[EP60] INFJs Are Not Flirting When They Stare Deep Into Your Eyes

  • Published on Nov 12, 2017
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    INFJs are all about learning about the human beings around them as quickly as possible, to see where they stand. So they stare intensely into your eyes, to learn about you. But weirdly enough, everyone starts believing that INFJs are major flirts. Which is not true. Mostly.
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Comments • 166

  • Boom Shikha
    Boom Shikha  Year ago +3

    Thank you so much to everyone who has chosen to support my video mission on Patreon.com/boomshikha! If you want to learn more about how to get involved, check out my Patreon page! ❤😍❤

    • Shankaranarayanan Gopalan
      Shankaranarayanan Gopalan 5 months ago

      Very true I have had a lot of friends telling me that and mistaking my star for being flirtatious. To top that up all my teachers at coaching classes have told me the same in the past. I, in the past, found it very odd because I was just observing, but it was mistaken otherwise :)

  • Michael McLaughlin
    Michael McLaughlin 6 days ago +1

    I disagree I believe you were flirting because the entire video you were looking at me LOL

  • Anonymous Anonymous
    Anonymous Anonymous 2 months ago +2

    I've always been told that if I'm smiling nicely they can see anger or hate in my eyes that I can't hide even though I'm seeming friendly

    • Boom Shikha
      Boom Shikha  2 months ago

      Hahahhaha! Yes, we have a hard time hiding our true emotions.

  • Melanie.L
    Melanie.L 2 months ago +1

    So true again..............;;yes we look into your eyes but it's normal for us/eyes are the windows to the soul!!! and yes we do not like petty talk/ but the stare it's not flirting!!

  • Cheryl Becker
    Cheryl Becker 2 months ago +1

    Sometimes I like to poke prickly people just to see how they will take it and if they take it in a way that makes them mad,it kind of amuses me,is that evil😈

    • Boom Shikha
      Boom Shikha  2 months ago

      Hahahaha! I do that too. 🌻🌻🌻🌻

    GIRLS LOVE L3EK 3 months ago +1

    Hey I got a question. I’m an INFJ and I usually plan out exactly how I’m going to do something before I do it. I want to know do write down what you want to talk about and then make multiple videos a day and then schedule the post accordingly?

    • Boom Shikha
      Boom Shikha  3 months ago

      I usually meditate every morning, and then I don't take notes or anything, but speak about something I care about from the heart, I do maybe one or two videos every morning. That's how it goes. ❤🌻🌻❤

  • B G
    B G 4 months ago +1

    OMG treating interactions as an experiment is so true, trying to understand people.

  • Kar3n
    Kar3n 4 months ago +1

    The why are u crying part so true. A friend will be 😭😭😭😭😭am so selfish.
    And I'm like😕🙂so why don't u stop being selfish?🙂

  • Kar3n
    Kar3n 4 months ago +1

    I rearly flirt, ever. I just rearly feel attracted to a guy. Is not about their looks, is about chemistry. I don't experience chemistry or sexual attraction with must guys. Out of every 50 guys I meet maybe I'll like 1. And then is just a matter of wating to find the next 1/50. And so on. A am not a flirty girl. But if I do flirt he will know. I can be very straight forward to let him know I like him. I don't feel sorry for rejecting player I could put a hand in their face and say, 🤚save it.

    • Boom Shikha
      Boom Shikha  4 months ago

      Hahahaa!!! You are awesome. 😇😇😇

  • Lisa Ward
    Lisa Ward 5 months ago +1

    For real thank you!!!

    • Boom Shikha
      Boom Shikha  5 months ago

      Thank you for watching!! 😇😇😇😇

  • Ana Ayana
    Ana Ayana 7 months ago +2

    We can read people like a book.......

  • Arthur
    Arthur 7 months ago +1

    In other words... you like messing with people?
    At least here I can stare into your eyes without being creepy.
    I constantly say that “I don’t understand why people do the things that they do. People are totally confusing.
    Staring into your sssooouuulll

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    live streaming 7 months ago +1

    do you have a video about relation between infj and intp

    • Boom Shikha
      Boom Shikha  7 months ago

      No, I don't. But I will add this to my list. :)

  • M Bailey
    M Bailey 8 months ago +2

    Saw the title and had to respond. Tired of ppl taking my stare for flirting. Maybe that's why I walk around with my poker face. Have to see the eyes... I ask ppl to remove sun glasses sometimes as I need to look into your "soul" eyes.

