How To Read ANYONE

  • Опубликовано: 13 май 2016
  • How To Read ANYONE
    Today we are going to cover the skill of reading people. Which is an awesome skill - to be able to know what someone is thinking or feeling will save you a lot of grief. You won’t look silly talking to someone who is not interested, you’ll get a better of idea of who is interested and isn’t saying anything.
    But we won’t stop there
    Because one of the most amazing things that developing your ability to read an individual does is that it enables you to improve. And I saw in the comments, a lot of you were asking what I studied to be able to do the charisma breakdowns - truly there was no class - it was just a matter of doing these steps over and over. And there is a science to it.
    So let’s get into
    1. Increase self-awareness
    2. Find where their attention is (eye contact is huge)
    3. Get good at identifying micro-expressions, potentially use this site:
    4. Identify common patterns
    5. Make predictions based on people's body language
    6. Experiment in your own life
    Hope you find that helpful in identifying the body language to read people.
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Комментарии • 3 735

  • dani k
    dani k 13 часов назад

    He sort of looks like Reggie from Riverdale

  • dani k
    dani k 13 часов назад

    I want to work for CSIS as like an agent, so I will need to know how to profile someone.

  • Sky Leonidas
    Sky Leonidas День назад

    goddamm i hate you soo much and i dont know why

  • Lotta Krap
    Lotta Krap День назад +1

    I’m a misanthrope

  • Billy Barbosa
    Billy Barbosa 2 дня назад

    I can't be the only one who thinks this has a SCARY amount of views

  • Isaac Herod
    Isaac Herod 2 дня назад

    It all lies in those micro-expressions. Its more intuitive than you lead on though. Not that it can't be learned, just that its gonna be pretty hard to get the hang of it.

  • Fadila xq
    Fadila xq 3 дня назад

    That big eye thing tho 😂

  • change of seen
    change of seen 4 дня назад

    Well articulated!

  • Jesús Ginard
    Jesús Ginard 4 дня назад

    I've never seen a bigger mouth in my life

  • Krishna Vedisha
    Krishna Vedisha 4 дня назад

    Can u please do a vedio on how to know a person is prevent or not

  • Baked Bacon
    Baked Bacon 4 дня назад

    ok and if u read people what can u do with it?

  • silvermoonshineX3
    silvermoonshineX3 7 дней назад

    do you know the Myers-briggs personality type indicator? This sounds a lot like the INFJ type. They appear to have a "sixth sense" for predicting stuff, when actually they are just reaally good at seeing patterns, just like you said! wow

  • John Pham
    John Pham 10 дней назад

    I can literally read anyone it's so easy like just watch

  • Adam
    Adam 12 дней назад

    Taking that test has made me realise have have very little empathy

  • Ug Lee
    Ug Lee 13 дней назад

    that's a cool t-shirt!

  • Seah Zuo Xian
    Seah Zuo Xian 13 дней назад

    People who have self-awareness are hard to read as their behaviour could be deceptive or balanced-out, what is more accurate will be simply listen and not get influenced by the actions they show.

  • Dr. Mr. Jeff
    Dr. Mr. Jeff 13 дней назад

    your body reminds me of CGI for some reason...

  • Brian A
    Brian A 13 дней назад

    I just found this guy. very interesting videos but i can't tell if it's just this guys own opinions and observations or did he study this somewhere

  • potorrero
    potorrero 14 дней назад

    Your facial expressions makes you look like a male version of Cameron Diaz. :D

  • charizki mulyadi
    charizki mulyadi 15 дней назад

    i call it "people observation" and i often do that... maybe that's the reason why people call me annoying and make them admitt their mistake

  • Adrian Eriksen
    Adrian Eriksen 16 дней назад

    thank you

  • Is This Rain?
    Is This Rain? 16 дней назад

    Jim Clemente (FBI profiler) said that the best way to practice your profiling is by sitting in a public space, listening to a random person's conversation (a person you do not know), and making justified conclusions on their intents and origins.

  • anne weber
    anne weber 17 дней назад

    This one was more about how one is perceived by others, rather than how to read what other people may be thinking, about you or about whatever the topic

  • manuel villarreal
    manuel villarreal 18 дней назад

    I love this video so much, you articulated something I have been wanting to convey to my wife for such a long time. THANK YOU!

