A Letter to My Brother’s Murderer: 13 Years After My Brother Was Stabbed

  • Published on Apr 17, 2019
  • 13 years after her brother was stabbed and murdered, Chanell must write a letter for the murderer’s parole.
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Comments • 236

  • Apoapsis Periapsis
    Apoapsis Periapsis 29 days ago

    Me in the future: son take this,
    Future son: I'm about to ruin this whole criminals career

  • english laugh
    english laugh Month ago

    Her brother looks like trouble aswell

  • CAM
    CAM Month ago

    We need more documentaries about how this affects the families. We see stabbings on the news so often we as a society have become desensitised by the violence. I hope his family and all the other families of victims find peace

  • s k
    s k Month ago

    I feel her pain i lost my brother the same way 9yrs ago the pain doesnt ease nor does it heal.

  • ConorVLOGS
    ConorVLOGS Month ago

    The chills you get when she reads the letter are crazy

  • KCs Funhouse
    KCs Funhouse Month ago +3

    This family’s pain is absolutely palpable. The mothers anger, the daughters heartbreak. I can’t imagine hearing this man was to be let out of prison after only 12 years. My heart goes out to these amazingly strong women.

  • Pat Stokes
    Pat Stokes Month ago

    2:57 is that guy related to wolfman.

  • sWord smith
    sWord smith Month ago

    God bless this family I can’t even imagine this pain!

  • Maddysin Leigh
    Maddysin Leigh Month ago

    I teared up when the mom read the letter.

  • Gomez Gomez
    Gomez Gomez 2 months ago

    This are the type of document they should show instead of the Kim k we need important topics and the youth and this new generation need to change they behaviour I believe is time to be more strict and discipline if someone stab someone even if they young is time to take them to a rough discipline trip in the 3 world country and see how people live rough so they have the opportunity to change this evil mindset of killing innocent people because sending them to prison is a waste of tax money and is a holiday for them

  • Lee John Wilson
    Lee John Wilson 2 months ago

    I feel for ya girl lost my bro the same way x

  • Revealed
    Revealed 2 months ago +1


  • biscuitzantea
    biscuitzantea 2 months ago

    I blame knife crime on the parents who either turn a blind eye to their childs illegal behaviour or encourage it, who raise their children to be a selfish, entitled and spoiled, who encourage their children to push old people out of the way or ignore them when they should offer them a seat. Knife crime is prodominently commited by adolescents to those in their mid twenties young inexperienced minds being moulded by social trends because the parent/s are/were too busy trying tp to make ends meet or feel school and/or other officials are responsible for the primary care of their child - the resolution to knife crimes lay within the homes of the deprived, stop giving financial incentives for women to have children as the majority chose having children as a career path, introduce fair/equal job opportunities, stop hunting and victimising non whites, giving them criminal records so they're forced to turn to street life ....

  • Eliza Jean
    Eliza Jean 2 months ago

    I'm going to agree with what Mayasu said: with everything that's been happening in schools recently, the staff should make students watch these kinds of documentaries.

  • Rose Faith
    Rose Faith 2 months ago

    His mum needs a life sentence for naming her son Cornelius tbh

  • Dolla Holla
    Dolla Holla 2 months ago

    This is deep..how sick do some people need to be?? Watching this all the way through I had a lump in my throat 😔 I’m so sorry for ur loss

  • Vicky
    Vicky 2 months ago

    parole for murder!!!????

  • Eliora Koe
    Eliora Koe 2 months ago

    At 0:40 I was screaming with joy! Justice served dumb ass

  • Heyitsoceanexox
    Heyitsoceanexox 2 months ago


  • Kajal Raina
    Kajal Raina 2 months ago


  • Obayd ubayd
    Obayd ubayd 2 months ago +5

    My brother got stabbed to death 2yrs ago yesterday...this pain I feel will never heal.
    I miss him

  • Nat
    Nat 2 months ago +2

    We got shown this in school

  • Joselle’s World
    Joselle’s World 2 months ago


  • It ain't Obeezy
    It ain't Obeezy 2 months ago +11

    And then people glorify everything that leads to this in culture and music like drill

    • Aj
      Aj 2 months ago

      It ain't Obeezy no one forces people to shank people, and its gang bangers who die so what’s the problem

    • Ozzy Mandias
      Ozzy Mandias 2 months ago

      Facts bro

    • Charlie Ward Games
      Charlie Ward Games 2 months ago +1

      It ain't Obeezy fam drill is just gangs not innocent yutes getting killed

  • Adrianna Davis
    Adrianna Davis 2 months ago

    Omg that's so sad I know how it feels I lost my baby brother last year he's sopose to be 2 years old this year I'm still a child

  • 1joeben
    1joeben 2 months ago +2

    Incredibly brave. But even I don't understand why he is being released after such a short sentence. People get longer for fraud.

