • Dynasty
    Dynasty 10 дней назад +1

    I've really started reading and anticipating the actions of others.
    Really helpful video.

  • Omkar Mhatre
    Omkar Mhatre 11 дней назад

    the story of that bar was a lie

  • Ibrahim Ahmed
    Ibrahim Ahmed 13 дней назад


  • Dystride
    Dystride 17 дней назад

    I feel like you would make a good Joker

  • RadPreteen
    RadPreteen 18 дней назад

    How to tell if someone's horny

  • Stijn Rijnders
    Stijn Rijnders 18 дней назад

    I dont realy understand step 1-4

  • solo yolo
    solo yolo 19 дней назад

    Bet no one can read me, i'm always wearing a pokerface XD

  • Marcos Duarte
    Marcos Duarte 21 день назад

    Dude... You are so freaking handsome <3

  • Hardev Talatiya
    Hardev Talatiya 23 дня назад

    Oh my god this video...I am really impressed by it...great work man

  • Zedx Xo
    Zedx Xo Месяц назад

    Only came here to learn how to trust people

  • Olivia Pi
    Olivia Pi Месяц назад

    Really helpful video, thank you!

  • Assassin Of good
    Assassin Of good Месяц назад

    I already know how to read people before watching this. You just gotta be self-aware and study their body and tones. Not really that hard.

  • Peach Quartz
    Peach Quartz Месяц назад

    Sherlock holmes steps are great examples of being analytical on people and human behavior as well as "lie to me" micro-expressions

  • Allen Jacob
    Allen Jacob Месяц назад

    good one Charlie. . your videos help me improve myself so well. .. You spoke about telling a story with everyone's attention on you. .. I need to work on that... have you made a video on that. . please let me know

    • Allen Jacob
      Allen Jacob Месяц назад

      Will do... Thank you Charlie

    • Charisma on Command
      Charisma on Command  Месяц назад

      ~ Glad they're helping man! We actually did one on storytelling - feel free to check out "Kevin Hart's 3 Secrets To Hilarious Storytelling" :-)

  • Robertjr Cinco
    Robertjr Cinco Месяц назад

    bro i want you to talk about this article "People who feel powerful are more likely to return smiles of those they see as low status, according to study" its on google to .

  • Alexis Maria
    Alexis Maria Месяц назад

    I absolotely LOVE your channel!

  • kawaii gamer
    kawaii gamer Месяц назад


  • Larissa Pigot
    Larissa Pigot Месяц назад

    How nice you'd be with longer hair... try

  • Zilmara Santos
    Zilmara Santos Месяц назад

    I can't believe I found this YouTube channel! It's great! I'm learning a lot. Thanks for sharing.

    • Charisma on Command
      Charisma on Command  Месяц назад

      ~ Glad you're liking the channel Zilmara! Feel free to subscribe if you haven't done so yet :-)

  • Ian Meadows
    Ian Meadows Месяц назад

    1. Eye contact? That gonna be hard accounting I got a lazy eye

  • totorotally dawson
    totorotally dawson Месяц назад

    this channel is great for my aspergers haha

  • Joshua Rage
    Joshua Rage Месяц назад

    Guys, I really recommand you all to watch the tv series "Lie To Me". Might be interesting for you

  • Rakin Absar
    Rakin Absar Месяц назад

    off-topic, he has a perfect symmetrical comic face. Bye.

  • Eris Éride
    Eris Éride Месяц назад

    this guy is so handsome

  • deniz yildirim
    deniz yildirim Месяц назад

    i luv u

  • Ihaab Majid
    Ihaab Majid Месяц назад

    I've been doing this for a long time and I've learned a lot. I love the content of this channel. I love that it exists. I've been subscribed for a while. I'm really into leadership, charisma and dominance. Thanks.

