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  • Published on Feb 17, 2019
  • Everybody feels lonely sometimes. But only few of us are aware how important this feeling was for our ancestors - and that our modern world can turn it into something that really hurts us. Why do we feel this way and what can we do about it?
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    'Emotional First Aid' by Guy Winch
    www.amazon.com/Emotional-First-Aid-Rejection-Everyday/dp/0142181072/
    'Loneliness' by John Cacioppo & William Patrick
    www.amazon.com/Loneliness-Human-Nature-Social-Connection/dp/0393335283/
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  • Kurzgesagt – In a Nutshell
    Kurzgesagt – In a Nutshell  3 months ago +9115

    We designed a poster on this topic as well. You can find it here: standard.tv/collections/in-a-nutshell/products/in-a-nutshell-loneliness-poster

    • TomeOfBattle
      TomeOfBattle 9 days ago

      The world is cruel, people are nothing special and the universe is indifferent. I don't care for people. I can respect the better traits of the species, or the achievements of societies and individual geniuses, but that's it. The only thing that matters is one's struggle to overcome your limitations and to spite a hostile world by trying to live the best life that you can. Others don't like me, so I don't like them back.

    • Scooters Videos
      Scooters Videos 18 days ago

      Love your videos.

    • Scooters Videos
      Scooters Videos 18 days ago

      They don't seem lonely at all. They both have a friend there reading book with them. :D

    • Adx.m
      Adx.m 25 days ago

      300th reply

    • Coolwoobyër
      Coolwoobyër 28 days ago

      Animation_moment: $12,99

  • nothing but the funk

    i love ur channel but plz do more videos about space do more videos about the voyager or other things that we sent to space

  • Ahmed Ali
    Ahmed Ali Day ago

    I feel a lone , like a buffalo shit in the savanas

  • ZungleIF
    ZungleIF Day ago

    I want to kill myself how to cope with this

    • Tom 441
      Tom 441 Day ago

      ZungleIF that’d be a real shame and such a waste.
      Why not get pregnant instead,
      I’m mean professional help 🤭

  • seductivespy
    seductivespy Day ago

    I prefer to be alone but I never feel “ lonely”. Is there something wrong with me or am I just an introvert?

  • Taikamuna
    Taikamuna Day ago +1

    *_The expert_*

  • NikoAdiAdinolfi
    NikoAdiAdinolfi Day ago

    A masochist like me loves the pain that comes from being alone

  • i mean
    i mean Day ago

    some people may feel lonely longer than others.
    wait-

  • Geert Matthys
    Geert Matthys Day ago

    In Europe loneliness is real easy, you claim disability because depression and get to chill on welfare for 90 years. I spend days reading, exercising, watching movies or shows and playing videogames.

    • Loik Steininger
      Loik Steininger Day ago

      Geert Matthys Do you live in Europe? That is a very dishonest caricature of how mental illness is seen and treated in Europe. Not to mention a fundamental lack of understanding of what depression is. Depression must be clinically diagnosed, most people use the term “depression” as a synonym of “sad”, which is incorrect.
      There is no point in “claiming depression” since it requires medical professionals to diagnose it. And most countries do not offer welfare for 90 years, where the hell did you get that?? You have no sources and very little understanding of the issue I’m afraid.

  • Mini Mixers
    Mini Mixers Day ago

    I feel the only one who wants to be alone by choice

  • Marius x
    Marius x Day ago

    This video takes a very scientific approach... how can 6.6k people dislike it? It's disturbing.

  • Lukeland
    Lukeland Day ago

    *"COME TO THE LAND OF THE LOST AND LONELY! :)"*

  • zeth zety
    zeth zety Day ago

    Amazing video, many things hit me hard. Never expected to relate to so many things without knowing i was causing them. I send a very special hug to anyone who reads this!

  • The travel of time

    No one wants to talk on the phone anymore. Everyone just wants to text.

  • Anon
    Anon Day ago

    I have 1 friend. I’m 24. It’s ok. Don’t focus on the bad.

  • Spellbound Angel
    Spellbound Angel 2 days ago

    Yes

  • Richie Hyacinth
    Richie Hyacinth 2 days ago

    Can't even prove one's loneliness if poeple wouldn't approach them from the get-go.

  • Springlock Gamer
    Springlock Gamer 2 days ago +2

    This was recommended for me.
    This makes too much sense...

