How To Read ANYONE

  • Опубликовано: 13 май 2016
  • How To Read ANYONE
    Today we are going to cover the skill of reading people. Which is an awesome skill - to be able to know what someone is thinking or feeling will save you a lot of grief. You won’t look silly talking to someone who is not interested, you’ll get a better of idea of who is interested and isn’t saying anything.
    But we won’t stop there
    Because one of the most amazing things that developing your ability to read an individual does is that it enables you to improve. And I saw in the comments, a lot of you were asking what I studied to be able to do the charisma breakdowns - truly there was no class - it was just a matter of doing these steps over and over. And there is a science to it.
    So let’s get into
    1. Increase self-awareness
    2. Find where their attention is (eye contact is huge)
    3. Get good at identifying micro-expressions, potentially use this site:
    4. Identify common patterns
    5. Make predictions based on people's body language
    6. Experiment in your own life
    Hope you find that helpful in identifying the body language to read people.
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Комментарии: 3 638

  • Aradhya Chocopie
    Aradhya Chocopie 22 часа назад

    u r very very hancy

  • malig-on jew francis
    malig-on jew francis 4 дня назад +1

    Thank you. Looking forward for morw vids.

  • Likewise
    Likewise 5 дней назад

    A year late, but the book "what every BODY is saying" is a really good book for this

  • deryic jose
    deryic jose 8 дней назад

    tell 5 tips to kill our fears buddy...........................................?

  • ольга романова
    ольга романова 11 дней назад

    You remind me Clark Kent....

  • DarthBricksEmpire
    DarthBricksEmpire 11 дней назад

    Uhm that page is in Russian...

  • zemirline lynda
    zemirline lynda 12 дней назад

    it's the other way for me tho . i try to read people inorder to learn more about myself.

  • Joseph B
    Joseph B 13 дней назад

    this guy looks like a lunatic, but in a turtle head form.

  • Elaine Smiles
    Elaine Smiles 17 дней назад

    Does his mouth freak any body else

  • Mabeli Dove
    Mabeli Dove 17 дней назад

    the big eye contact you explained was funny 😊😄 I like that. You give great advice in a chill understandable way. Thank you ✨

  • Shakim Ashby
    Shakim Ashby 18 дней назад

    He said 1 year later he put on 40lbs and he was the same weight and same height

  • Sven Beck
    Sven Beck 22 дня назад +1

    He's so hot

  • abilyn 1105
    abilyn 1105 23 дня назад

    i love this so beautifulll!!!!!!..and smart yes of course

  • Pickels Mcdee
    Pickels Mcdee 24 дня назад

    Awesome ! 👍

  • Uvott
    Uvott 25 дней назад

    Honestly man, you really don't come off as all that naturally confident or charismatic, am i the only one that finds his "charm" superficial?

  • shesherezade
    shesherezade 26 дней назад

    I'd like to have a video on how to handle stress. I stress about getting stressed and end up super stressed for the slightest thing, which in the end prevents me from just getting stuff done and relax and feel that I did good work. I realize that this is only about my own mindset, but I do not know how to change it.

  • Cookja Zzangfan
    Cookja Zzangfan 26 дней назад


  • spiral down
    spiral down 27 дней назад

    Can you make a video with the most important patterns we can identify?!

  • Cold Pride
    Cold Pride 27 дней назад

    I was wondering where he bought his v neck T-shirt, so that I accidentally watched this video.

  • Natalie Saucedo
    Natalie Saucedo 29 дней назад

    Im gonna go over to my friends tomorrow and be like, I know what your thinking :]

  • youngin frisky
    youngin frisky Месяц назад

    Hm I'm making a prediction about the eye story being a rouse. I still love the content, but just like the stories from the bible, most people infer the lesson or moral if it's wrapped into a story. (I'm not saying the bible is fake). It lets people come to the conclusion you had planned to get across on there own terms. You didn't explicitly say do this, but rather allowed them to hear your principle in practice and allow them to make their own decision. Haha am I learning master?

  • ThunderNutz
    ThunderNutz Месяц назад

    This dude looks like Jake Gyllenhaal.

  • mewtwopsychic98
    mewtwopsychic98 Месяц назад

    It's pretty simple. To get someone's attention maintain constant eye contact but don't be harsh with it. Just normal simple eye contact. And change the expression of your face constantly so people don't get bored. Moving your hands helps but you'll have to study exactly what hand movements are good because people can naturally read hand movements to make opinions without ever realizing it.