  • Cam77891
    Cam77891 Месяц назад

    You should re-title this "How to LEAR to read anyone" great video though

  • connected 72
    connected 72 Месяц назад

    Can you please explain the difference between reading someone or having a perceptions of a person's actions vs labeling a person's motive? In healthy psychology, we are told that labeling a person's motives is wrong and their are a plethora of other unknown factors that can be influencing that person's behavior. In your example, you mention subtle behaviors, like a quick smile and then neutral body language. Couldn't that person's quick smile be motivated by a variety of this? Maybe they are nervous and this is a survival technique they learned when they are nervous. Maybe they had a funny thought pop into their head in that moment, that was unrelated. The list can go on. Generally I would agree with all these identifications your describing, but I've recently learned that the labeling is wrong. I'm extremely confused and it's a little frightening, because it makes me question my intuition and perception that I've been told by so many is spot on. How do you balance this? If you don't label a person's behavior as toxic or dangerous, you could be putting yourself in a bad situation. I'm so confused, please give me your thoughts on this. Thank you!

  • LM1811
    LM1811 Месяц назад

    Charlie, this is one of my fav videos! I laugh a lot on 8:40. Very good example!
    Thank you! 😊

  • MoneyAhoy
    MoneyAhoy Месяц назад

    Darn - I was hoping for some magic secret tip. Guess it is basically boils down to just go do your homework.

  • funk soul style
    funk soul style Месяц назад


  • NeonTime
    NeonTime Месяц назад

    I mean these videos seem really interesting and helpful but I don't think human cognition and perception can be as easily explained and manipulated as you make it seem. I wish it was, but everything happens too fast for people to analyze every move people make as they throw away their constant assumptions or instincts

  • Fast MusclesBrian
    Fast MusclesBrian Месяц назад

    Helps me in pattering my clients in the gym as simple as knowing my prediction

  • BlueBerryKing
    BlueBerryKing Месяц назад

    Charlie, how can your mouth be so big??

  • Rose 3.33
    Rose 3.33 Месяц назад

    how does he do these in one take

  • KurapikaISa BOY
    KurapikaISa BOY Месяц назад

    Charlie, can you make a video about how to avoid or decline people who are kind but annoying? Because you simply cannot yell at a kind person.

  • Skeezicks
    Skeezicks Месяц назад

    Has anyone noticed how wide his mouth is?

  • Аня Турова
    Аня Турова Месяц назад

    I'm from Belarus 🇧🇾🇧🇾🇧🇾 and i've subscribed, because your videos are really useful! Thanks for your job)))

    • Charisma on Command
      Charisma on Command  Месяц назад

      ~ Glad you're finding them useful! Welcome to the channel :-)

  • Jim Cuddy
    Jim Cuddy Месяц назад

    the big eye thing was so funny lol

  • Julia M
    Julia M Месяц назад

    Thanks for sharing this content! A little more structure and maybe some bulletpoints would be great.

  • Crimson SP
    Crimson SP Месяц назад

    Its weird how I click this vid trying to get better than I notice I do this already.... THEN I do it too much and it's weird and I'm broken now.

  • Julia Gomes
    Julia Gomes Месяц назад

    how you doing?

  • Mara P
    Mara P Месяц назад

    I gotta say I'm quite good at reading people. How I learned? Simple. I read a lot of fiction.

  • Kina tano
    Kina tano Месяц назад

    But my friend is really good at telling what someone is feeling. He knew when I was faking my happiness cos I kept looking down and my lips didn't extend as widely

  • Tomcat
    Tomcat Месяц назад

    He's perfect😍😍😍

  • Otan Er
    Otan Er Месяц назад

    Charlie, are you an ENFP? What is your MBTI?

  • CuriosityTV
    CuriosityTV Месяц назад

    When you roll an 18 on Charisma

  • AsciiKing
    AsciiKing Месяц назад

    Step 1 - become self-aware. Hahahahahaha!

  • bubbly hun
    bubbly hun 2 месяца назад

    this kind of random but. what does it mean if someone of the same sex always make eye contact with you from a distance, and smile, for no reason at all. there was this girl in my class (I'm a girl too), who I always find her staring at me, and when I look back she just smiles shyly. I didn't get to know her to be honest, have never talked to her. but I always find her smile at me. she's like a nerd, and sits at the very front, so when she looks at me I do notice.
    before anyone mentions it, I don't think so she likes me or something?? lesbiane or bi aren't really common here.. it's VERY rare. but yeah it also doesn't mean it doesn't exist.. I don't know, I just don't think she meant it in that way.
    it was just weird and I wish I could've talked to her before its too late. a year later she rarely made eye contact, just from time to time. I still don't know what does it mean to this day lol.