  • Tanji Islam
    Tanji Islam 2 months ago +4

    This is heart breaking💔💔

  • Sadie Van Zyl
    Sadie Van Zyl 2 months ago +45

    My brother was murdered the exact same way 11 years ago, I feel their pain and I feel like I'm reliving that horrible night all over again 😢

    • mari lope
      mari lope Hour ago

      I'm sorry for your loss

    • Sadie Van Zyl
      Sadie Van Zyl 2 months ago

      @late fa bless you ❤️

    • late fa
      late fa 2 months ago +4

      Sadie Van Zyl T rip to your brother im sorry

  • Mohammed Ali
    Mohammed Ali 2 months ago +1

    Get over it will ya

  • Mohammed Ali
    Mohammed Ali 2 months ago +3

    Why a letter? Jail him or beat him up

  • Star Light
    Star Light 2 months ago +3

    So so heart breaking....!!! I felt the pain & saw emptiness in the mother's eyes. Truly sorry for them, the family 🤗🤗🤗

    • Star Light
      Star Light 2 months ago

      Many thanks for liking my comment. Stay extra blessed 🤗🤗🤗

  • Sarah in the kitchen
    Sarah in the kitchen 2 months ago

    THE UK JUSTICE SYSTEM IS A Joke!!! I thought a life sentence was 25 years!! Why is the murderer only serving less than Half the time? The UK justice system is broken, stiffer and harsher sentences should be handed out. What about protecting the public? This man should be in jail for the rest of his life!!!! I feel so bad for the family 🙏

  • Jay B
    Jay B 2 months ago +6

    2006 murder proves drill isn’t an influence in violence it’s just people

    • Jay B
      Jay B 2 months ago

      zeraf maxx bullshit. That’s like an easily influenced child playing call of duty everyday and then carrying out those violent killings in real life. Can’t blame digital products for your crimes.

    • zeraf maxx
      zeraf maxx 2 months ago

      Drill is not THE reason but can become an influence to maybe an unsettled person.

    • Jay B
      Jay B 2 months ago

      Aj 💯They just find any reason to get drill deleted they wasn’t saying this when gang members were being shot and stabbed and killed before 2013

    • Aj
      Aj 2 months ago +1

      Jay B say it again

  • Alicia Rich
    Alicia Rich 2 months ago

  • Anthony West
    Anthony West 2 months ago +1


  • dominic clarke
    dominic clarke 2 months ago

    Life should mean life he killed sombody with a knife because he couldn't beat them in a straightener the murder was planned

  • L Squad
    L Squad 2 months ago

    I am so sorry

  • Tommy
    Tommy 2 months ago

    knife crime is taking over, life sentences need to be life or 100 years as they say in america. 15 years is way to soft and its not putting people off, sort the uk prison system out its a joke. maybe look at Russian prisons or Thailand and people will defo think twice before killing someone over an argument. the real sad thing is this scumbag will be back out of prison and back into his gang living his life and destroying more lifes.

  • aairus rehman
    aairus rehman 2 months ago +1

    there is always 2 sides to a story

  • Rich Franklin
    Rich Franklin 2 months ago

    We need to get with times.. Sentences like America

  • kris wu
    kris wu 2 months ago +5

    I don't think i'll be able to understand why people have or want to kill someone. It's just unbearable to think about. Lots of love for this family xx

  • Tamera James
    Tamera James 2 months ago +7

    This is so sad! They are never going to really get over this :(

  • Great White
    Great White 2 months ago

    I hate justice system very unfair

  • we love football
    we love football 2 months ago +3

    this is really sad stop the knife crime 🙏

  • Melissa B
    Melissa B 2 months ago +22

    What’s the point of a life sentence if they just get parole after like not even a 1/3 of an ‘average life’ sentence (80 years).

    • Phankitty
      Phankitty 2 months ago +1

      ikrrr. I've been alive for longer than the man's been in prison

  • pink champagne 996
    pink champagne 996 2 months ago


  • Zahirul Islam
    Zahirul Islam 2 months ago +5

    The feds kitchen is peng

  • Amaequiaas Corner
    Amaequiaas Corner 2 months ago +6

    This makes me sick truly! My condolences to the family, no one deserves it ❤️😭

  • S27
    S27 2 months ago +1

    Any murder should be given death penalty

  • BIG smoke
    BIG smoke 2 months ago +3

    Perole for muder?????

