Mums Learn About What It Means To Be Non-Binary

  • Published on May 23, 2019
  • These mums are pushed out of their comfort zone in order to challenge their ability to accept the differences in people that Generation Z celebrate.
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Comments • 300

  • Eden Storm
    Eden Storm 5 months ago

    It’s really really nice to see them trying to educate themselves and actually try to be more excepting

  • chef marc
    chef marc 5 months ago +1

    There are 2 genders and mental illness

  • Holy Bagel
    Holy Bagel 6 months ago +2

    If u can show my a binary private part i will gladly adopt this

  • Klos19871 Klos
    Klos19871 Klos 6 months ago +5

    Peoples fantasies should never trump everyone else's reality.

  • well hey there it's me Gary

    Mum's got enough on her plate and doesn't need to be dealing with your made up mental illness

  • anish Basandrai
    anish Basandrai 6 months ago

    Where are they from???

  • Miss Vinegar Tits
    Miss Vinegar Tits 6 months ago +1

    The thing that I struggle with non-binary/agender terms is that they seem like their replacing personality trait descriptors? "tomboy" etc. Everyone has masculine/feminine traits, we jump into masculine and feminine roles daily. Yes gendered clothing is a social construct, wasn't long ago we had boys wearing dresses and men wearing high heels, trousers were considered male clothing. Transgender/gender-dysphoria is a recognised medical term that is separate from these new labels. They seem so hung up on social constructs whilst at the same conforming to them and then waiting to be offended. Maybe I just don't understand as it's something I have not experienced. At the end of the day if they are happy and not infringing on others then just let them be.

  • Nicholas Clark
    Nicholas Clark 6 months ago +13

    two genders change my mind

  • Kylee Alanna
    Kylee Alanna 6 months ago +1

    Why do these freaks always have disgusting neck beards are overweight?🤢🤮

  • Dan
    Dan 6 months ago +4

    non-binary kid here just casually scrolling through the comments trying to educate people in a friendly way... anyone else? remember most of these people are ignorant, unreasonable, and toxic! stay strong :)

    • Ciel Abella
      Ciel Abella 6 months ago

      dude, youtube comments is a cesspool. it is not worth your time.

  • MilkCap
    MilkCap 6 months ago +2

    What a weirdo

  • Gary -
    Gary - 6 months ago

    People should be told the truth. They're either male or female. The truth hurts sometimes, but that's the way the world is, and that's how it should remain.

  • Gary -
    Gary - 6 months ago +3

    Middle class people are weird. They've got their priorities wrong.

  • Gary -
    Gary - 6 months ago +3

    The world's gone mad

  • Thun 1290
    Thun 1290 6 months ago +2

    No No No do not claim you speak for everyone in your age range. The they that has a 5 o clock shadow need to get over it and use the mens.
    Do not make me deal with your issues. I have enough off my own. The ginger needs to get a grip. What a portion of the younger generation has is major insecurity and commitment issues.
    They do not have to worry about me using incorrect pronouns with they because the term "go away you are in my safe space" has not pronouns in it.

    • Dan
      Dan 6 months ago

      they're not making you 'deal' with their issues? just trying to relieve their own????

  • IHaveASecret
    IHaveASecret 6 months ago

    What's it with people and trying to normalize gender dysphoria? I don't care if your trans, if you are biologically a man/woman than I will call you accordingly. And the whole thing of the toilets, use your biological gender and don't use the disability bathrooms if your not disabled, and definitally don't use the opposite gender toilet, even if you consider yourself that gender.

  • IHaveASecret
    IHaveASecret 6 months ago +1

    I can't tell if it was a man or a woman

    • EYEoftheneedle
      EYEoftheneedle 6 months ago +2

      @Dan It's clearly a man, come on.

    • Dan
      Dan 6 months ago +1

      That's the point! they aren't either :)

  • W H
    W H 6 months ago +4

    I identify as a helicopter. I want a helicopter pad where ever I decide to go.

  • MrTrainerGuy1
    MrTrainerGuy1 6 months ago +3

    Mental Health issues and attention seekers.

  • Dead Boi666
    Dead Boi666 6 months ago

    yes man you should go to the "disabled" toilet because everything you say is bullshit and only disabled autist would say that lmfao

  • JH Gandy
    JH Gandy 6 months ago

    this is why u put your kid in therapy at age 6 if he/she wasnts to use the other sexes restroom than whats between their legs

  • lowingmazter
    lowingmazter 6 months ago +6

    Are you a robot that you define yourself as non-binary, good to know that your are not a living greature

  • Mickey Knox
    Mickey Knox 6 months ago +8

    "Non-Binary" doesn't exist and they need psychiatric medications coupled with counselling.