  • bartakin
    bartakin 9 months ago +2

    Looking someone in the eye is respect...love and flirting no ..INFJ are respectful and honest highly intuitive and guided..We are definitely reading you and hear what you aren't saying))

    • Boom Shikha
      Boom Shikha  9 months ago

      Yes, we are definitely reading you!!

  • Scott McIntosh
    Scott McIntosh 9 months ago +5

    After awhile, I end up looking through them as if they weren't really there 👀
    It starts to make them a bit disconcerted, which suits me just fine. 😈

    • Melanie.L
      Melanie.L 2 months ago

      yes i have done that /after awhile looking trough them as you say............;i can relate so much to that!! and after not even being in the room anymore...............;that happens when i am bored!! i am on the beach or in a forest

    • Boom Shikha
      Boom Shikha  9 months ago

      Yeah, I do the same!!

  • MirimeIsiliel
    MirimeIsiliel 9 months ago +1

    Yep, everything you said is true about me. Anyway, I'm trying to be careful with my stare.)) When I understand that the person I'm talking to takes it for something I don't mean, I start loosing my interest in the conversation. It can make things go awkward.)

  • Vimi Maliakel
    Vimi Maliakel 9 months ago +1

    Yes True...

  • Charles Green
    Charles Green 10 months ago +1

    Too funny, I've been called a flirt for the same reason. But it's fun to see how people react if you do or say something. Oh, by the way.... don't forget to feed the humans. 😅

  • Elijah Thompson
    Elijah Thompson Year ago +2

    (Tries to speak like Count Max; look up Scary Godmother to know what I'm talking about 🤣)
    Look deep into my eyes~
    (Deep scary yet ambient voice comes out of nowhere)
    Yes, while I seek deep within you and your soul...mwahahaha...my precious!
    (Eyes get too intense for the other individual)
    Bad eye, *smacks the poor eye*, Bad eye!!...Now apologize! *Ahem* 😓 , so sorry about that. It needs to be fixed; need to get some AAA batteries and diagnostics run on this eye. That's nothing RadioShack can fix.
    😂😆, Hahahaha
    I just had to 😆!

  • Manny Pabon
    Manny Pabon Year ago +1

    I as a 31 year old infj totally get this all the time... even the sales clerk... but I also will then push the envelope to see how far it goes

  • Joseph Quinton
    Joseph Quinton Year ago +3

    Lmao.Are you flirting with me?No I'm just weird.

  • Elove Xx
    Elove Xx Year ago +1

    I’ve been watching a lot of your videos and we are literally the same person😂go INFJs

  • Luna Chick
    Luna Chick Year ago +1

    Interesting topic. There was a co-worker who was convinced that I had feelings for him, and he said it was "because of the way I would stare into his eyes." It is just natural for me to have that stare, but it really caught me off guard when he said that, because I saw him in a way that was 1000% platonic. I have worked on trying to look away a little bit more to avoid giving people the wrong signals. However, now I might come off as more awkward than ever! I guess I should just be myself... I can't really help it either way.

    • Boom Shikha
      Boom Shikha  Year ago +1

      Yeah, I know!! It's so hard, because if we are ourselves, we come across as flirting, but if I am not myself, I don't know how to behave. :S

  • Righteous Ways
    Righteous Ways Year ago +1

    You are spot on!
    Experiment 😂😂 I thought I was the only one lol Thank you!

  • MaruXaina na Eira
    MaruXaina na Eira Year ago +1

    Hiiii!! I really think this is very relative to every situation and also depends on the level of intimacy with a person. Deep stare for me maybe necessary sometimes, irrelevant in other situations, unbearable or rude or hilarious... but above all, I think we really have to respect the other person's space as we NEED others to respect ours, very needed in our INFJ case. Whenever I stare, without even noticing sometimes, I always try to adjust myself to how comfortable the other person is. It is a matter not only of respect but also an intelligent way to interact with others. Also as soul -energy readers we are, we have a powerful tool within us that we MUST learn to control , for own good sake and our human companions'. It is part of our super power, it is one of our super weapons and not learning how to use is just a pitty and a generator of awkward situations. I love you humans!

    • Boom Shikha
      Boom Shikha  Year ago

      Thanks Maruxa!! I love the point you made about it being a powerful tool and super weapon. Brilliant.

  • Dr. Wayne Herman
    Dr. Wayne Herman Year ago +2

    You're going to the wrong places to find your inner self. Please, sweetheart, stay far away from the eastern consciences experiment. THIS IS A WARNING. Yoga? Whatever. These are crafty tools of demons. Have you ever perceived that subtlety creep in; that worries you? You know what I mean then. This will slowly build into a nightmare in which you won't wake up from.