  • Peyton Robinson
    Peyton Robinson 18 дней назад

    Thank god. I'm trying to learn and observe other people since I can hardly send a simple "thanks" without double-checking fifty times. These tips really helped me.

  • Asher Yin
    Asher Yin 18 дней назад

    3:03 you’re welcome

  • big nosed train
    big nosed train 19 дней назад

    You look like Martin Garrix!

  • Hizkil Cassamo
    Hizkil Cassamo 22 дня назад


  • Aragorn Arathorn
    Aragorn Arathorn 23 дня назад

    Why do I get the sense that for someone who makes videos about how to get charisma, you practically have none? You seem to be on the one hand boring and on the other twerpy.

  • Paul S.
    Paul S. 24 дня назад


  • Dan Berlin
    Dan Berlin 24 дня назад

    What kind of lights do you use to get that light and background?

  • Amber Chaba
    Amber Chaba 24 дня назад

    This was a good break down. Im good at reading people as is but i think this can further it.

  • Liv Eithing Maze
    Liv Eithing Maze 24 дня назад

    That may be the blackest shirt I think I've ever seen.

  • Mr. Strawberry
    Mr. Strawberry 24 дня назад

    I am one of the easiest people to read when a hot girl does eye contact with me I blush

  • Thomas Gannon
    Thomas Gannon 25 дней назад

    God your mouth is massive!

  • Gen Kyo
    Gen Kyo 25 дней назад

    If he has put on 40 pounds, how does he still have the same size and weight?

  • Rabie Guella
    Rabie Guella 26 дней назад

    AHAHAHAHAHAHAHAHA! Read a book brah!

  • caskyy
    caskyy 26 дней назад

    i thought read in like throwing shade oops......

  • A Mishel
    A Mishel 27 дней назад

    IMHO charisma IS inherited, like height, eye color, perfect pitch etc. But it can be improved, and you are a great teacher.

  • Isabela Sabau
    Isabela Sabau 28 дней назад

    This is so cool. I am passionate about body language and I really liked this video. It was si funny when I heard you telling about predictions because this is what i usually do.

  • This is howit's done
    This is howit's done Месяц назад

    You points are fantastic. I'd like to suggest an improvement to your speaking style. You switch mid sentence from descriptive speech to dialogue. This is distracting, and destroys thought patterns. It's hard to follow.

  • imicca
    imicca Месяц назад

    90% of what you said can work as long as you are ARTICULATE and careful with your words, pacing and intelligence of word choice.

  • Fiasel Almanea
    Fiasel Almanea Месяц назад

    I know a guy who doesn’t know anything you’re talking about but he does it well enough to know not to teach others
    That’s I think natural not gained but I think anyone can gain it through watching your videos 👌🏽👍🏼👍🏼

  • David Bowen
    David Bowen Месяц назад

    Can't take you too seriously with that Emo hair cut, given that your subject matter is charisma XD

  • Anthony Vescio
    Anthony Vescio Месяц назад

    I hate when speakers are taught to communicate more with their hands and then you can tell that they were taught to communicate more with their hands. #unnatural

  • real rap
    real rap Месяц назад


  • dallvin nilson
    dallvin nilson Месяц назад

    im 12 and every Girl in my class loves me because i make them feel good and they say im funny , i dont have so many friends though. Theyre like obsessed with me even though im not charismatic or something . I can read them clearly and sometimes i even manipulate them but not in a bad way . I just make Experiments . ;D like this comment if i should Show you a simple but powerfull technique to manipulate People especially Girls or just every human being (its harmless, it doesnt hurt anyone)
    btw i have one question : am i a Psychopath or a narcissist ?

  • Dish Laydie
    Dish Laydie Месяц назад

    I love your video topics, but is there a way to make them shorter, maybe 5 min?

  • TheShanshuprophecy
    TheShanshuprophecy Месяц назад

    Great clip but I don’t think it’s really about reading people but rather how to pay attention to general social cues - there’s a big difference - I don’t think there is one actual example or suggestion in the whole clip on reading a specific person - maybe be a little more careful with your titling? 😊

  • Ngawang Kalden
    Ngawang Kalden Месяц назад

    i found the metro man

  • arrestedshrimp
    arrestedshrimp Месяц назад

    Are there any vids on how to ask a girl out at your workplace?