    • Cyax Rex
      Cyax Rex 6 months ago

      You can't say that! You'll have someone who self-identifies as police person knocking on your door!

  • C R I P P L I N G D E P R E S S I O N

    How about not celebrating delusion?
    I'm sorry that some people don't feel like they are in the body that they want, but that's reality, reality is harsh, I know that "gender identity" is how some people cope with childhood trauma or simply need of individuality, but lying to yourselves and to everyone won't make that made up identity true.
    Sex is biological, whether you want it or not, you were born with a certain sex, being masculine or feminine is a consequence of sex, but that doesn't mean it's perfect or that it is not affected by other things.
    Here's a scoop: You can be a man and be feminine, you can be a girl and be masculine, none of that will change the sexual characteristic that is in every single cell of your body.
    There are 2 sexes, and there are 2 genders, those 2 terms are interchangeable, don't mistake gender and gender roles, there are only 2 genders and that's just how things are.
    You cannot "transition" from a gender to another, just like you could not physically change the genetic information in every one of your cells and grow organs of the other sex to replace yours, gender dysphoria is a mental illness, it doesn't mean they should be treated with decency, it just means that the problem isn't that they are in the wrong body, but that their brains would identify (or was influenced to identify) with the wrong sex, the cure is not surgery or HRT to "change sexes" but to fix the problem in the brain and make them accept their bodies as they are.
    You can not act like the gender role associated with your biological sex, but you don't need to deny the scientific reality to do so, no you cannot be non-binary because sex is binary, in the only few cases that people are intersex (which is a genetic condition, not an identity) we can most of the time still determine that they are closer to one sex than the other. In other cases, well they can decide, but why would that matter to you, since you consider genders to be equal?
    Also, don't make up gender identities to explain how you feel, this has nothing to do with gender, it's just emotions, interests and feelings, you don't have to create some new expression based on gender to explain your personality.

    • Roro 06
      Roro 06 5 months ago

      C R I P P L I N G D E P R E S S I O N but with credits

    • Roro 06
      Roro 06 5 months ago

      C R I P P L I N G D E P R E S S I O N how can i copy and paste this?

  • Alistair
    Alistair 6 months ago

    what an utter load of sh**e

  • Zen-RPG
    Zen-RPG 6 months ago +2

    I'm a Poor man with no physic that identify as a Rich men looking like an absolute stud...

    Does that works?...

  • 908jb
    908jb 6 months ago +1

    if Mr. Non-binary enters a female bathroom when my daughter is in there, I'm going in too!

  • Jonas Bezzubovas
    Jonas Bezzubovas 6 months ago +1

    The only thing that kept me watching this was the milf with the only nice brommie accent if there ever was one

  • Chris Holbrook
    Chris Holbrook 6 months ago

    This is one of the ugliest women I’ve ever seen.

  • Please Stop
    Please Stop 6 months ago +1

    I mean he does have a disability so he should have his own key to use the disabled bathroom. Maybe a helmet just to help him go.

  • super_sad
    super_sad 6 months ago +27

    Ok but don't use the disabled toilets, I don't care what you identify as, it's not important, if you're not disabled you do not have the right to use disabled toilets.

    • super_sad
      super_sad 4 months ago

      Laura Kirwan use the toilet you pass as then?

    • Laura Kirwan
      Laura Kirwan 4 months ago

      @super_sad i believe sometimes trans ppl are encouraged to use the disabled loo because they are not safe.

    • super_sad
      super_sad 6 months ago +1

      Rockabyebecca 1) people should be allowed to use whatever pronouns they feel comfortable using.
      2) the only thing I could find about transgender and disabled toilets was this; I realise not all disabilities are visible, I speak as someone with 2 invisible disabilities, one of which means sometimes I use a cane, sometimes I use crutches and I know I'm going to be a wheelchair before 30, transgender is not a disability, therefore you should not use the disabled toilets in case someone who is actually disabled needs to use the toilet. Use the bathroom you feel safest in whether it be male or female.

  • Gordon Freeman
    Gordon Freeman 6 months ago +2

    Why's this low-T dude dressed like an old lady and talking nonsense about human anatomy?

  • bomberzak
    bomberzak 6 months ago +27

    And it's because of this kinda nonsense I no longer watch the BBC. Save a few ££'s too. You're doing it to yourselves you are, you and no one else.

