My First Boyfriend Emotionally Abused Me

  • Published on Dec 30, 2018
  • What if your first boyfriend was manipulating and emotionally abusing you without you even knowing it? Unfortunately, this happens more than you think. Emotional abuse is very different than physical and does not have to happen in a relationship (boyfriend/ girlfriend). It can happen with a parent or friend with only their words.
    Emotional abuse is not to be taken lightly. It is important to know that emotional abuse is not when someone breaks up with you, yells or raises their voice. Often times, the person being abused doesn't even know it. They believe all problems are their fault, even when it's not, and mold themselves to what their partner wants them to be changing who they are and often times, isolating them from friends and family members.
    Emotional abusers will criticize and manipulate someone to do things they want.
    They will shame and blame someone with verbal abuse often yelling with hostility.
    They will name call, refuse to communicate and isolate someone from their closest relatives and friends.
    These are just a few small examples of emotional abuse. It may seem small, but if you know someone going through this, please reach out and help them by supporting and encouraging them to seek help. The best thing you can do, is support them.
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  • disco patato
    disco patato 2 days ago

    When she said I still think about him even tho it hurts s I felt that

  • Atea1793
    Atea1793 3 days ago

    That's pretty much my mother in a nutshell. She's very manipulative and emotionally abusive. When I was little, she'd scream and curse at me for the smallest mistake and make me feel like the worst daughter in the world. I'm immensely grateful to my brother's wife for showing me that the real problem was with her and not me. Mom is still emotionally abusive towards me, my stepdad, and everyone else close to her. She blames us for her problems, screams when things don't go her way, and she still tries to manipulate us into doing what she wants. We all know better. I just tune her out and put my headphones on to play music in my room until she runs out of steam. First chance I get, I'm moving away from her and her negativity. At this point, I can only take her in small doses. I'd still be in contact with her cause she's still my mother, but I won't stay around her long enough for her to have a reason to start showing her warts...

  • Elliott Lewis
    Elliott Lewis 3 days ago


  • crystal grace
    crystal grace 4 days ago

    I already lost myself.

  • Little Potato
    Little Potato 5 days ago

    Sounds like my father

  • She’s A Babe
    She’s A Babe 5 days ago

    They never change

  • Christopher_1993
    Christopher_1993 8 days ago

    I'm the first to notice that Jake looks exactly like Justin Trudeau

  • Aubrey Vlog's 101
    Aubrey Vlog's 101 9 days ago

    Wow... he sounds like my boyfriend... or ex boyfriend i think😅😅😅

  • Maya Allani
    Maya Allani 10 days ago

    Are you Canadian? I'm just asking because I am lol

  • Guillermo Sanchez
    Guillermo Sanchez 11 days ago

    Wtf are grils doing this days like you stupid

  • Tokunbo Muraina
    Tokunbo Muraina 11 days ago

    I think I was in one I don't know but he did the some things that he did to her I am not 100 sure

  • Barbaro Family
    Barbaro Family 12 days ago +1

    My girlfriend was mentally abusive. It's awful, I'm not trusting of others now and I'm extremely down

  • Gia Bat
    Gia Bat 13 days ago +2

    2:39 she’s 100% Canadian

  • Chris B
    Chris B 14 days ago

    Man I wish he physically abused her

  • sofia sn
    sofia sn 14 days ago

    I can relate. Being in an abusive relationship is really exhausting. You feel like you're nothing or that you're the worst person in this world. I'm happy that you(and me) snapped out of it.

  • TenRowena
    TenRowena 16 days ago

    wow, he is a bloody wanker

  • Halima Power
    Halima Power 17 days ago

    Plot twist thats Jake Paul 😂😂

  • i can't-
    i can't- 18 days ago

    why he look like flynn rider from rapunzel...? 💀

  • Arc Edits
    Arc Edits 19 days ago

    my name is jake. time to die

  • meow meow woffy
    meow meow woffy 20 days ago


  • Malinda Marquart
    Malinda Marquart 22 days ago +1

    I went though the same thing. I met a guy when I was 17 years old and he was 24 years old. We went out for two years before he ended it cause he was cheating on me for our roommate. He would always blame me for the one that was cheating. He would call me all sorts of nasty names. He would blame me for things even if it wasn't my fault. He had his own insecurities so he would put me down to make himself feel better. He would take his anger out on me when he was having a bad day no matter what the real reason was for his anger he would still scream at me for him having a bad day. I tried making excuses and apologizing for things that wasn't even my fault. That relationship ended almost two years ago and I still suffer from the emotional abuse he put on me. I have anxiety and depression. I have anger issues as well. I keep to myself mostly now. Anytime I date I put up a wall around them because it's too hard to trust them and so I haven't been able to keep a relationship because of it.