  • Ddot Mens
    Ddot Mens 2 months ago +2

    Why cant life mean life?????

  • Lucy Riah
    Lucy Riah 2 months ago +13

    This made me cry I feel for the family so much ❤️❤️

  • ella hinds
    ella hinds 2 months ago +55

    I cried when her mum read that letter man

  • Chase Lome
    Chase Lome 2 months ago +4

    My heart goes out to the family, I’m happy these stories are finally being published.
    This has been going on a long time

  • David Boyes-Varley
    David Boyes-Varley 2 months ago +44

    I honestly do not think if you take someone's life you should ever be released. There is no time that will suffice for that life lost.

  • TextBookPuncher1
    TextBookPuncher1 2 months ago

    It’s sad man. Stuff like this reminds me of kidulthood and trife. This stuff happens real life. These idiots need to stop stabbing each other

    NANA TAKYI COLLINS 2 months ago

    When did this stabbing take place. What year?

    ForBLACKS ByBLACKS 2 months ago +4

    The system's racism is the problem. The glamorisation of selling drugs and violence amongst black people. As long as it is cool to follow this trend, and we continue to go down this path, and glamourize it, we will always bear the consequences. For what?we doing this to our mothers YANO, for what ? what is worth putting our people through this hell. The institutional racism will continue to influence our youth if we as people keep letting it. We must band together, and first find respect and honour, we must accept what has been and move forward. Underneath is the same, skin colour and looks is on the outside. The thing that keeps us alive is not the outside, SO WHY FIGHT OVER IT, PUNISH OVER IT, HATE OVER IT AND HOLD BACK OVER IT. Amongst the black community its cool to be bad, its cool to have racks and be a consumerist. Not realising you are being robbed. AP is the same as Casio they both tell the time. DO THE MATHS AND WAKE UP. STOP PUTTING FAMILYS THROUGH THIS.

    • zeraf maxx
      zeraf maxx 2 months ago

      @Aj Hold on white youths stabbing each other is definitely a huge problem that I never knew about but it definitely occurs more than you would think.

    • Aj
      Aj 2 months ago

      ForBLACKS ByBLACKS stfu no one forces black on black crime sort your communities out

    • dominic clarke
      dominic clarke 2 months ago +1


  • Zarnix
    Zarnix 2 months ago

    God it must be really bad that you need attention that badly...

  • amirah-rebecca Scott
    amirah-rebecca Scott 2 months ago +2

    That is sad breaking my heart 💔

  • Ali Hassan
    Ali Hassan 2 months ago +426

    This young lady needs to see a therapist. She still wounded from that early trauma.

    • Skyler Gray
      Skyler Gray 2 months ago +1

      North London I’m really not trying to argue about it mate. 🤷‍♂️ I would consider 11 years old a child, I dunno what do you want me to say, pre-teen? It’s quite far from adulthood. As I said, early childhood, no, but an early in life traumatic event, yes. I’d feel the same regardless of gender, that has zero to do with my comment, and is honestly irrelevant considering that I am a guy.
      My siblings and I had various forms of ongoing trauma/traumatic events from basically birth to 12 (longer for the older) which I consider all of early, some early-childhood, some early in life. Then again briefly aged 14 which I don’t consider particularly a child or particularly early. I have an older sister and my oldest newphew is almost 10... very much a child, he’ll still be a child in a year, and I’d be absolutely gutted if he had to cope with anything traumatic at that age.

    • Skyler Gray
      Skyler Gray 2 months ago +1

      North London 11 is still a child, so yeah, it’s fairly early. Not early childhood, but still early.
      And trauma, yes, as in traumatic event. Losing a sibling is an incredibly traumatic event.

    • North London
      North London 2 months ago

      Ali Hassan what trauma are u talking about? The bereavement she experienced?

    • Ali Hassan
      Ali Hassan 2 months ago

      Souks onlyjust I don’t think you understood the connection between therapy and trauma.

    • North London
      North London 2 months ago +1

      She was 11 years old that’s not early is it?