  • LashyWolf
    LashyWolf Месяц назад

    "ANYONE" done

  • Faryal William
    Faryal William Месяц назад

    Sorry what was the tip again?

  • Maria Chagas
    Maria Chagas Месяц назад

    he's so cute

  • Super Dhanu
    Super Dhanu Месяц назад

    Bro can u do a video about negative minded people

  • Widdekuu91
    Widdekuu91 Месяц назад

    Most people that I socialize with are sortof...walking boxes of lingering emotions waiting to happen.
    So I don't have to read anything to know what's up.
    I'd have a discussion about my work, with the supervisor and she'd be gritting her teeth, raising her eyebrows angrily and shouting the words.
    ('Everything is just chaos! Nothing ever goes according to plan! Our organisation sucks!')
    Whenever I then politely pointed out that what she was angry about had little to do with my work and more with the sudden breaking of the coffeemachine that morning, her lower lip would tremble and her eyes would water.
    I would then speak the last magic words; 'It's not about my work, is it? It's about everything else here?' and then she would burst into tears and genuienly spill all of her troubles, from exes to boyfriends to migraines to stress and missed tv-shows.
    After this she'd be nice for the rest of the day and then the next day it'd continue.
    I just expect anyone around me to be completely crazy and vent the anger about everything on everyone.
    And that's how I 'read' that they're just always angry.
    It's like a balloon with dirty toiletwater, that's being blown up, more and more, throughout the day.
    Better stab through the pokerfaces and have everything leak out when the balloon isn't big yet, because if you wait, it'll burst when it's big and cover everything in shit.

  • boiled frog
    boiled frog Месяц назад

    Lel yeah basically u have to kill your personality first ,now Im three eys raven the person I knew already died in that cave .

  • Adnan Shafi
    Adnan Shafi Месяц назад

    its true no one's born with charisma or confidence , but some do pick it up way way early while the rest rot their whole lives away thinking and being and feeling shit . Blame it on situation or education but its still unfair , and that invites trouble . Kudos to you guys for the education though!!!!

  • Anneshirley Nyako
    Anneshirley Nyako Месяц назад

    No one thinks it's odd you're training people how to be more human? Charisma is nice to have, but what's the long term purpose? Does this solve any real problems

  • Davie Donna
    Davie Donna Месяц назад +1

    This guy has such a fake creepy smile.

  • Curious Waffle
    Curious Waffle Месяц назад

    why am i here? Ijust want some CHIIIIIIIPS

  • Curious Waffle
    Curious Waffle Месяц назад

    why am i here? Ijust want some CHIIIIIIIPS

  • Green Plasticbag
    Green Plasticbag Месяц назад

    But you are born with a certain wiring that shapes who you are.

  • John Asklöf
    John Asklöf Месяц назад

    It's really strange, because I recognize myself very much in your way of thinking. Great video!

  • twarozek
    twarozek Месяц назад

    his hands will fall off at some point

  • Lilly Perra
    Lilly Perra Месяц назад

    This hottie is smart y'all

  • Nicholas Cheap
    Nicholas Cheap Месяц назад

    Great Chanel

  • archana solanki
    archana solanki Месяц назад

    u r so me

  • Morningstar
    Morningstar Месяц назад

    Your hand is very long like creatures

  • Manal Jawad
    Manal Jawad Месяц назад

    Have you studied psychology?

  • Jelena Jensen
    Jelena Jensen Месяц назад

    This guy loves the sound of his own voice and is an egotist. There you go, that is how to read people.

  • Jake Carroll
    Jake Carroll Месяц назад

    Repent for your sins and believe the gospel of Jesus Christ

  • oliver kreitmeyer
    oliver kreitmeyer Месяц назад

    How I see by some signs, you are a little scared while filming. (Your arms are the sign)

  • Амалия Каримовп
    Амалия Каримовп 2 месяца назад


  • Luke Wentworth
    Luke Wentworth 2 месяца назад

    Analysis steeple hands to show confidence in the subject. Palm flashing I’m tilling the truth trust me yet you might have overdone it a bit. For those that are more experienced to much palm flashing indicates a very accomplished liar.🙌

  • Antonio Herrera
    Antonio Herrera 2 месяца назад

    wow what a ameture

  • Alex Willis
    Alex Willis 2 месяца назад

    This person is the sexiest person that I've ever seen in my life that is intelligent and that's young. Ps HMU

  • Tanner Paul
    Tanner Paul 2 месяца назад

    Watch usually. Its good tips and tricks. Use it to help me connect more with customers and promote my auto detailing business. Charisma and connection make customers and not just good work. Keep your videos up!