  • mobilarity
    mobilarity 22 days ago +1

    1 Like One thousand Times Kenshiro will punch him in the face until he dies.

  • -Fröstbyte-
    -Fröstbyte- 25 days ago

    oNe Lieke = 1010101012901280917250912760912510294701926012975109273120938 NUKES FR JAEK

  • l a y l a m
    l a y l a m 26 days ago

    my best friend emotionally abused me 😔✊🏻

  • Katarina Caspar
    Katarina Caspar 26 days ago

    I had the same thing ... I was never happy in a relationship...

  • Lovely Angelique
    Lovely Angelique 29 days ago

    This is the definition of my ex boyfriend that I broke up with recently 😭😭

  • Bob Tuffingson
    Bob Tuffingson 29 days ago

    She doesn't deserve this, she is a strong, beautiful woman.
    I like= 1 hug to this woman

  • Vanesa Mc Guirk-Mc Kain

    Ok so i was gonna end it when he even quarreled at me

  • Jackson Conley
    Jackson Conley Month ago +1

    You can’t let Jake get away with this.

  • Kendra Johnson
    Kendra Johnson Month ago

    She broke up with him

  • Claire Bear
    Claire Bear Month ago +1

    Ok mate who texts their feelings in a class group chat

  • Crystals Cartoonz
    Crystals Cartoonz Month ago +1

    I was too honey XDDDD 3 times, be strong and I'm glad you left him. Do what you love, enjoy being single, enjoy loving yourself, go for your goals, then the "one" will come suited for you someday. Let things take time. God bless ya girl

  • Princess Scarlet Angel Chan-1996

    10 like = 10 beat up Jake
    with our weapons.

  • A.G McCoy
    A.G McCoy Month ago

    Me last ex did the same thing he is the reason I'm stayin single for the rest of me life

  • xxl0ney_Txmb0y !
    xxl0ney_Txmb0y ! Month ago

    1:37 Okay more than just friends? ALRIGHT then let be Best Friends! XD

  • Kiersten Dolphin
    Kiersten Dolphin Month ago

    I never had a BF but my first crush was a jerk! When I conferenced feelings he said he also liked me! :) But one year later he told my sister (PS: HE TALKED TO HER MORE {ON COMPUTER} AND THEY NEVER EVEN MET IN RL) he only said that because I was annoying EVEN THOUGH MAX SENTENCES WERE 10SEN A MONTH!!! >:'( I'm glad I already lost feelings for him by then. I completely throw him out of my life and stopped talking to him. -_- --> he goes to my school next year ;-; he better not be in my class >:( oh and every time I think of him I know exactly what I'm going to say "hey jerk what do you need?" Let's just hope that doesn't ruin my perfect kid reputation. ;-;

  • Asian Dod
    Asian Dod Month ago

    Then break up with him.

  • yt 4ever
    yt 4ever Month ago

    He looks like Gaston...

  • doctor who episodes and movie

    Jake did that to you like jake's farther

  • doctor who episodes and movie

    I hope jake get cancer and dies and jake in hell forever

  • doctor who episodes and movie

    If your boyfriend is nazi devil and bad

  • Anne Whipp
    Anne Whipp Month ago

    The dude looks like Anakin Skywalker from clone wars

  • Haha Lol
    Haha Lol Month ago

    How many douchebags in this world are named Jake?