  • Lana Del Rey
    Lana Del Rey 2 месяца назад


  • Mimzwashere
    Mimzwashere 2 месяца назад

    I mean, I would let him lean over me at a bar

  • Thatguy Man
    Thatguy Man 2 месяца назад

    Couldn't focus

  • Daniella Shankle
    Daniella Shankle 2 месяца назад

    Being an INFJ this shizz is common sense. 🙄

  • TheGP3s
    TheGP3s 2 месяца назад

    Wtf I've been doing this all my life

  • LukeB Films
    LukeB Films 2 месяца назад

    wtf, just stare at him for about 30 seconds straight, then look away at a wall.
    you can see the whole outline of his body!

  • Pupper Gump
    Pupper Gump 2 месяца назад

    I wonder what his friends think of him..

  • Jesse Tuominen
    Jesse Tuominen 2 месяца назад

    This Direction.

  • Ben Jahn
    Ben Jahn 2 месяца назад

    Nice video man:) Subscribed!

    • Charisma on Command
      Charisma on Command  2 месяца назад

      ~ Glad the video brought you in! Welcome to the channel :-)

  • Zennosuke Zack
    Zennosuke Zack 2 месяца назад

    Is there a real profession on reading people?

  • Sher *
    Sher * 2 месяца назад

    Channel your inner Sherlock Holmes

  • Bodmerocity
    Bodmerocity 2 месяца назад

    Just an aside: Mostly people will interpret looking away as a sign that someone isn't paying attention, but sometimes ADHD people will look away when they're trying to listen very closely. We're kind of limited by how much sensory information we can process in a given moment, so looking away is a way of de-prioritizing sight in favor of sound. I also often tilt an ear toward the speaker 1.) to better hear, and 2.) as a hint that I am listening.

  • Hello World
    Hello World 2 месяца назад

    His mouth is huge

  • Stephen Henkel
    Stephen Henkel 2 месяца назад

    Your voice has good timbre. Also, good hand gestures, very palm-up and illustrative.
    Why do you shave your arms though? Does it have anything to do with psychology?

  • Mike Nolan
    Mike Nolan 2 месяца назад

    you look like the scout from tf2 lol

    JAMO'S STORIES 2 месяца назад

    Your videos are useful

  • Charlie M.P.
    Charlie M.P. 2 месяца назад

    Thanks for your insights! And on another note: beautiful smile.

  • gravity destructor
    gravity destructor 2 месяца назад

    Just because someone is not looking at you in your eyes when you are talking does not mean that they are not listening. Take people with Autism for instance. People with Autism have trouble looking at a person's eyes when they are talking instead they look at the person's mouth or they look around the room or some people are just better at listening when they are doing other things like drawing. That's how it works for me anyways. Plus not everybody who you are trying to read is going to act the same way body Behavior wise. So what will be especially difficult to read people who you are not used to being around with those types of quirks. So usually you would end up reading them the wrong way and getting the wrong opinion about them. Which is where you have to draw the line between your ability to read people, and your ability to trust people.

  • SClearS
    SClearS 2 месяца назад

    This video always showed up on my suggestions, before knowing Charisma on Command, didn't wanna see it 'cause I thought it was just a video with a cute guy in the thumbnail.

  • Cat Lis
    Cat Lis 2 месяца назад

    You look like a younger Michael Fassbender.

  • Everyday Coconuts
    Everyday Coconuts 2 месяца назад

    I get awkward at work, over thinking what & what I can not say & do all the time. Always worried about over stepping a line at work while being social & friendly to my co workers. I tend to completely loose my personality by trying to be what I think is acceptable or what they want in an employee so my personality flat lines & becomes robotic.

  • LongGameValue
    LongGameValue 2 месяца назад

    "Let me know" [video request] ... ok, you asked for it...
    So, lets say that someone learned, more or less, the idea's in this video (self awareness, paterrn recognition, predictions, experiments, real life experience), let's say that person is me...
    So, i learned all that to a junior high school equivalent, i try to tell people, but because they fear the consequences of my knowledge of their actions, they choose ignorance, repeating things like "you don't know me".
    Also, attempting to ease tensions by being accepting of their mistakes wouldn't work, because they are deathly afraid of the consequences, they'd be dead to me, as i am to them...
    How do you manipulate them into coming out?
    They made such awful mistakes that would make any future relationship a formality, meaning the time invested would never make them worth trusting with my life again. They know that, so they choose to be ignorant about any evidence i have on them. They try to kill me. They kill my children by making me infertile. They entice literally everyone into taking some ownership of their cause, and thus preventing my options for seeking help.