  • Dr. Wayne Herman
    Dr. Wayne Herman Year ago +1

    You're flirting; you just don't realize it, or won't admit to it on-air. I'm an INFJ. And much older. Older caries a lot of weight. However, I'm pleased to meet you... "Pleased to meet you, Mrs. Jones". INFJ also move their hands a lot, like you're doing in all your videos. A true INFJ is overly sexual because of they're extremely aware of what the opposite sex is thinking and feeling. At least from a male's point of view. As I watch your videos, I perceive a bit of uncertainty there. This is understandable, because of your young age; and the lack of long-time experiences with the real world of suffering, pain, and sorrow. Theses temper a IMFJ person; any person. And WISDOM. Wisdom can only be achieved from age. No exceptions. To deny this, would be a foolish undertaking.

    • Patrícia Pereira
      Patrícia Pereira Year ago

      I like an INFJ younger than me. he's very outgoing when we talk face-to-face, full of bad jokes and teasing. Always very close to me when we talk. Other times he avoids me, but I catch him looking at me. When he texting to me he is very formal, although he responds quickly, it's confuse. How can I approach him without scaring him or appearing needy?

    • Boom Shikha
      Boom Shikha  Year ago

      Thanks for your insight, Wayne!!

  • Eternal1
    Eternal1 Year ago +6

    I tend to have difficulties sometimes starring into a persons eyes. Mainly because I know I will strongly feel something from them or my emotions will somehow be known to them. Now that I have a lot better understanding of my "abilities" I have a much easier time but unfortunately women tend to think im flirting when im just getting info on who they are. So I definitely agree.

    • Boom Shikha
      Boom Shikha  Year ago +1

      Yeah, I know exactly what you mean. :)

  • Pika Pia
    Pika Pia Year ago +1

    I never flirt.. .definitely not intentional ( I have no idea how to flirt) but many people told me to that I was flirting when I just casually talked with a guy..wtf... just because I smiled at a customer?! I also avoid staring and looking at people... it's more that I am insecure in this field and also don't understand when people look at me. But sometimes I zone out for a few minutes and stare at people without realizing ... yeah that's creepy

    • Pika Pia
      Pika Pia Year ago

      Boom Shikha people should watch videos and read books about just being nice xD

    • Boom Shikha
      Boom Shikha  Year ago

      Hahahah!! Yeah, I get the same from people. They say I am flirting, when I am just being nice. :S

  • I ONLY Compete With The Woman I Was Yesterday

    (jumping up and down, clapping my hands, screaming).....ONE OF US! ONE OF US!

    • I ONLY Compete With The Woman I Was Yesterday
      I ONLY Compete With The Woman I Was Yesterday Year ago

      Boom Shikha 😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😍😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘

    • Boom Shikha
      Boom Shikha  Year ago

      Thank you so much for watching, and commenting!! I really appreciate the support. :) Hope you have a great day.

  • Cassie
    Cassie Year ago +1

    ENFJ here & I love my INFJ ♥️

  • Gerben Houtman
    Gerben Houtman Year ago +1

    I can tell by the way you gaze into the camera that you are interested in me ;) Just kidding. I think you have something here.

  • jhonathan mondragón

    mmmmmmmm this didn't sound much infj, it gave me chills. also reminds me more of my entj/tp boss than infj.

    • Boom Shikha
      Boom Shikha  Year ago

      Thank you so much for watching, and commenting!! I really appreciate the support. :) Hope you have a great day.

  • Panna Das
    Panna Das Year ago +1

    😂😂😂😂😂 true very true.. i have stopped doing that, bt sometimes it happens and they say the same thing..

  • mehnab khan
    mehnab khan Year ago +1

    yeah only questions

    • Boom Shikha
      Boom Shikha  Year ago

      Thank you so much for watching, and commenting!! I really appreciate the support. :) Hope you have a great day.

  • Elijah Thompson
    Elijah Thompson Year ago +4

    It's either I'm trying to figure you out as to solving a Rubix cube or I'm in an extreme trance of lost thoughts to pass the time. As for me flirting, it's very playful but it isn't serious as they'd they I'd sound like

    • Boom Shikha
      Boom Shikha  Year ago

      Yeah, I agree. We are always trying to figure the other party out, quietly in our heads. :)

  • Nelvie Indigo
    Nelvie Indigo Year ago +1

    I flirt cos it would make me see thru the real person.I am judging and I do that with non verbal gestures....it makes them feel I am into them and they bring on their manipulative tactics up...but before they know what hit them,I sweep the rug off their feet and slam my door...and yes INFJs mimic people attitude to teach them what they are failing to learn.