  • Mya Erica
    Mya Erica 2 months ago +2

    my stepdad used to be really close mates with cornelius and apparently he used to be nothing like this. i really wonder what went wrong💔

    • dominic clarke
      dominic clarke 2 months ago +1

      Cornelius had a punch up with the murder victim and lost he felt some kinda way about it his pride was hurt so he waited in a bush and cheffed up the girls brother and now he is in prison and he should stay in prison

    • fattysl26
      fattysl26 2 months ago +1

      I really don’t understand the mindset of wanting to end someone’s life like that, like it’s nothing

  • Twin_TT
    Twin_TT 2 months ago

    I bet your brother was every thing to you

  • Abdullah Ghalib
    Abdullah Ghalib 2 months ago +8

    People need to understand that the justice system needs reviewing. Not just for this murder but for all murders. People do not care and do not fear punishment, when you dont fear punishment then you do as you please and for sick people that includes taking a life.

    • S Mendoza
      S Mendoza 2 months ago

      We certainly do understand but the government don’t want us to live anyway they don’t care for us and how do you want to enforce new laws like that

  • Kuti
    Kuti 2 months ago

    To all saying ur brother is proud that u will write leter for his parole r just some bs... fk the person who killed her brother he should die an eye for an eye, its different if it was an accident but not when someone kill another, weak people even agree to make a video forgiving a killer nice nice

  • TheNextTorres9
    TheNextTorres9 2 months ago


  • joshua19942
    joshua19942 2 months ago +85

    If he got life why is he coming out??? 🙄🙄🙄 if they give a very very lengthy sentence to these young boys today killing each other I guarantee you knife crime will seriously decrease

  • Badria
    Badria 2 months ago

    So so sad 😭😢😢😢

  • My crack smell Like rats

    Did this happen in Nottingham it looks like she was sitting outside raddy flats

    • j
      j 2 months ago

      My crack smell Like rats Yh

  • Jemma C
    Jemma C 2 months ago +5

    So we didn't actually hear what was said in the letter

  • Beyond BeyondAmnesia
    Beyond BeyondAmnesia 2 months ago

    Heartbreaking 😔

  • Jay_M
    Jay_M 2 months ago +18

    I feel like this might be counter productive to her healing

  • Flower Girl
    Flower Girl 2 months ago +2

    I’m crying man

  • Mayasu
    Mayasu 2 months ago +1012

    Schools should make students watch these kind of documentaries

    • J P Smith
      J P Smith Month ago

      Sadly so many children wouldn't care, especially those living that road life 😢

    • Sofiqul Islam
      Sofiqul Islam 2 months ago


    • Heyitsoceanexox
      Heyitsoceanexox 2 months ago

      Mayasu *They do*

    • Walker #34205
      Walker #34205 2 months ago

      Mayasu in my school we watched the life on death row video in RE

    • X
      X 2 months ago

      They did in my school. But it weren’t really a school more like a unit you go if you got kicked out

  • Mercedes Campbell
    Mercedes Campbell 2 months ago


    CATHOLIC THOT 2 months ago +173

    Sounds like the murderer was exceedingly jealous of her brother and wanted to kill him. He was actually preoccupied with the thought of killing this well loved person who had done nothing to him, had tried to kill him before and had planned to kill him. That is what you call a demon. He should be locked up indefinitely.

    • Elyse George
      Elyse George 2 months ago +5

      CATHOLIC THOT right. some people really hate to see other people happy. only a demonic creature could kill for that reason.

  • saad khan
    saad khan 2 months ago


  • Steven Mitchell
    Steven Mitchell 2 months ago

    Little pussy boys need knives don’t won a fight each other just incase they loose

  • Hayfa Iman
    Hayfa Iman 2 months ago +7

    This still happens now too😢

  • Gwapo D
    Gwapo D 2 months ago +11

    I mean its upsetting but our life is already written and this is not our home we dont belong on this earth eventually we will all die, once she accepts that she will be at peace

    • Nomkhosi Mchunu
      Nomkhosi Mchunu 2 months ago +1

      It’s easier to understand that terminology when you die in a natural way, lived etc not when someone decides to take your loved ones life.

    • Blessing A
      Blessing A 2 months ago +3

      keep that same energy when something like this happens to you. Shes still healing its hard okay? Her BROTHER for crying out loud. She is allowed to mourn for however long she wants to , who are you to tell her not to ?

    • Yeshua is Lord.
      Yeshua is Lord. 2 months ago +2

      Well not quite. You are right we don't belong to this Earth. But how do you know you don't? She can accept it but what will it change?