  • Cursed Dolphin 78
    Cursed Dolphin 78 2 days ago +1

    Ok I know no one cares but I feel it’s important so ima say it anyway. So not so long ago I had a crush who I knew I had no chance with but I kept trying anyway and she kept leaving me on read so I started to doubt myself and thought I wasn’t good enough for anything and I felt really lonely and sad but not long ago let’s say about afew months ago I met a girl through a friend and we started talking a lot(cringe alert) and now I think there’s something between us and I don’t know where it’s gunna go but anyway she makes me feel like I’m not worthless and like I’m important so my point is never say your not good enough or ugly or worthless because your not it’s only the people your involved with who make you who you are so if you feel like that then you should try talking to others for a change because this girl has near enough changed who I am
    Have a good day and everyone is special in there own was and your all beautiful and amazing :)

  • Fabián López
    Fabián López 2 days ago

    :)

  • Ethan
    Ethan 2 days ago

    I'm fucked

  • Eric F
    Eric F 2 days ago

    “OMG it’s me” - the comments section

  • engrtun
    engrtun 2 days ago

    I can’t relate 🤷🏻‍♂️

  • Ranga
    Ranga 2 days ago

    I didn't expect to relate to so many of these things...i related to everything. I always avoid social interactions and i hate it if i have to go somewhere new where i have to meet a lot of new people or where there is a lot of people. I remember this one time where i had to attend a tour at a university on a school day where the students would be there and where i didn't know any of the others on the tour. I remember how i cried the day before i had to go because i felt so anxious and scared since i felt like i shouldn't be there. I'm starting 10th grade after summer vacation and i'm already really scared about making new friends. I've been doing my own thing for the last couple of years and i still do, but i have met people that has been very negative towards my choice of colorful clothing and interests. I don't want to open up to people anymore. It's really scary to do that when you've been around toxic people for the majority of your life that has treated you like you don't matter and that everything you're interested in and like is stupid or just plain weird. People have nagged on the fact that I don't drink, and i just don't feel like meeting new people anymore since the ones i've met so far has given me weird looks or just been really rude when it comes to my interests and stuff. I'm really afraid of not making any friends at all in 10th grade since i know how quiet i'll be and that i won't be open about a lot of things at first. Even if i do meet people that has the same interests as me i'm scared that they'll not like me.

  • НИКИТА
    НИКИТА 2 days ago

    Surprisingly, I can relate to every thesis of this speech. I think I even understand what dropped me in this state. But I'm fine down here, don't worry (oh fuck, I can't escape this, please help).

  • Lilei Ma
    Lilei Ma 2 days ago

    Summing it up: loneliness is a symptom that makes the victim want something whilst avoiding it.

  • ZungleIF
    ZungleIF 2 days ago

    I think someone is spying on me. What the video says is literally me.

  • Nuno Moto
    Nuno Moto 2 days ago +1

    this only makes me feel more lonely than I already am

  • zene
    zene 2 days ago +1

    oof relatable

  • Marilynd-Elainette Aghten

    I just hate people humans disgust me

  • MaxRuffles321
    MaxRuffles321 2 days ago

    When RUclip recommends a video that you can relate to
    [anxiety noise]

  • bagelangel
    bagelangel 2 days ago

    I recently went to a different school and my best friend and I are now separated. We don’t hang out as much anymore and I kinda hate it ;-; plus, she got a s/o and has tons of other people she gets along with and I sit by my locker to have lunch and the kids I hang out with arent really good people. So yay woohoo wonderful 🤠✨✨

  • Cellardoor
    Cellardoor 2 days ago

    I ran away from all of my ex friends, they were sinking me down with all of their bullshit, i felt so disgusted and i've decided to stay alone for a while, just to focus on myself and my capacities. I started a very heavy training at the gym, I've been a better son, using my spare time to help my parents, I started writing again (which was one of the things that I was lefting behind).
    And I tell you one thing, loneliness is like a cure for cancer, it destroys you socially, but if you survive, minding your stuff, giving yourself attention and dedition, you will be stronger and better then anyone else. Don't listen to your friend's bullshit and critics, fuck'em. Start to think about yourself and go smack some pussy.

  • Jack Hwang
    Jack Hwang 2 days ago

    I have been lonely my whole life

  • TheEdition100
    TheEdition100 2 days ago

    Sinking

  • Alex Sharp
    Alex Sharp 2 days ago

    was not expecting to cry at a kurzgesagt video tonight. who am i kidding though, the crying is a regularity these days. hopes and respect out to everyone else out there dealing with lonelyness on the daily.

  • Gabriel Ocasio
    Gabriel Ocasio 2 days ago

    Honestly. Thank you for this video. Helped me put things into perspective.

  • Jiya Patel
    Jiya Patel 2 days ago

    This video helped

  • Lelani Brown
    Lelani Brown 2 days ago

    This video is to real ( .'_'.)

  • kim k
    kim k 2 days ago

    Ahh yes, my memoir.