    • Boom Shikha
      Boom Shikha  Year ago

      Hahaha!! Oh god, you are ruthless, and I love it. :)

  • The Senappi Diaries
    The Senappi Diaries Year ago +2

    I don't stare into people's eyes if they are not comfortable with it, that is when they show discomfort but sometimes I Do stare nevertheless ..heheh😆

  • Martin Cichocki
    Martin Cichocki Year ago +1

    Spot on.

    • Boom Shikha
      Boom Shikha  Year ago

      Thank you so much for watching, and commenting!! I really appreciate the support. :) Hope you have a great day.

  • kvi
    kvi Year ago +1

    I need a Infj friend!😯

    • kvi
      kvi Year ago

      Boom Shikha lol well I am one!😄 I must my fellow infj in real life. 2 together can make an impact in this world.

    • Boom Shikha
      Boom Shikha  Year ago +1

      Really?? We are not too crazy for you?

  • bobajob
    bobajob Year ago +1

    Because you have large eyes does that make you a infj, If you are a infj what is the bad thing a true infj can do.

    • Boom Shikha
      Boom Shikha  Year ago

      Thanks Bobajob... Weirdly enough, I never said that I am an INFJ because I have large eyes. :P

  • Lisa Cabello
    Lisa Cabello Year ago +1

    You know the feeling of satisfaction when u think that this is going to happen and it really happened? Every time when i communicate to others I had this feeling, this urge to do something and see if how they'd gonna react. I had it on my mind so planned that even when they chose the different option (that i think they'd gonna choose) i can still make a plan or strategy very quickly. It's like having a plan B-Z.

    • Boom Shikha
      Boom Shikha  Year ago

      Awesome way to put it - having plan B-Z. Yes, that's the way to do it. Thanks!

  • bobajob
    bobajob Year ago +1


    • Boom Shikha
      Boom Shikha  Year ago +1

      Thank you so much for watching, and commenting!! I really appreciate the support. :) Hope you have a great day.

  • Kaydee Reed
    Kaydee Reed Year ago +1

    I'm so sorry I'm looking you in the eyes and I'm add .I don't want Fack people in my life .

    • Boom Shikha
      Boom Shikha  Year ago

      Thank you so much for watching, and commenting!! I really appreciate the support. :) Hope you have a great day.

    THE MAN Year ago +4

    i think im an infj. but i dont think i do all that. Iv never tested anybody. i enjoy talking to ppl but its more like im not picking up lies more of what a person holds inside. they tend to drop little hints that for me seem out of the ordinary or i pick up on it. everyone has a battle inside them and thats ok with me its natural. i find i like talking to elder ppl because to me they have lived and i find it so intresting to descover what they learned from a lifetime on this planet. i think iv only did the stare once and that was at a person that to me seemed out of the ordinary like everyone is messed up in there own little way. but this person was not so messed up. the thought that popped into my head was this person must meditate a shit load. #next level

    • Boom Shikha
      Boom Shikha  Year ago

      So interesting!! That's why I love putting these videos out there, because I learn so much about the human experience as a whole from comments like this. Thank you so much for sharing and teaching us.

  • Quantum Explorer
    Quantum Explorer Year ago +3

    LoL! True! I even told a friend once.. "I haven't subjected you to my deep stare yet. You're not ready for that" lol

    • Boom Shikha
      Boom Shikha  Year ago

      Ha!! Beating him at UNO with your stare. That's awesome. :) And thank you for watching. I actually think of the person I am speaking to (you guys) and pretend I am speaking directly to them when I stare at the camera. :)

    • Quantum Explorer
      Quantum Explorer Year ago +1

      Boom Shikha lol not long after, I wanted to beat him at UNO so I pulled out *my* wild card, the deep, intense eye gaze.. and yes, I won. I was going to make a video about "wooing" an INFJ female (if that's even possible). It would be fun to collaborate with you!! You do great at looking at the camera and speaking clearly.. I struggle with that!

    • Boom Shikha
      Boom Shikha  Year ago +1

      Hahahahah!! God, this made me laugh. Brilliant.

  • Passed time
    Passed time Year ago +1

    My boyfriend tells me to stop staring at him constantly.