  • Billee-Jo Kowalski
    Billee-Jo Kowalski Month ago


  • rosmiida
    rosmiida Month ago

    at least you had a boyfriend

  • Lindsey Meador
    Lindsey Meador Month ago +1

    wait wait wait wait- i have a boyfriend named jake and he has destroyed me mentally and emotionally- and we've been together for almost a year now. and he's done nothing for me. i don't want to break up with him because i really really really really like him.

    lord help me

  • Candice Perry
    Candice Perry Month ago

    This girl should go out with other boys

  • pollimolli22
    pollimolli22 Month ago

    Same but
    With a friend
    ((He was 18 and i'm 12))
    Edit: everything is "same" but the high school thing-we met online,,,,,

  • Jose Martinez
    Jose Martinez Month ago

    I was Jake.. I mistreated a beautiful sweet lady that wanted nothing but the best for me. Always blamed her. Always made her feel miserable and made her cry alot. She lost her mother during that time as well. She broke up with me about 9 months ago. I've cried, feel like I have depression and I'm in emotional pain. But I'm happy that she saw what was best for her and let go of my toxic self. Fuck what a person like me feels that's the least I should be feeling. No person should go thru what she did and I hope karma somehow finds it's way to me for putting her through all that. Hopefully she finds everything shes looking for now❤.

  • Raymond Jiang
    Raymond Jiang Month ago +1

    At least she has a boyfriend.while I’m still single 😭😭😭

  • _rrainbow_
    _rrainbow_ Month ago


  • Mystic Articuno
    Mystic Articuno Month ago

    Ok we all know people watching this video has been rejected. 1 like = 1 percent of finding a person.

  • Breanna Odenbach
    Breanna Odenbach 2 months ago

    Im in this rn 💔 but we broke up yesterday and I'm still trying to get over it💔💔

  • Michelle N
    Michelle N 2 months ago

    My first boyfriend emotionally abused me too, firsts are the worst

  • Undead Rose
    Undead Rose 2 months ago

    i know how it feels i had one who did the same to me but all that he wanted was my body i am happy that i am not the only one

  • bored human
    bored human 2 months ago

    "No matter how good you are to a person, doesn't mean they will treat you the same. No matter how much they mean to you, doesn't mean they value you the same." Trent Shelton

  • siobi69
    siobi69 2 months ago

    I had a relationship like that. I remember feeling low about myself because of him. We dated for 8 months and he pulled the I won't speak to you for a while bs. I met someone during that time that made me laugh and smile though I was sad. Eventually I broke it off with him when I realized I wasn't happy with my ex and then I got with my friend who would make me smile. We have been together 6 years now. We are having a baby and getting married soon. He still makes me happy when I'm sad

  • Jessica M
    Jessica M 2 months ago

    Yep I feel ya 💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀💀

  • beri yeri
    beri yeri 2 months ago

    He looks like Kevin

  • Pinkmaroon
    Pinkmaroon 2 months ago

    Tell him to go to hell.

    MANNING BOWMAN 2 months ago

    Nice oh, the guy did a good job

  • Agamez
    Agamez 2 months ago


  • Two dogs and a cat
    Two dogs and a cat 2 months ago

    I mean... that’s what you get for dating Jake Paul...

  • Deanna Hernandez
    Deanna Hernandez 2 months ago +1

    It’s always the guy.....

  • John Ivan Taro
    John Ivan Taro 2 months ago

    If he's emotionally abusive, chances are that it might escalate to physical abuse.

  • Nhat-Ha Nguyen Animates

    Dis dude 🤦‍♀️...I'd probably be the same way...if I get into a relationship like that.
    Now I think of my little sister, she has friends who say they get abused. She tells me what they tell her, those stories she tells me about her friends don't seem...believable...?

  • Luna404
    Luna404 2 months ago

    This is to real for me

  • Jasmine Diaz
    Jasmine Diaz 2 months ago

    I understand 100 percent how she feels and she right anyone can get emotionally abuse I know cause my stepdad did it to me and the only person that care was my dad even know he was on drugs at that time but he still care unlike my mom she always took my stepdad side even know she knew he was wrong and she till take his side no matter what

  • Rukshar Manihar
    Rukshar Manihar 2 months ago

    One of my story !

  • Poopin Cheese
    Poopin Cheese 2 months ago

    Jake is a jerk

  • The Graveyardbabe
    The Graveyardbabe 2 months ago +1

    I spent 3 years with a person like this. He even cheated on me. It destroyed me because I always thought everything was my fault. I'm still afraid of doing something wrong.

  • Mamta Phatak
    Mamta Phatak 2 months ago

    1like = For the girl
    Comment = How do feel about Jake.

  • Bibi Banana
    Bibi Banana 3 months ago

    1 like=bad luck for jake

  • Fluffy Boi
    Fluffy Boi 3 months ago

    Can she be my therapist pls

  • Shorty Remix
    Shorty Remix 3 months ago +1

    Fuck the “bond” at 2:27, break up with him!