  • thania flores
    thania flores 2 months ago +71

    i understand her feeling.. my cousin was murder 15 yrs ago still this day i cant forgive the people that did even going to court and see thier faces i cant understand why.. they didnt even have answer to why.. I miss him so much I lost a piece of heart ...

  • Soraya G
    Soraya G 2 months ago +21

    thank you sharing this experience with us. my deepest condolences to you all. i’m very sorry for your loss and mentally, emotionally heal yourself baby girl slowly but surely you’ll get there x

  • ashanti lewis x
    ashanti lewis x 2 months ago +118

    i felt this so much. thank god my bro survived his attack tho. praying for yu x

  • Shannon Jones
    Shannon Jones 2 months ago +7

    I cried 😭😔

  • Splatfan
    Splatfan 3 months ago

    holy frick

  • Maddie Likes Cats
    Maddie Likes Cats 3 months ago +25

    All my prayers are with you. Stay strong, and may God be with you.

  • H B
    H B 3 months ago +8

    Sad but he's not innocent

    • Aj
      Aj 2 months ago

      Ali Hassan it’s very rare young boys who hate each other shank each other only rival gang members do so, no one cares about gangbangersdie

    • Ali Hassan
      Ali Hassan 2 months ago +5

      H B can you prove it was gang related and not two boys who hated each other.

    • H B
      H B 2 months ago +3

      @Ali Hassan vast majority of knife crime is not random. People are targeted because they are rival gang members or drug dealers. So they are not innocent.

    • Ali Hassan
      Ali Hassan 2 months ago

      HB. Explain what you mean.

    • H B
      H B 2 months ago

      @Mennie Packiauw not really because I feel sad for his parents not for him.

  • C.L Mckenzie
    C.L Mckenzie 3 months ago +62

    Damn, heart breaking. If you purposefully kill someone- you should sit in jail for life. 12 years a joke

  • S SS
    S SS 3 months ago +89

    She is such a good sister her brother would be so proud of her 💓

  • DarkWaveKnight
    DarkWaveKnight 3 months ago +396

    Your bother is looking down at you, he’s proud.

  • Still Shining TV
    Still Shining TV 3 months ago +10

    This is a difficult watch, but very necessary.

  • the letter k
    the letter k 3 months ago


  • Dublife_junk Insta
    Dublife_junk Insta 3 months ago +9

    Life for a life. Is that so hard for the UK justice system.

    • Dublife_junk Insta
      Dublife_junk Insta 2 months ago +2

      You would if you're family member was stabbed to death.

    • Yeshua is Lord.
      Yeshua is Lord. 2 months ago

      Who said you dictate the terms and conditions. Who said that you get to decide the perfect punishment? Who?

  • Louise Eduardo
    Louise Eduardo 3 months ago +18

    God bless this family 💗

  • Texas_Raised_ Texas _Made

    Damnn this is some fucked up shit, i have 3 older brothers,and although we have grown apart and 1 is in jail, i would be devastated if something horrific happened to them. Wish them a successful and better future.

  • Tayyy 2k
    Tayyy 2k 3 months ago +4


  • Tinker Bell
    Tinker Bell 3 months ago +442

    She needs some deep healing. I feel really sorry for her. She said she's still stuck at 11yrs of age. She has been traumatised by this.

  • jejejejeje jejejejje
    jejejejeje jejejejje 3 months ago +11

    Serious dialogue needs to open up in this country about the so called justice system, who's the people deciding these times? It's actually disgusting.

  • awer Williams
    awer Williams 3 months ago +16

    Rip your brother is watching over you angle getting stronger day by day step by step 😍😍

    • CAM
      CAM Month ago

      Yeshua is Lord. Some people are religious and believe in an after life. If you don’t believe in it that’s fine

    • Yeshua is Lord.
      Yeshua is Lord. 2 months ago

      He is dead. How can he watch over her?

  • Java Hub
    Java Hub 3 months ago +8

    What is happening to this country we should bring back hanging and executions

    • Java Hub
      Java Hub 2 months ago

      @dominic clarke I meant the government

    • dominic clarke
      dominic clarke 2 months ago

      @Java Hub it's not a Christian country we have more religions then just Christianity get over it

    • Java Hub
      Java Hub 2 months ago +2

      @Yeshua is Lord. no but this country would execute witches and now they won't execute murderes makes no sense it it meant to be a Christian country an eye for an eye right

    • Tyreisha Leeyah
      Tyreisha Leeyah 2 months ago +3

      that’s when black lives will not matter and they’ll be no more black people.