  • Dynasty
    Dynasty 2 месяца назад +1

    I've really started reading and anticipating the actions of others.
    Really helpful video.

  • Omkar Mhatre
    Omkar Mhatre 2 месяца назад

    the story of that bar was a lie

  • Ibrahim Ahmed
    Ibrahim Ahmed 2 месяца назад


  • Dystride
    Dystride 2 месяца назад

    I feel like you would make a good Joker

  • RadPreteen
    RadPreteen 2 месяца назад

    How to tell if someone's horny

    • GamingChoco
      GamingChoco Месяц назад

      RadPreteen pretty sure if someone's biting their lower lip and or looking at your crotch or flirts with you, then you know he/she is horny.

  • Stijn Rijnders
    Stijn Rijnders 2 месяца назад

    I dont realy understand step 1-4

  • solo yolo
    solo yolo 2 месяца назад

    Bet no one can read me, i'm always wearing a pokerface XD

  • Marcos Duarte
    Marcos Duarte 2 месяца назад

    Dude... You are so freaking handsome

  • Hardev Talatiya
    Hardev Talatiya 2 месяца назад

    Oh my god this video...I am really impressed by it...great work man

  • Zedx Xo
    Zedx Xo 2 месяца назад

    Only came here to learn how to trust people

  • Olivia Pi
    Olivia Pi 2 месяца назад

    Really helpful video, thank you!

  • Assassin Of good
    Assassin Of good 2 месяца назад

    I already know how to read people before watching this. You just gotta be self-aware and study their body and tones. Not really that hard.

  • Peach Quartz
    Peach Quartz 2 месяца назад

    Sherlock holmes steps are great examples of being analytical on people and human behavior as well as "lie to me" micro-expressions

  • Allen Jacob
    Allen Jacob 2 месяца назад

    good one Charlie. . your videos help me improve myself so well. .. You spoke about telling a story with everyone's attention on you. .. I need to work on that... have you made a video on that. . please let me know

    • Allen Jacob
      Allen Jacob 2 месяца назад

      Will do... Thank you Charlie

    • Charisma on Command
      Charisma on Command  2 месяца назад

      ~ Glad they're helping man! We actually did one on storytelling - feel free to check out "Kevin Hart's 3 Secrets To Hilarious Storytelling" :-)

  • Robertjr Cinco
    Robertjr Cinco 3 месяца назад

    bro i want you to talk about this article "People who feel powerful are more likely to return smiles of those they see as low status, according to study" its on google to .

  • Alexis Maria
    Alexis Maria 3 месяца назад

    I absolotely LOVE your channel!

  • kawaii gamer
    kawaii gamer 3 месяца назад


  • Larissa Pigot
    Larissa Pigot 3 месяца назад

    How nice you'd be with longer hair... try

  • Zilmara Santos
    Zilmara Santos 3 месяца назад

    I can't believe I found this YouTube channel! It's great! I'm learning a lot. Thanks for sharing.

    • Charisma on Command
      Charisma on Command  3 месяца назад

      ~ Glad you're liking the channel Zilmara! Feel free to subscribe if you haven't done so yet :-)

  • Ian Meadows
    Ian Meadows 3 месяца назад

    1. Eye contact? That gonna be hard accounting I got a lazy eye

  • totorotally dawson
    totorotally dawson 3 месяца назад

    this channel is great for my aspergers haha

  • Joshua Rage
    Joshua Rage 3 месяца назад

    Guys, I really recommand you all to watch the tv series "Lie To Me". Might be interesting for you

  • Rakin Absar
    Rakin Absar 3 месяца назад

    off-topic, he has a perfect symmetrical comic face. Bye.

  • Eris Éride
    Eris Éride 3 месяца назад

    this guy is so handsome

  • deniz yildirim
    deniz yildirim 3 месяца назад

    i luv u

  • Ihaab Majid
    Ihaab Majid 3 месяца назад

    I've been doing this for a long time and I've learned a lot. I love the content of this channel. I love that it exists. I've been subscribed for a while. I'm really into leadership, charisma and dominance. Thanks.

