I Was Almost A School Shooter | Aaron Stark | TEDxBoulder

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  • Published on Jun 26, 2018
  • After growing up in painful, abusive conditions, Aaron Stark was on his way to an atrocity, until simple acts of kindness changed his life forever. What is causing the rise of violence and are our current fears and solutions just making it worse? My name is Aaron stark. I am 39 years old with 4 children, 2 cats, one dog, and a beautiful wife. I am a stay at home dad; my wife is the breadwinner of the family. I am a comic book fan, a pop culture junkie, and a lover of the sciences. I have more knowledge about superheros, pro wrestling, and comedy than anyone really has a right to. After growing up in very abusive and violent circumstances followed by over a decade if personal recovery, I am now a happy family man. I recently shred a very personal story of my triumph over my past, and it has changed my life forever. My mission is to let people know that no matter how dark it may seem, there is light coming. We really are not alone. This talk was given at a TEDx event using the TED conference format but independently organized by a local community. Learn more at www.ted.com/tedx

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  • eg ge
    eg ge Hour ago

    this is all just lies, it was video games

  • Elijah Durkin
    Elijah Durkin 3 hours ago

    ☻☻☻

  • Exo Rev
    Exo Rev 3 hours ago +1

    put him in prison

  • Retro Gaming - Clash Of Clans

    this title lol.. sounds so clickbait but actually very legit

  • poradnik fotograficzny Zapytaj Fotografa

    Just spread love!

  • V S
    V S 12 hours ago +1

    Thank you for being so brave and sharing your story with us all . I am so happy things turned around for you . You deserved it . I hope everyone learns from this and helps others .

  • Lady-in-Red -
    Lady-in-Red - 12 hours ago +1

    Very moving.... 👌

  • Halal Slaktarn
    Halal Slaktarn 13 hours ago

    Damn that shirt is big

  • Shane Berry
    Shane Berry 18 hours ago

    Sounds like he’s trying to get sympathy for school shooters.... They belong either dead or In jail. This guy almost fell into that category

  • Gas Can
    Gas Can 20 hours ago

    Looking like the school eater

  • My House
    My House 20 hours ago

    1996 Denver Colorado
    In the 90s in Colorado someone planned a massacre
    In the 90s in Colorado two students committed a shooting in there school

  • techstyle123
    techstyle123 23 hours ago

    This was truly moving no involvement of religion - computer games it's how it is . This is a truly great guy this is how a life is turned around we need more people like his best friend a candle in the dark shines bright .

  • Krystal Riley
    Krystal Riley 23 hours ago

    Wow almost cried ...

  • Matthew Kidwell
    Matthew Kidwell 23 hours ago

    I just wasted 5 minutes

  • SuckeroftheYear
    SuckeroftheYear Day ago

  • ashokful
    ashokful Day ago

    all hail u sir

  • Springy Coyle
    Springy Coyle Day ago

    And I was almost a Roblox RUclipr

  • 98all legend
    98all legend Day ago +1

    FUMES IN THE HEART CAN BE LIT BY ONE SPARK - ADAM BERNARDINO

  • Justme
    Justme Day ago

    I’m surprised he didn’t kill his mother

  • Nicholas
    Nicholas Day ago

    Broooooo

    I actually cried.

  • Sam Pollock
    Sam Pollock Day ago +2

    This resonates so well with me. I hate to admit it but I’ve been in a very similar place. I was considered a threat because of what I considered doing. After social services were contacted my parents and school got involved and I was punished. What is the point in punishing an already hurting kid? I see now all I needed was one person to be a friend and show me love. Make me feel like a normal person. Thank you so much man.

  • Vinícius Egidio
    Vinícius Egidio Day ago +13

    His friendly didn't save only his life, he probably saved dozens of lives.

  • Brad Taylor
    Brad Taylor Day ago

    Whats the most unspoken language in the world?




    Sign language.

  • Lo
    Lo 2 days ago

    Wow.

  • Jay M
    Jay M 2 days ago +1

    Damn, feel so bad for the up bringing of this fellow. So happy to see him blossom i

  • Jen J
    Jen J 2 days ago +4

    when someone treats you like a person when you don't even feel human...

  • big mike btw on xbox
    big mike btw on xbox 2 days ago +2

    this really moved me

  • Mr. Studer
    Mr. Studer 2 days ago +1

    I could listen to this man all day, what a brave and strong soul! Kudos

  • Octavio Yañez salas
    Octavio Yañez salas 2 days ago +2

    Who ever disliked,be ashamed

  • Area 51 Raid.
    Area 51 Raid. 2 days ago +1

    Respect

  • rilla
    rilla 3 days ago +5

    *pulls out AR15 and shoots up the audience*

  • Ham ster
    Ham ster 3 days ago

    eat another twinkie. this guy isn't shooting anyone. Anyone can claim anything, i almost blew up world. There! give me a badge! f outa here

  • ElEc_Micah
    ElEc_Micah 3 days ago +7

    When he said his mom would by him the razor blades that broke my heart. Who wants their child to commit suicide

  • Littlewhisper
    Littlewhisper 3 days ago +1

    *Be that friend* ❤️

  • K
    K 3 days ago +2

    All the other kids ...

  • CthulhuTheory
    CthulhuTheory 3 days ago

    How powerful is this?