    • Tig
      Tig 6 months ago +2

      They should scrap BBC Three. A shame because when it was a TV channel it produced some amazing shows and comedies. Nowadays its lefty propaganda. Why do the tax payers pay for an online service?!

    • Earl Harewood
      Earl Harewood 6 months ago +2

      ignorance is bliss i suppose.

  • Tanya M
    Tanya M 6 months ago +4

    Harjit is ADORABLE

  • #sa8die
    #sa8die 6 months ago +1

    awesome !!!! 🌈 🌈 🌈 🌈 taste the rainbow 🍄🍄🍄

  • Tony Mann
    Tony Mann 6 months ago +4

    I demand my family prefix my name with "Big-Rig". They just don't fricken understand my generation.

  • Jon Bushell
    Jon Bushell 6 months ago +13

    James Corden in drag.

  • sarah
    sarah 6 months ago +10

    I personally respect people who identify as non-binary. Regarding the toilet situation, I see that unisex restrooms might sound like a good idea. My uni actually gave it a try but after a week or so some creepy dudes started installing cameras and shit. Things like this happen and make it very complicated to implement such things in real life. I mean it's just a restroom, you pee/poor and leave. So maybe it's just easiest to just accept how it is and move on...

  • Bee Rat
    Bee Rat 6 months ago +6

    They never talk about dysphoria, which is the most important part about being non binary. when people talk about non binary they never talk about dysphoria so many people think they are attention seeking and that they dint actually have a real mental condition that causes them to feel that way

    • Dan
      Dan 6 months ago

      @dragolax90210 regarding your last point - it has actually always been around, just in the west it was opressed. Research the third gender in india, or two-spirit in native americans :)

    • Bee Rat
      Bee Rat 6 months ago

      @dragolax90210 its also important that we emphasize that its not a choice either. It is a mental condition that people have and they should be respected. Its out of their control. They don't do this for the fun of it.

    • dragolax90210
      dragolax90210 6 months ago +1

      I think the reason dysphoria often isn't talked about is because that paints it as a disorder (it is) which implies that there is something that needs to be corrected. If you ever watch the people who think they are animals and listen to some of their interviews they behave just like transgenders but nobody rushes to defend that because it's more clear to people to don't pay much attention to this stuff that those people are out of their minds and need psychological help. But treating something as a disorder carries negative connotations so above all else the media has to keep it from being framed that way or they lose control of the narrative. I do however agree with some of these comments that some of these comments that some of these people are just looking for attention given how much more prevalent it's becoming. I don't buy the whole "oh its always been there, its just that now society is acknowledging it" argument

  • notamericano
    notamericano 6 months ago +3

    She's giving it ago and everyone can be happy with that

  • A M.
    A M. 6 months ago +4

    This is so ageist. Your mums have experienced more life than you, so show them some respect. They know what a man and a woman is. They they gave birth to you kiddies. Geez.

  • A M.
    A M. 6 months ago

    They should ask their mums where they came from. I think their mums are humoring them to be polite.

  • Well, hellø there, felløw human!

    Non-binary people are either confused trans or cis people, or they want to be 'quirky' and that's the honest truth.

  • Khem Hue
    Khem Hue 6 months ago

    Non binary 🙃...OK. Question what has been put forward here 0 & 1 (binary) is a bigger mystery mankind’s mind could never unravel

  • Jade
    Jade 6 months ago +5

    My question is: if so many people in the comments believe in only two genders, why did y'all click on the video?? I'm confused.

    • Zen-RPG
      Zen-RPG 6 months ago +1

      Because of the Milf, the rest is just garbage

    • Arinzi Owoo
      Arinzi Owoo 6 months ago +1

      @Jade No don't worry about it. You were right to some extent that people do come here to be arrogant, to argue or to stay ignorant from both sides of the story but people like yourself who are willing to listen and engage is what I live for. Not to change your mind (though that would be nice) but to give you a little something to consider and to make all voices heard.
      In the end I am glad to have exchanged with you and apology accepted.😄

    • Jade
      Jade 6 months ago +1

      @Lumibear true

    • Jade
      Jade 6 months ago

      @Arinzi Owoo you know what? You're right. I understand that side of things, honestly. I just get really pissed off at people who simply don't want to listen to the other side of things. Sorry for being rude about that. 🙌🏾

    • Lumibear
      Lumibear 6 months ago

      Because just cuz somebody doesn’t like a particular LGBTQ movement and what they think doesn’t necessarily make them somebody who doesn’t believe in any LGBTQ people or alternate gender expression?

