How to speak so that people want to listen | Julian Treasure

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  • Published on Jun 27, 2014
  • Have you ever felt like you're talking, but nobody is listening? Here's Julian Treasure to help you fix that. As the sound expert demonstrates some useful vocal exercises and shares tips on how to speak with empathy, he offers his vision for a sonorous world of listening and understanding.
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  • Jiji
    Jiji 12 hours ago

    silence :o

  • Prem Sachkapoor
    Prem Sachkapoor 18 hours ago

    The truth is that 99% of the people who is watching didnt remember these tricks in few days... we just saw for entertainment..

  • Hazhar Muhiadin
    Hazhar Muhiadin 19 hours ago

    Honestly this is a good lesson in 9 mints givs you 9 years experiences, listen clearly

  • Martha Nyirenda
    Martha Nyirenda 20 hours ago

    I do this all the time I guess am so boring....

  • Andy harpist
    Andy harpist Day ago

    I disagree. Complaining has a value , as does gossip..which can be hugely funny and inclusive , even for the person who is being gossiped about !
    I'm not sure I want to be talked to by a self-appointed saint imposing his own standards of communication on me. Its end result might be that we self impose restraints on our freedom to talk ..as if there aren't enough doing that already.

  • Thoughts & Opinions with Saeed

    In my opinion, these 5 habits are very effective but very difficult.
    1: Respect others without benefits
    2: Honesty
    3: Authenticity
    4: Integrity
    5: Love

  • Mr. Risky Shum YT

    Sounds like my mom everyday

  • DesperateFun Gaming

    Didn’t know I was British

  • JUNGHOESEOK
    JUNGHOESEOK Day ago

    Is it wrong that im watching this video but it’s hard for me to listen?

  • Apurv Parsodia
    Apurv Parsodia Day ago

    Guys did you notice the old person is sleeping in the audience

  • Robert Raymond
    Robert Raymond Day ago

    What a load of bullshit. What.

  • Gojira Salad
    Gojira Salad 2 days ago

    He looks like an old Bill Burr

  • Janet Pattison
    Janet Pattison 2 days ago

    Excellent talk! I attended an event recently where the key speaker was completely monotone w/ the same low volume. OMG - Talk about incredibly boring. I thought I was at a funeral.

  • Penelope
    Penelope 2 days ago

    Very helpful

  • khan poetry point
    khan poetry point 3 days ago

    He will look fantastic if he wears a pukhtoon hate on his head

  • n79 studio
    n79 studio 3 days ago

    This is interesting. I was always the one who people don't listen quite carefully, but not in a negative way, just... "you are not interesting enough at this very moment". I mean, even the closest family and friends who really love me and who I really love.
    Now, I don't gossip, judge or lie, but when I saw this list of "important" things, I do tend to display light cases of negativity, complaining, and dogmatising.
    I tend to start the conversation with the "jerk who cut me off in the traffic", or "did you hear about that murder case yesterday".
    Also, I don't think about the register, pitch or volume, although people often don't understand me, even though I'm not mumbling and I try to speak "clear".
    This video is quite helpful, it addresses the things I wasn't paying attention to.
    One "sin" is missing in the list (which I tend to practice sometimes as well) - repeating yourself, over and over. You make the listener bored, and you show him/her, since you forgot yoy've already said something, that you don't really care about your conversations.

  • Fun Times
    Fun Times 3 days ago

    Ted talks tend to invite a lot of bullshit artists.

  • Dilshod Uzoqov
    Dilshod Uzoqov 3 days ago

    Best best

  • Mergen Jagparov
    Mergen Jagparov 3 days ago

    Мен секилди субтитр арқылы қараған, көрген адам барма? Қазақша тусинсен лайк.

  • EVIL PATHAN
    EVIL PATHAN 3 days ago

    What this guy said??

  • ABDIKADIR HAKIM
    ABDIKADIR HAKIM 4 days ago

    His head is shining like Venus.

  • emman
    emman 4 days ago +1

    This video is so powerful that I clicked it immediately after reading the title.

  • Milan Boros
    Milan Boros 4 days ago

    3:48 your welcome

  • Theodore Phillip Gideon

    I cannot stop looking at his shinny, bold, egg-like head, small eyes and his small-time-swindler appearance... and I wonder - who listens to what THIS man has to say?!?

  • Woo Cain
    Woo Cain 4 days ago

    Next Up!- How to act like you paying attention.

  • Morawandi Nasution
    Morawandi Nasution 4 days ago

    How to overcome different language bariers. While we really need the information. Tank's

  • D R H
    D R H 4 days ago

    Answer.... Have a British accent 😅

  • Briggs Loft
    Briggs Loft 5 days ago

    5:55 He really did fall asleep ahahah

  • kelly shaw
    kelly shaw 5 days ago

    I couldn't be bothered to listen to him.

  • Sojourner ofcursedearth

    in a world of noisy static troublesome cacophony of sounds. we automatically label it as background noise. feed your ears with beautiful music and out comes sunshine.

  • Redacted Sun
    Redacted Sun 5 days ago

    I think "how to become a better person to be around with" would be a more fitting title

  • Higherseeker
    Higherseeker 5 days ago

    Sounds like the Democrats. lol

  • Afonso Santos
    Afonso Santos 5 days ago +1

    Thomas Shelby ?