    How do you get a confession out of anyone?... keep in mind if you don't get a confession, they will continue to try kill you and continue to be nasty in anyway they can think of because it's easier to do that than have any descent in their ranks...
    (You didn't "ask" for this... but i found an excuse to write it)

    • LongGameValue
      LongGameValue 2 месяца назад

      P.s. my skill in this area may actually be in senior high school. If you think about each level of school as a conscious grasp on the final level, which would be where someone like Derren Brown attends.

  • canater gaming
    canater gaming 2 месяца назад

    he would be a great hanzo main

  • Oran Wilson
    Oran Wilson 2 месяца назад

    I only found your channel today I'm gonna try a lot of your tips🤙

  • Ronald samuel
    Ronald samuel 2 месяца назад

    Lmao this guy always uses body language hands face expressions changes voice smiles and try's to relate I like how u make these videos u sneaky mfer CHARISMA ON COMMAND

  • Luke Fazzard
    Luke Fazzard 2 месяца назад

    And your friend is a funny one working out for a year and only then noticing its not what he thought.
    Let me know how he gained 40lbs without putting on weight too.

  • Luke Fazzard
    Luke Fazzard 2 месяца назад

    Leave this stuff to adults with life experience. You might be good but nothing can beat age and experience that comes with it.

  • Beanshkabob
    Beanshkabob 2 месяца назад

    yeah but how do you stop thinking about these things whenever you interact with people? having these things in mind seems to take away from the validity of the moment and I get caught up in trying to change my expressions... does this go away after a while or is this like a permanent problem with knowing this knowledge? whats your experience?

  • aquadise e
    aquadise e 2 месяца назад

    I don't know why but nearly EVERYONE I know has told me a big secret and told me to keep it to myself and not tell. The thing is, I let them do all the talking and I don't say a word. Of course, I'll tell them if I agree with what there saying and whatnot but I don't tell them about OTHER people. I guess that's what makes me them trust me. I just look them in the eye and I listen and I don't react or gasp or laugh. I just listen. It sounds a bit creepy but I love it when people do that for me and it seems to work so.
    Only one thing; don't speak about other people to others. They'll pick up the type of person you are which is NOT a good person.

  • Keith Mintz
    Keith Mintz 2 месяца назад

    First step is very true! Must know yourself! If you know yourself and your own emotions, you have full control of yourself and life situations. Knowing that, you can absolutely be able to read others as well! Great video!

  • You is annoying as hell
    You is annoying as hell 2 месяца назад

    His voice kinda reminds me of terrytv

  • Takeiteasy buttakeit
    Takeiteasy buttakeit 2 месяца назад

    Are you using the sign language for deaf people? Looks line a ventilator.

  • Googoosh
    Googoosh 2 месяца назад +1

    Anyone else instantly pause the video and scroll to the comments looking to see what people think of the mouth on this guy?

  • Pedro Francescon Cittolin
    Pedro Francescon Cittolin 2 месяца назад


  • kat douglas
    kat douglas 2 месяца назад

    he opens his mouth really wide

  • Bobby Richardson
    Bobby Richardson 2 месяца назад

    Man you love your black v-necks haha

  • Juliqn Mihov
    Juliqn Mihov 2 месяца назад

    In my opinion, very good way of practice and learning these stuff is simply playing poker (on live) obviously I like the game and I enjoy that method but.. it is really helpful cause every hand you make predictions and you check them If they are correct, so this works like an experiment..

  • Rock 4 Life
    Rock 4 Life 2 месяца назад

    The first video I seen and I already subscribed. Good job!

    • Rock 4 Life
      Rock 4 Life 2 месяца назад

      Charisma on Command Thanks! :)))

    • Charisma on Command
      Charisma on Command  2 месяца назад +1

      ~ Awesome! Welcome to the channel :-)