  • LoradHD
    LoradHD 6 months ago +7

    There are only two Genders

  • Lauren Alexander
    Lauren Alexander 6 months ago +42

    I'm sorry but Harjit does not look 46 *at all*
    She looks 26 ,'-)
    Wow! What's her skincare routine?!

    • Lauren Alexander
      Lauren Alexander 6 months ago

      @armando perez Oh... ,':-)

    • armando perez
      armando perez 6 months ago +1

      I think she's looking right for her age keeping in mind she's south Asian, white and east Asian woman age a lot faster after their mid 30's

  • Mike Ward
    Mike Ward 6 months ago

    Every gender has it's roles in the society, when you start messing that all up, it messes everything else up in life. Its a messy way to get attention and you can't really change your body.

  • Claudia Arevalo
    Claudia Arevalo 6 months ago +1

    I think more parents should watch this and try to understand where our youth is you don't have to like it but you should respect each other enough to try and understand each other

  • Andi Pandi
    Andi Pandi 6 months ago +8

    the crazy irony here is this "non-binary" person is so fecking trapped in binary thinking (in the most basic and fundamental meaning of those words)..
    so determined to NOT be a particular thing..

  • Robot Socks
    Robot Socks 6 months ago +1

    I really appreciate this 💚💚

  • deadmunk5545
    deadmunk5545 6 months ago +4

    It is that easy, there are only he or she

    • Jade
      Jade 6 months ago +3

      And they* , crazy right?

  • Gillian Gill
    Gillian Gill 6 months ago +2

    First world problems... 😒

  • kath oakes
    kath oakes 6 months ago +3

    I'm a 65 yo woman. I'm heterosexual. I believe there should be gender free toilets everywhere. After all that's what we have in our homes.

    • A M.
      A M. 6 months ago

      Do complete strangers come into your home and use your bathroom? I do agree that we should have unisex bathrooms, alongside male and female ones. If you're confused about your sex you can use the unisex facilities.

  • acali sweetheart
    acali sweetheart 6 months ago +9

    Good on them at least trying to get educated

  • Gozewijn Goossens
    Gozewijn Goossens 6 months ago +11

    The sweater is strong with this one.

  • FF Reflex
    FF Reflex 6 months ago +22

    Their struggle against reality is their problem alone.

  • Cute Pumpkin
    Cute Pumpkin 6 months ago +88

    She’s 46?? She looks amazing

    • Tim Sharpe
      Tim Sharpe 3 months ago

      Right she does !!

    • Cute Pumpkin
      Cute Pumpkin 6 months ago +1

      What are you people talking about? I’m referring to Harjit, Kiran’s mom.

    • Joe Godwin
      Joe Godwin 6 months ago

      cant say she

    • 908jb
      908jb 6 months ago

      "they" look amazing?

    • Panda boy
      Panda boy 6 months ago

      Cute Pumpkin that’s a dude

  • elijah spadez
    elijah spadez 6 months ago +28

    Sick generation

    • Jade
      Jade 6 months ago +2

      @Comrade Gulag of OurTube Wow you're definitely something. Having less kids has nothing to do with Darwinism or natural selection. Also, they have high suicide rates because people constantly misgender and shame them, therefore driving them to harm themselves. And there are many non-binary people not in the current generation, they are simply more accepting. Nothing wrong with that.

    • R RQ
      R RQ 6 months ago +6

      @Comrade Gulag of OurTube LOLOL you know that young people in general are far more liberal than old people, right? Old people will die off eventually so the ones saying "bye felicia" are the youth of today lmao

    • Comrade Gulag of OurTube
      Comrade Gulag of OurTube 6 months ago +8

      @R RQ No. These people have high suicide rates and people who share the same views (The left) have less kids. Bye, Felecia. Thank you Darwinism

    • R RQ
      R RQ 6 months ago +6

      Get used to it sweetie

  • David Kennedy
    David Kennedy 6 months ago +2

    Harjit is a proper looker, surely you've got her age wrong too??? She cant really be 46, she looks at least 10 years or so younger than that!!! If she really is 46 then she must have nigh on perfect genes!!! I've met women in their twenties that look older than her!!!

    • David Kennedy
      David Kennedy 6 months ago +1

      @Comrade Gulag of OurTube I thought she looked reasonably natural and fresh faced. Theres no denying that she is a beautiful lady.

    • Comrade Gulag of OurTube
      Comrade Gulag of OurTube 6 months ago +1

      Too much drugs or alcohol ages you fast. She could also look like crap under all that makeup

    • R RQ
      R RQ 6 months ago +1

      Yeah people are aging like crazy now