  • Gulliver Eggs
    Gulliver Eggs 5 days ago +29

    Me to my crush: hey I wanna talk to you about something
    *Starts excersing my voice in front of her*
    Her: leaves in silence
    Me:*still excersing* wEeEEeOOoO

    • Alex Ander
      Alex Ander 3 days ago +2

      LOL!!! You were supposed to do that BEFORE she came over

  • M A Abhijith
    M A Abhijith 5 days ago

    I kind of don't like to listen to you 😀

  • fun corner
    fun corner 6 days ago

    Oh tuadi kher hue

  • evolution rhythm
    evolution rhythm 6 days ago

    "How to speak so people want to listen".Speak the sweet little lies that they want to hear .On average, If people don't want to hear some information that is contrary to their agendas ( beliefs, deeply held opinions etc) then they won't hear it ( think about it).
    E.g.Many people will not hear and then think about information regarding the evidence on evolution or climate change or human caused mass extinction or pollution. They will only hear what they want to hear and that leads to social " echo chambers" with groups of people whom don't challenge/ question their beliefs.Whatever you say & however you say it they will only hear ( think) what they want to hear and or what they are capable of comprehending ( e.g. A one month old baby can not hear your ideas on quantum mechanics only the sounds). Those that are open to thinking differently, already are open to thinking differently & listenning to new information about any particular subject. Science is continually building it's knowledge and that's why , in general, scientists are more open to new evidenced based idea's/words.Even when that evidence contradicts their general understanding of any particular topic.
    E.g. The average psychology ( stone age) would not understand why many scientists would be thrilled if they were proved wrong about some subjects due to the general evidence base. E.g. Convincing proof that a after life exists. However, there is convincing proof that a " after life" is a contradiction in terms.As death is being not alive and what people perceive as "l" is them being alive and conscious of their life.

    • Redacted Sun
      Redacted Sun 5 days ago +1

      Being cautious of what exactly a person disagrees with or not is just being considerate, I wouldn't really go as far as calling them sweet lies.
      If a conversation boils down to you lying then it's much more exhausting on your end and ultimately damaging the relationship with the other more than when one would've been simply honest while still being mindful of the other person

  • Metan Rraine
    Metan Rraine 6 days ago

    How could you thumbs down this video?

  • Seppe Zimmerer
    Seppe Zimmerer 6 days ago

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  • Paul Bezzina
    Paul Bezzina 6 days ago

    Ironically I lost interest in this 2 minutes in !

  • Jacqueline Matte
    Jacqueline Matte 6 days ago

    I’ve noticed that no one listens to me at home or at school and it’s been really bugging me and making me feel down today in particular. The thing is I don’t think I significantly have any of those bad speaking habits and my friends at school are the ones who’s main speaking topics are gossip, complaining, and negativity. I can’t relate to the conversations and don’t want to so I find myself having nothing to say that matches what they’d be interested in, and in result people blatantly ignore me.

  • Hari Kishore
    Hari Kishore 6 days ago +3

    8:04 Those sequence of speech exercises I do at morning if i get call from my father in order to trick him I was not woke up just before his call.

  • Brooks Johnson
    Brooks Johnson 7 days ago

    Hey

  • Sarah Jackson
    Sarah Jackson 7 days ago

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  • Sarah Jackson
    Sarah Jackson 7 days ago

    How about those individuals who cannot communicate except by gesture and initial sounds - can you form or join a cluster of clever, digitally smart individuals putting their brains and skills together to really understand and help those who cannot communicate?

  • SUPSAIFI
    SUPSAIFI 7 days ago

    Fuking waste of time

  • Milena Machado
    Milena Machado 7 days ago

    Amazing tips! The best part for me was the part that he talks about the HAIL. And i think he could include speech tips for people that aren't a native speaker.

  • cory silva
    cory silva 7 days ago +2

    autobiographic listening should be on the list of negatives; when someone is telling or trying to tell you something, don't interrupt and tell 5 stories about yourself related to that subject. I think people mean well, for the most part, but it's rude and I think it's a symptom of culture in general .... we're lonely and need to be "heard"

  • Danny Macoi
    Danny Macoi 7 days ago +18

    The trick is, whenever you're talking to people have confidence in yourself don't look shy, look into people's eye, don't bow your head down a minute unless you checking the shoes or down-wear.
    But first hit your throat, Mnmn Mnmm...
    •••Men speak with a little base in it, avoid speaking to fast.
    •••Ladies speak calmly men automatically like that.
    Avoid, Eh, ehm, etc in the middle of your speech.
    Just pause and continue with the next word,then everyone in the audience will automatically see you as an intelligent person subconsciously.
    It's a human trick.

  • MannyFresh4251
    MannyFresh4251 7 days ago

    FINE ILL FUCING WATCH IT!

  • sharvin shrotre
    sharvin shrotre 8 days ago

    Amazing speech

  • Lisa Kempson
    Lisa Kempson 8 days ago

    Honesty, Authentic, Integrity and Love Awesome! Thank you

  • Karl P
    Karl P 8 days ago

    Listen first

  • LEWIS WONG SONG HAN -

    ruclip.com/video/vEt9RIZboi0/video.html
    You'll regret if you don't watch this

  • morph
    morph 9 days ago

    Won't be listening to this and if I meet you and see you tailoring your speech so I'll listen I'm not listening to you either.

  • Mavluda Burkanova
    Mavluda Burkanova 9 days ago

    toooo fast

  • Mavluda Burkanova
    Mavluda Burkanova 9 days ago

    u speaking too fast😭😭Im a non-English speaker, Im just trying to imitate you, but I cant do it, cuz he speaking tooo fast FOR me

    • VOID 88
      VOID 88 9 days ago

      You could try changing the playback speed under settings :)

  • Allamaprabhu Ani
    Allamaprabhu Ani 10 days ago

    Julian Treasure: How to speak so that people want to listen
    Man at 1:26 : Lemme take a quick nap!

  • omnamaha 052
    omnamaha 052 10 days ago

    with a brain injury you don't love yourself, you try not to hurt anyone, in case people give you the pain they hurt and misuse you, and you always looking for a true love

  • Aiden Samuel
    Aiden Samuel 11 days ago

    8:00 exercise