  • Daniel Lyon
    Daniel Lyon Year ago +1

    it is funny because they miss understood us

  • Daniel Lyon
    Daniel Lyon Year ago +1

    I totally agree with that

    • Boom Shikha
      Boom Shikha  Year ago

      Awesome to hear that! Thanks for watching. :)

  • Trent Lewis
    Trent Lewis Year ago +1

    It's like for the first time someone has said what I always feel lol

    • Boom Shikha
      Boom Shikha  Year ago

      Glad I resonated with you!! :) Thanks for watching.

  • Christina Leifeste
    Christina Leifeste Year ago +1

    For most my life, I thought I was just weird because I am so often misunderstood. For years perspective employers would either hire me or not based on the Myers Briggs test. They would tell me Im INFJ and I blew it off not understanding what they meant. Recently I've been learning about my INFJ personality and this video is sooo spot on. Ive taken some more tests and have seen INFJ -T. Im not sure what this means but I'll research more. Do INFJ's like other INFJ's? Is there a compatibility type more suited for INFJs?

    • Boom Shikha
      Boom Shikha  Year ago

      Hey Christina, so glad you found your tribe, the INFJs.. Okay, so ENTPs and ENFPs go really well with INFJs. Those are like peanut butter to our jelly madness. I've done a video on that as well, so check that out. Research up the T, it has a lot of connotations, added to an INFJ trait. personalityjunkie.com/05/infj-t-vs-infj-a-personality-types/ This will give you more information. Hope you will stick around and learn more. Have an awesome day.

  • David MacD
    David MacD Year ago +11

    Have you ever gone too far with your flirting,.. and knew you went too far,.. and now someone is in love with you,.. and desires you in a true and honest way??? Have you ever felt so guilty that you just let them use your body?

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      Minion Inc Gaming 2 months ago


    • Boom Shikha
      Boom Shikha  Year ago +1

      Interesting question. I am sure I have. But it's been a while for me. I'm actually on a relationship sabbatical right now, since August 2016. No relationships, just focus on my work. And it's been awesome. :)

  • Cesar Ortiz
    Cesar Ortiz Year ago +1

    Fraud! You are not an INFJ you're trying to emulate one but I know you know, you are fake!

    • Boom Shikha
      Boom Shikha  Year ago +3

      Thanks for your brilliant analysis... Have a great day!! :)

  • Asa Bintang
    Asa Bintang Year ago +10

    the first object that I scanning on people is eyes, some people have nothing in their eyes, I mean just empthy. But some of they have a special light that can make me zink even like electricuted when they staring back at me. that's amazing and shocking for me. Did the same thing ever happened to you or someone else here? what's that mean?

    • Asa Bintang
      Asa Bintang Year ago +2

      Boom Shikha oww.. that is very cute. I hope sometimes that can happen to me. I have one question again if you don't mind. Do you often feel when people staring at you, you feel them? Even from far away.

    • Boom Shikha
      Boom Shikha  Year ago +2

      I have never felt electrocuted, but I have felt such a strong connection with a person that my eyes tear up at it.. :)

  • Sabrina Nascimento
    Sabrina Nascimento Year ago +1

    I am sick of small talk. Old people do that so I just Ring them up real quick and get rid of them because they are the biggest energy vampires. They tell me things, yes I listen but don't care about their lumbago and grandkids. For the most part I don't want them draining my energy. I don't stare. Besides I don't like when they do it to me.

  • Life is a Tragedy of Nutrition

    Spot on

  • 408slickone
    408slickone Year ago +2

    Hhmmm now the way your talking makes me wonder if you as well feel like you're not from this planet😊😊😊 lol??

    • Boom Shikha
      Boom Shikha  Year ago

      Hahaha!! I wish I were an alien. But I am human, through and through.

  • jes gam
    jes gam Year ago +3

    Lol i love how honest u r here. But honestly agree i cant believe how similar our minds work bcuz i think the exact same thing! XD

  • JYJN
    JYJN Year ago +3

    shikha, I love looking deeply into people's eyes and trying to understand them but i also get very awkward when making eye contact during pauses. I feel like something needs to be said when making an eye contact. I used to hear from people that I have this cold stare when I was just observing people during my teenage years. Maybe that's why, because I am so conscious of what the other person is feeling that I don't want them to feel uncomfortable that led me to feel uncomfortable when looking at them... if that makes any sense. I also get awkward and emotionally drains me when a person looks at me constantly and passively asks for my "reaction" for instance when watching a comedy show.

    • Boom Shikha
      Boom Shikha  Year ago +1

      Yeah, I don't like people looking at me either, especially when I am in my zone and trying to enjoy myself. Also, people think we are cold in general, because we can seem unemotional, when in reality, we are a fountain of emotion. :) Thanks for sharing your experiences.