  • Cam77891
    Cam77891 3 месяца назад

    You should re-title this "How to LEAR to read anyone" great video though

  • connected 72
    connected 72 3 месяца назад

    Can you please explain the difference between reading someone or having a perceptions of a person's actions vs labeling a person's motive? In healthy psychology, we are told that labeling a person's motives is wrong and their are a plethora of other unknown factors that can be influencing that person's behavior. In your example, you mention subtle behaviors, like a quick smile and then neutral body language. Couldn't that person's quick smile be motivated by a variety of this? Maybe they are nervous and this is a survival technique they learned when they are nervous. Maybe they had a funny thought pop into their head in that moment, that was unrelated. The list can go on. Generally I would agree with all these identifications your describing, but I've recently learned that the labeling is wrong. I'm extremely confused and it's a little frightening, because it makes me question my intuition and perception that I've been told by so many is spot on. How do you balance this? If you don't label a person's behavior as toxic or dangerous, you could be putting yourself in a bad situation. I'm so confused, please give me your thoughts on this. Thank you!

  • LM1811
    LM1811 3 месяца назад

    Charlie, this is one of my fav videos! I laugh a lot on 8:40. Very good example!
    Thank you! 😊

  • MoneyAhoy
    MoneyAhoy 3 месяца назад

    Darn - I was hoping for some magic secret tip. Guess it is basically boils down to just go do your homework.

  • funk soul style
    funk soul style 3 месяца назад


  • NeonTime
    NeonTime 3 месяца назад

    I mean these videos seem really interesting and helpful but I don't think human cognition and perception can be as easily explained and manipulated as you make it seem. I wish it was, but everything happens too fast for people to analyze every move people make as they throw away their constant assumptions or instincts

  • Fast MusclesBrian
    Fast MusclesBrian 3 месяца назад

    Helps me in pattering my clients in the gym as simple as knowing my prediction

  • BlueBerryKing
    BlueBerryKing 3 месяца назад

    Charlie, how can your mouth be so big??

  • Rose 3.33
    Rose 3.33 3 месяца назад

    how does he do these in one take

  • KurapikaISa BOY
    KurapikaISa BOY 3 месяца назад

    Charlie, can you make a video about how to avoid or decline people who are kind but annoying? Because you simply cannot yell at a kind person.

  • Skeezicks
    Skeezicks 3 месяца назад

    Has anyone noticed how wide his mouth is?

  • Аня Турова
    Аня Турова 3 месяца назад

    I'm from Belarus 🇧🇾🇧🇾🇧🇾 and i've subscribed, because your videos are really useful! Thanks for your job)))

    • Charisma on Command
      Charisma on Command  3 месяца назад

      ~ Glad you're finding them useful! Welcome to the channel :-)

  • Jim Cuddy
    Jim Cuddy 3 месяца назад

    the big eye thing was so funny lol

  • Julia M
    Julia M 3 месяца назад

    Thanks for sharing this content! A little more structure and maybe some bulletpoints would be great.

  • Crimsn SP
    Crimsn SP 3 месяца назад

    Its weird how I click this vid trying to get better than I notice I do this already.... THEN I do it too much and it's weird and I'm broken now.

  • Julia Gomes
    Julia Gomes 3 месяца назад

    how you doing?

  • Mara P
    Mara P 3 месяца назад

    I gotta say I'm quite good at reading people. How I learned? Simple. I read a lot of fiction.

  • Sophia Yamaguchi
    Sophia Yamaguchi 3 месяца назад

    But my friend is really good at telling what someone is feeling. He knew when I was faking my happiness cos I kept looking down and my lips didn't extend as widely

  • Tomcat
    Tomcat 3 месяца назад

    He's perfect😍😍😍

  • Otan Er
    Otan Er 3 месяца назад

    Charlie, are you an ENFP? What is your MBTI?

  • CuriosityTV
    CuriosityTV 3 месяца назад

    When you roll an 18 on Charisma

  • AsciiKing
    AsciiKing 3 месяца назад

    Step 1 - become self-aware. Hahahahahaha!

  • bubbly hun
    bubbly hun 3 месяца назад

    this kind of random but. what does it mean if someone of the same sex always make eye contact with you from a distance, and smile, for no reason at all. there was this girl in my class (I'm a girl too), who I always find her staring at me, and when I look back she just smiles shyly. I didn't get to know her to be honest, have never talked to her. but I always find her smile at me. she's like a nerd, and sits at the very front, so when she looks at me I do notice.
    before anyone mentions it, I don't think so she likes me or something?? lesbiane or bi aren't really common here.. it's VERY rare. but yeah it also doesn't mean it doesn't exist.. I don't know, I just don't think she meant it in that way.
    it was just weird and I wish I could've talked to her before its too late. a year later she rarely made eye contact, just from time to time. I still don't know what does it mean to this day lol.

  • Lana Del Rey
    Lana Del Rey 3 месяца назад