  • Lano M
    Lano M 2 days ago

    This was very necessary for me. I often feel like I have a shield around me when it comes to socializing with others but now I’m paying more attention to it.

  • Shooketh
    Shooketh 3 days ago

    this man kinda sound like the sub reddit guy

  • AE AE FILMS
    AE AE FILMS 3 days ago

    Phhhhh I’m not lonely.........

  • Christopher Byun
    Christopher Byun 3 days ago

    thank you for this informative video

  • :D
    :D 3 days ago +1

    Anyone ever feel bad about themselves rn

  • cipher
    cipher 3 days ago

    thats what killed avicii so to say...

  • Hussein omar
    Hussein omar 3 days ago +1

    YOU
    ARE
    NOT
    GONNA
    BELIEVE
    WHO IS
    THE MOST
    BEAUTIFUL PERSON IN THE WORLD.
    *Read the first 3 words* 😂

  • Bartek XD
    Bartek XD 3 days ago

    relatable.

  • Kn3sL
    Kn3sL 3 days ago

    I'm here because a few weeks ago, one friend that I loved a lot dumped me after 4 years and for people she knows only this year. Yeah it sucks

  • Hulvik
    Hulvik 3 days ago +2

    Personally i don't feel the need to have social interactions, i prefer being lonely, plus i don't need problems in my life, because let's be honest it's what defines social life.
    Relationships are based on hypocrisy.

    • Lano M
      Lano M 2 days ago +1

      I agree but the fact is that we need social interactions. I say that for myself because I also love to be alone and I prefer not to stay around people for as much as possible just because I feel good that way but I’m starting to realize that it makes me very awkward when it comes to socialize when I really have to do so. I feel bad when I have to be with people because I feel that I’m not acting naturally and most of the times I even mess up sciences like if I almost forgot how to speak properly at all. I think the best thing we can do is trying to find a balance, enjoying our company (that is something really special these days) but also learn how to deal with other people and pay attention to things that are not helping in the process of social interactions.

  • Jason Wang
    Jason Wang 3 days ago

    I can’t believe that this video took over a year to make. I love all this!

  • Name's OMEGA
    Name's OMEGA 3 days ago

    Loneliness got me into trying LSD

  • Dead Morose
    Dead Morose 3 days ago

    Loneliness is surely bad but it much better than shitty-toxic company

  • Baka World
    Baka World 3 days ago

    Hey

  • jherico viovicente
    jherico viovicente 3 days ago

    😞

  • Yang's Arm
    Yang's Arm 3 days ago

    "Decline when friends call"
    But I'm lonely. I have no friends.

  • Yang's Arm
    Yang's Arm 3 days ago +1

    I'm lonely when chicken nuggets leave me.

  • ViciousKoala 216
    ViciousKoala 216 3 days ago

    All Right!! I'll stop avoiding the Gym and ask My Friend out on a date

  • taylor chudler
    taylor chudler 3 days ago +1

    my life is a joke

  • taylor chudler
    taylor chudler 3 days ago

    :'(

  • Thomas Potts
    Thomas Potts 3 days ago

    I'm not lonely! I just prefer to be alone! Less bullshit!

  • Osc1llate W1ldly
    Osc1llate W1ldly 3 days ago

    "if you are lonely when you are alone, you are in bad company" Jean-Paul Sartre

  • Weeb Wizard
    Weeb Wizard 3 days ago

    "Mental state that prevents connections even if you yearn for them"
    I think I'm at this stage. This video was one scary ass wake up call.

  • principal things on da pic

    im loneliness

  • Its_Skydive7
    Its_Skydive7 3 days ago +1

    Yeah I’m pretty lonely

  • Bryce Ashcom
    Bryce Ashcom 3 days ago

    anyone watching this who is depressed/sad or you doubt yourself and look down upon your self then forget about everything for a few seconds and think about what you need ,all those friends you don’t have ,do you need them anyway ,nah. ai stay strong

  • Indie Fury
    Indie Fury 3 days ago +1

    Therapist will only put you on pills screwing up your libido maybe permanently or tell you to join a club. What a bunch of clowns.

  • Emmanuel R.
    Emmanuel R. 3 days ago

    saying you're lonely only makes you even more lonelier leading lonely vibes, making your self lonely even though you are not lonely.