  • santiago conde morales
    santiago conde morales Месяц назад

    the keyword that all this video is about is body language, read Paul Ekman and your mind will be blown

  • StrawbunnyMilk
    StrawbunnyMilk Месяц назад

    I'm autistic with social anxiety and I have a hard time interacting with people. Nothing about it comes naturally to me, so your videos are such a big help.

  • Omprove : Science for Self-Improvement

    I really think that this is one of this channel's most important videos. If you can understand or guess what someone else is feeling you can adjust your behavior. And if you can adjust your behavior you can then change what they're feeling to what you want them to feel.
    And the most important advice I can get from this video is: Try to make predictions
    That's the only way you will know if what you're understanding is right or wrong and that's how you can tune yourself. And over time your prediction will be right more and more often!

  • Meansue
    Meansue Месяц назад +3

    I feel like I’m the Asian version of you Charlie😂...I even noticed that we both have the same crooked smile to the right. I’d love to work with you or for you but don’t really know how else to reach out other than writing a comment. Hope to hear from you.

  • Ilay Stoller
    Ilay Stoller Месяц назад

    I heard that Charlie has never pinned a comment

  • IReist
    IReist Месяц назад +1

    why's his mouth so large?

  • Carlotta
    Carlotta Месяц назад

    i feel like you could talk less

  • FeelGood Within
    FeelGood Within Месяц назад

    Thankx so much

  • 95 R
    95 R Месяц назад

    Played LA noir perfectly thanks to this video

  • Will T
    Will T Месяц назад

    Why would anyone dislike this vid ??

  • James Holder jr.
    James Holder jr. Месяц назад

    Welcome to INTP Pisces

  • Zoe S
    Zoe S Месяц назад

    MORE CHARISMA! I love those 😩

  • Manoj Yadav
    Manoj Yadav Месяц назад

    rubbish talk bak bak bak bak

  • Manoj Yadav
    Manoj Yadav Месяц назад

    very bhadad

  • MizzGabrielle1987
    MizzGabrielle1987 Месяц назад

    You brought up a scenario about friends telling stories at tables, one being ignored while the other commanded everyone's attention. Did you ever find out how your friend managed to do it? This happens to me really often and it sucks.

  • Ken Z
    Ken Z 2 месяца назад

    "First step in reading other people is reading yourself."
    Me: FUCK!

  • A. Day
    A. Day 2 месяца назад

    Este eh o meu penteado favorito. :)

  • Eye Heisenberg
    Eye Heisenberg 2 месяца назад

    I think you worry too much. I got a big bonus for the end of year today, and my eyebrows went straight up. I chuckled, patted the boss on the back and said, "C'mon John, Im not worth this much" he contradicted me, gave me a compliment, and it was all good. Simple.

  • Cristian Orlando
    Cristian Orlando 2 месяца назад

    i like that this is all in one shot, i think it helps in trusting you more and to find your words not fake. Really enjoy all your videos

  • Anhad Sarang
    Anhad Sarang 2 месяца назад

    Nice buddy but, you were feeling nervous most of the times, wanna know your personality more just reply..

  • Sasha Rose
    Sasha Rose 2 месяца назад

    You have a big smile

  • d w
    d w 2 месяца назад

    Great videos, thanks for the affirmation!

  • BiggestBoi
    BiggestBoi 2 месяца назад

    I thought of the micro expression thing when I was calling this dude out for talking shit. He flashed a quick smile, quickly began frowning, “I didn’t say anything.” I thought about the micro expressions thing and punched his ass. Not literally his ass though.

  • Aradhya Chocopie
    Aradhya Chocopie 2 месяца назад

    u r very very hancy

  • malig-on jew francis
    malig-on jew francis 2 месяца назад +1

    Thank you. Looking forward for morw vids.

  • Likewise
    Likewise 2 месяца назад

    A year late, but the book "what every BODY is saying" is a really good book for this

  • Имя Ну и Фамилия
    Имя Ну и Фамилия 2 месяца назад

    You remind me Clark Kent....

  • DarthBricksEmpire
    DarthBricksEmpire 2 месяца назад

    Uhm that page is in Russian...

  • zemirline lynda
    zemirline lynda 2 месяца назад

    it's the other way for me tho . i try to read people inorder to learn more about myself.