  • Asp _
    Asp _ 3 days ago +1

    TENZIN!

  • raindrop
    raindrop 3 days ago +1

    So much emotion and a learning experience about someone’s life in only 7 minutes. I will never forget this guy and his story

  • Srt8Renegade
    Srt8Renegade 3 days ago

    I do not love anyone anymore. I do not love myself. I simply exist

  • Victoria g
    Victoria g 3 days ago

    I understand his message and yeah it's great. But using abuse as an excuse is ridiculous , I was abused and never considered shooting up a school.

  • Victoria g
    Victoria g 3 days ago

    I had a difficult upbringing and I never considered shooting up a school. These are excuses. Glad that he never did anything but this is unforgivable to even consider something like that.

  • Victoria g
    Victoria g 3 days ago

    I understand that he had a hard life and hes trying to shed light on this subject. But I can never excuse someone who can think like this and almost committed an atrocious crime.

  • digitaldisaster
    digitaldisaster 4 days ago +2

    This is my favourite video ,
    I always watch it when I’m upset

    • Aaron Stark
      Aaron Stark 4 days ago +1

      Thank you, but I'm just a regular person willing to talk about my pain. I'm not special. I do really appreciate that though.

    • digitaldisaster
      digitaldisaster 4 days ago +2

      Aaron Stark that means so much to me iv had the worst couple of weeks and it’s honestly so brave of you to come and talk like you , you’ve helped so many people :)

    • Aaron Stark
      Aaron Stark 4 days ago +1

      Well your comment made my night 😊 if i can help you when you are upset to see that you really matter, all this is worth it.
      You are not alone.

    • digitaldisaster
      digitaldisaster 4 days ago +2

      Aaron Stark wow , honestly you just noticing my existence has made my day , I will thanks :,)

    • Aaron Stark
      Aaron Stark 4 days ago +1

      Hi there! I'm the guy in the video.
      Just wanted to say thank you for listening.
      You should come find me on facebook. 😊

  • Diana K.
    Diana K. 4 days ago

    love this!

  • Melody Lusc
    Melody Lusc 4 days ago +10

    i literally cries when he said and even bigger than that, the best friend that saved my life is in the audience right now because friendship never dies. 😢

  • Claire1rocks
    Claire1rocks 4 days ago +2

    My takeaway from this is that parental abuse is the biggest predictor of future violent behavior. And that is REALLY hard to remedy.

  • Rain Likes Bangtan
    Rain Likes Bangtan 4 days ago

    Parents: *hella abuse*
    Kid: *illegally buys guns and caused violence*
    Society: bAn vIdEo gAmEs

  • Rap Aden راب عدن

    Am not american but i have to salvation of america
    1- ban Guns from all ( cops - civilians)
    2 - ban drugs ( for real )
    3 - shut down your Media its toxic
    And you gonna be alright

  • Billy Mills
    Billy Mills 4 days ago +1

    F YEAH AARON!!!!! NEVER STOP BRO!!!!!!!

  • Hibbicon
    Hibbicon 4 days ago +1

    >had a weight problem

  • Erica Acosta
    Erica Acosta 4 days ago +5

    This was the most touching TT I’ve ever seen. Thank God for his friend.

  • Chad h
    Chad h 5 days ago +1

    Major respect to this man and his best friend

  • John Doe
    John Doe 5 days ago +1

    Don’t take innocent life’s just cause u don’t like ur life... join the army or sum

  • John Doe
    John Doe 5 days ago

    If he wanted to die go to the USA army and join them.. fight the terroist like a man

  • Daddy Q five Abuses ki35

    I love this

  • Hallie L
    Hallie L 5 days ago +3

    You never know what someone is going through. The ones who have the biggest smiles, are the ones with the biggest pain.
    If ANYONE needs someone to talk to, do not hesitate to message me. You are NOT alone in this pain.

  • GEORGE PARENTE DE BRITO

    His crying is so truthfull.. awesome video

  • FURinTeeth
    FURinTeeth 5 days ago

    I still don't like people who like comics.... sadly they grew up and have helped this world become something for kids, not adults.

  • simbau
    simbau 5 days ago +2

    I. Simply. Cant. Comprehend. How off people in USA are with mental health.... seriously, how can you not understand: treat kid bad = kid shoot other kid.... ?!?!?!??!???!!! IS IT REEEAAALLY THAT HARD TO UNDERSTAND?!?!?!?! STOP GIVING KIDS 6 HOURS OF HOMEWORK A DAY, THEY WILL A B S O L U T E L Y FORGET IT ANYWAYS. STOP PUTTING PEOPLE WHO HAD BAD PARENTING TO SHAME AN FRICCIN HELP THEM!!!!!!! YOU A C T U A L L Y THINK THAT THEY ARE FINE??????????????? HOW LOW IQ DO YOU ACTUALLY HAVE?!?!?!?? PSYCHOLOGICAL BULLYING IS JUST AS DAMAGING AS PHYSICAL!!!!! SERIOUSLY, DO. WHAT. IS. B E S T. FOR. THE. CHILDREN. AND. YOUTH.

    Thank you for reading my comment to a ted talk.

    • Some Kek
      Some Kek 3 days ago +1

      I am not reading through all that capslock

  • SHEEEP queen
    SHEEEP queen 6 days ago

    Is that Howie Mandel?