  • Ryan NikeShoes
    Ryan NikeShoes 3 days ago

    Watching this because I'm in the Navy and I literally have nothing else better to do.. *update - 10 minutes later still buffering and waiting for it to load x)

  • Ajinkya Mahajan
    Ajinkya Mahajan 3 days ago

    Thanks a lot for sharing a great content it a total true context 👌👌✨❤😇

  • Luka
    Luka 4 days ago

    As an immigrant of 1.5 years so far it does feel lonely sometimes even if you have a lot of new friends and are extroverted. Or even if you stay in touch with a lot of old friends. I see great potential in VR for helping with loneliness with it we're approaching similar experiences as to being physically in the vicinity of people + we have a vast array of people to choose from with whom we want to socialize on different levels. And I can see it to be way easier for people to be vulnerable and comfortable.

    Sadly I don't own one and never tried using it for the sake of social interaction so I can't tell for sure but if you check youtube videos (mainly VRchat) I think you will have similar opinion.
    Additionally if anyone owns a VR please share your experience with it.

  • foxlias_ griffin
    foxlias_ griffin 4 days ago +1

    Im a lonely bean

  • Pedro Lanna
    Pedro Lanna 4 days ago

    "D&D Event" . . . Cheap Shot.

  • Aswal play
    Aswal play 4 days ago

    Lone

  • serbian meme man
    serbian meme man 4 days ago +1

    Lest be honest wehen you finde a real true friend that does dump shit and Is pretty funny you only need one.

  • David Shevchenko
    David Shevchenko 4 days ago +2

    am i the only one who actually went to description, and checked out their soundcloud for music? AMAZING music choice @Kurzgesagt!!!

  • Nameless Legend
    Nameless Legend 4 days ago

    The moment I understood the weakness of my flesh... It disgusted me. I crave for the strength and certainty of steel. I aspire to the purity of the blessed machine. We all cling to our flesh as if it will not decay and fail us. One day the crude biomass that we call a "temple" WILL wither and you will pay the machine to save you. But they are already saved, for the machine is immortal.

  • paige sy
    paige sy 4 days ago

    OMG😭😭😭 I can relate so much! I've always made 'being an introvert' as an excuse for my behavior.. But I'm actually just LONELY 😭

  • Od3stroyer
    Od3stroyer 4 days ago +1

    I'm never lonely.

  • KoNeX
    KoNeX 4 days ago

    Feels bad when i am in a differendt class than my friends are xD

  • Sandra Skender
    Sandra Skender 4 days ago +1

    This video took like a year and the half

  • Myuhyuh Hyuhyuh
    Myuhyuh Hyuhyuh 4 days ago

    Shit is there something in this goddamned universe not threatening to kill me.

  • MotardMotorist
    MotardMotorist 4 days ago +4

    Excuse me but I love being alone

  • Fnord Fnordington
    Fnord Fnordington 4 days ago +2

    "loneliness is twice as deadly as obesity..and as deadly as smoking"...So why hasnt government banned loneliness yet? Theyd at least tried banning everything else.

  • Reaper stalker
    Reaper stalker 4 days ago

    last time I do open to those people
    it fucking hurt
    they don't even give a fuck about how I feel. they being totally asshole

  • Botyal Totertutal
    Botyal Totertutal 4 days ago +1

    Thanks now I understand why my friend is so depressed.

  • Topminator
    Topminator 4 days ago +1

    It's nice to be alone, it's not to be lonely... Try getting a cat!

  • Ayomipe Bamikole
    Ayomipe Bamikole 4 days ago

    Me.....

  • AI The Cat
    AI The Cat 4 days ago

    Something relevant: A video on misanthropy would be great.

  • shapiroepic 9
    shapiroepic 9 4 days ago

    9:20 fuck you for litteraly describing me

  • God Speed 2
    God Speed 2 4 days ago

    I have depression. This helped me

  • Mondane_CH.
    Mondane_CH. 4 days ago

    The worst pain ever

  • The Amazing Goldfish
    The Amazing Goldfish 4 days ago +1

    I have no friends and haven't been on an date in over 10 years.

  • DutchDuke
    DutchDuke 4 days ago +3

    This kinda feels like Introvert vs extrovert?

  • Enchanted_Hydrated Lit

    Why know what’s lonely?

    This comment

  • Andres Fernando Ghinaglia Delgado

    You are an amazing channel...

  • Marx
    Marx 5 days ago +1

    Me: dies of lonelyness
    Mom: video games

  • Smoove J
    Smoove J 5 days ago

    “And if the world refused to square with his version of reality then it was necessarily an uncaring world, a sour and sickening world, a penal colony, and he was doomed to be violently lonely in it. He bowed his head at the thought of how much strength a man would need to survive an entire life so lonely.”
    Franzen really understood loneliness. I think about this quote all the time.

  • Wolffzy T
    Wolffzy T 5 days ago +1

    no need to attack me so personally :(

  • Myles Fe
    Myles Fe 5 days ago

    Kurzgesagt bro why you calling me out