  • Joseph B
    Joseph B 2 месяца назад

    this guy looks like a lunatic, but in a turtle head form.

  • Elaine Smiles
    Elaine Smiles 2 месяца назад

    Does his mouth freak any body else

  • Mabeli Dove
    Mabeli Dove 3 месяца назад

    the big eye contact you explained was funny 😊😄 I like that. You give great advice in a chill understandable way. Thank you ✨

  • Shakim Ashby
    Shakim Ashby 3 месяца назад

    He said 1 year later he put on 40lbs and he was the same weight and same height

  • Sven Beck
    Sven Beck 3 месяца назад +1

    He's so hot

  • abilyn 1105
    abilyn 1105 3 месяца назад

    i love this so beautifulll!!!!!!..and smart yes of course

  • MR.Pickels Mcdee
    MR.Pickels Mcdee 3 месяца назад

    Awesome ! 👍

  • Charlie Willis
    Charlie Willis 3 месяца назад

    Honestly man, you really don't come off as all that naturally confident or charismatic, am i the only one that finds his "charm" superficial?

  • shesherezade
    shesherezade 3 месяца назад

    I'd like to have a video on how to handle stress. I stress about getting stressed and end up super stressed for the slightest thing, which in the end prevents me from just getting stuff done and relax and feel that I did good work. I realize that this is only about my own mindset, but I do not know how to change it.

  • spiral down
    spiral down 3 месяца назад

    Can you make a video with the most important patterns we can identify?!

  • Cold Pride
    Cold Pride 3 месяца назад

    I was wondering where he bought his v neck T-shirt, so that I accidentally watched this video.

  • Natalie Saucedo
    Natalie Saucedo 3 месяца назад

    Im gonna go over to my friends tomorrow and be like, I know what your thinking :]

  • youngin frisky
    youngin frisky 3 месяца назад

    Hm I'm making a prediction about the eye story being a rouse. I still love the content, but just like the stories from the bible, most people infer the lesson or moral if it's wrapped into a story. (I'm not saying the bible is fake). It lets people come to the conclusion you had planned to get across on there own terms. You didn't explicitly say do this, but rather allowed them to hear your principle in practice and allow them to make their own decision. Haha am I learning master?

  • JesusChristIt’sJasonBourne
    JesusChristIt’sJasonBourne 3 месяца назад

    This dude looks like Jake Gyllenhaal.

  • mewtwopsychic98
    mewtwopsychic98 3 месяца назад

    It's pretty simple. To get someone's attention maintain constant eye contact but don't be harsh with it. Just normal simple eye contact. And change the expression of your face constantly so people don't get bored. Moving your hands helps but you'll have to study exactly what hand movements are good because people can naturally read hand movements to make opinions without ever realizing it.

  • LashyWolf
    LashyWolf 3 месяца назад

    "ANYONE" done

  • Faryal William
    Faryal William 3 месяца назад

    Sorry what was the tip again?

  • Maria Chagas
    Maria Chagas 3 месяца назад

    he's so cute

  • Super Dhanu
    Super Dhanu 3 месяца назад

    Bro can u do a video about negative minded people

  • Widdekuu91
    Widdekuu91 3 месяца назад

    Most people that I socialize with are sortof...walking boxes of lingering emotions waiting to happen.
    So I don't have to read anything to know what's up.
    I'd have a discussion about my work, with the supervisor and she'd be gritting her teeth, raising her eyebrows angrily and shouting the words.
    ('Everything is just chaos! Nothing ever goes according to plan! Our organisation sucks!')
    Whenever I then politely pointed out that what she was angry about had little to do with my work and more with the sudden breaking of the coffeemachine that morning, her lower lip would tremble and her eyes would water.
    I would then speak the last magic words; 'It's not about my work, is it? It's about everything else here?' and then she would burst into tears and genuienly spill all of her troubles, from exes to boyfriends to migraines to stress and missed tv-shows.
    After this she'd be nice for the rest of the day and then the next day it'd continue.
    I just expect anyone around me to be completely crazy and vent the anger about everything on everyone.
    And that's how I 'read' that they're just always angry.
    It's like a balloon with dirty toiletwater, that's being blown up, more and more, throughout the day.
    Better stab through the pokerfaces and have everything leak out when the balloon isn't big yet, because if you wait, it'll burst when it's big and cover everything in shit.