Hey Steve: The Friend’s Wife Causes Problems || STEVE HARVEY

  • Published on Apr 22, 2019
  • She’s been friends with a man for over 10 years, and now his wife is causing problems. Should she expect him to defend their friendship?
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Comments • 856

  • autumn cullen
    autumn cullen 3 days ago

    I don't know who needs to hear this but honey your soulmate is not that womans husband!

  • D D
    D D 5 days ago

    Has she lost her rabid ass mind. I hate her dignify attitude like I don't deserve to feel bad and be treated this way. The wife established the boundaries and said listen he's married he doesn't need your friendship anymore leave us alone and she's acting like the victim. He made it very clear to her that he does not care to preserve the friendship and he or she is still thinking about him what a loser

  • Catalan Don
    Catalan Don 6 days ago

    Steve is right

  • dhilip kumar
    dhilip kumar 11 days ago

    Thank you!!! Ma man Steve Harvey.

  • asjeje
    asjeje 12 days ago

    So I have to disconnect from my best friend just because I have a wife am not doing that especially if we were friends before my wife. Let's be honest wife is insecure because the best friend is attractive. They been friends over TEN YEARS

  • Faisal Mushtaq
    Faisal Mushtaq 13 days ago

    Truth is always harsh... I like it Steve sometimes bluntly truthful.

  • Arthur Salas
    Arthur Salas 16 days ago

    Women are manipulative both emotionally and socially, just like in a divorce a woman will do all she can to keep the kids from the father and lie to her kids about their father. It gives them a since of power and control to hold something over the father of their children. The wife wants to cut off his social circles and has no trust or respect for her husband. She probably doesn’t even feel threatened by this woman just wants the control of being able to take her away so her husband has no one but her. I’ve also seen lots of psycho wives that don’t want their husbands to have anything to do with their families. It’s really sad

  • Dark Sister
    Dark Sister 17 days ago

    It was simple the wife was jealous. I think the husband knew it. She was just a little cowardly in saying I don't want you to hang out with my husband anymore

  • Lady Rootz
    Lady Rootz 20 days ago

    Cuz ur friends with her man....ya haffi ovastand

  • Lindalee Law
    Lindalee Law 24 days ago

    When a best friend gets married, the single friend must step back.

  • Lindalee Law
    Lindalee Law 24 days ago

    No. No. No and no.
    YOU DIDNT GET THE MESSAGE ..He's married .
    Women, stop it.

  • Shaddae Lewis
    Shaddae Lewis 24 days ago

    I would love to hear the situation that she is talking

  • ladooshopprincess
    ladooshopprincess 25 days ago

    Lol this is hilarious! This woman actually has the nerve to think that her ‘best friend’ will defend HER to HIS WIFE WHO HE HAS TO SEE AND BE WITH EVERYDAY OF HIS LIFE?!? Ummm the second he got married, you should have backed off. Men do not need female ‘friends’ in their lives after they are married, whatever happens before is the past. The only females that should be in a man’s life after he’s married are the ones he’s related to by blood, not ones who play brother and sister. And before I get jumped, the same goes for women. The second I got married, i put my husband first and cut off all of my male friends, no matter how close we were because my home comes before the outside world. My husband comes before anyone else and I would expect the same respect from him. You are an intruder in their marriage and you gots to go sweetie. Sorry for the tough love but it’s the truth. There is no reason that you should be near someone else’s husband or know more about someone else’s spouse than the actual spouse (which is usually the case with best friends). Ever heard the song ‘you make me wanna’ by usher?!?!🤨🤨🤨

  • Mr London
    Mr London 26 days ago

    People her age still do that best friend between men and women rubbish?

  • Whalesnamedshark
    Whalesnamedshark 29 days ago

    We need better parents to teach kids these things

  • Luke Wilmoth
    Luke Wilmoth 29 days ago

    If she’s not secure enough why get married, obviously wasn’t ready yet if she’s trying to be that controlling 😂

  • Sanyu Ndekou
    Sanyu Ndekou Month ago

    Girl, that's her husband and it's time you move on.

  • Name
    Name Month ago

    I have male family friends I consider cousin because I knew them since I was a baby and I still wouldn't be hanging around or texting them. It's just disrespectful to their wife and it's weird. We aren't kids anymore. I'll come to the birthdays and stuff but other than that married people have their own lives now. Besides I don't really want to hang out with married people with kids. I find their lives boring and we gradually have little in common.

  • Perfectly Imperfect

    I became so emotional while watching this because I'm someone who values friendship a lot. True and real friends are few and far between. I think this situation could've been handled differently. Not only did she lose her bestie of over 10 years, she lost a family. It probably feels like a death to her. The only question I have is, why are so many people in the comments so ready to invalidate her pain? Why does her being as hurt as she is mean that she is in love with him? Is she not meant to feel hurt over losing her friend/brother? You can't choose your family but you can choose your friends. Friends are family that you choose and that's why losing a friend can sometimes hurt more than losing a blood relative. The fact that her pain is so palpable is a testament to how much this friendship meant to her. Can we please show more compassion to each other. Let's not be so quick to judge😭😭😭😭.

  • devin weber
    devin weber Month ago

    these people are slow

  • devin weber
    devin weber Month ago

    u cant treat a person any way you want its wrong shes a bioch

  • devin weber
    devin weber Month ago

    steves wrong he a
    beta if he dont do anything.next will be him

  • Nikki wilson
    Nikki wilson Month ago

    Odds are that marriage will have issues. If the wife couldn't communicate whatever her concerns were to make her feel compelled enough to act out then her coping and communication skills are shot. And in time it will trickle over to her spouse. What u watch them do to others they will eventually do to u.

  • Catprincess
    Catprincess Month ago

    Has she got black contacts in?

  • chanelle dee
    chanelle dee Month ago

    Get a boyfriend and stop trying to be a home wrecker

  • Reinette SINED
    Reinette SINED Month ago

    Where was the wife when he knew her! My would still be my friend

  • Phuong Huynh
    Phuong Huynh Month ago

    This would make sense if you’re his sister or extended family, but if you’re just a friend, he better not stand up against his wife for you. He can fight for an amicable relationship between his wife and his family, but not between his WIFE and just a childhood friend. Cmon now should be obvious

  • Cali T
    Cali T Month ago

    Great episode!!!

  • clove 1971
    clove 1971 Month ago

    Again I typically don't agree with Steve but I do agree with him on this. Move on lady and get a life

  • Chevy Paige
    Chevy Paige Month ago

    most friendships don't last forever they have their time & place! It sucks but move on!

  • jijsta
    jijsta 2 months ago

    Sorry wife trump's friend.. that's your friend's choice.. you got to live him alone.

  • 6spider4
    6spider4 2 months ago

    Vows or no vows that's no excuse for treating someone badly

    • KrypticKitty
      KrypticKitty 17 days ago

      Its obviously her one sided view of it

  • jinxjaws
    jinxjaws 2 months ago

    I don't think that the woman has the right to demand the Split with a longterm friend.

  • daAmazin FatB0y
    daAmazin FatB0y 2 months ago

    Nope.....this dude is perfectly in the right and you gotta be in the background.

  • Salome Kabinga
    Salome Kabinga 2 months ago +1

    He should open his mouth. Must all friendships end because of love?? 😢😢😢

  • KeiKei Jefferson
    KeiKei Jefferson 2 months ago

    Whew chile!!! You're the problem!!!

  • Galaxi 7
    Galaxi 7 2 months ago

    Seems to be two types of people in the comment section. Jealous, insecure women and immature, insincere men.

  • Kita Kelley
    Kita Kelley 2 months ago

    Girl know your place. I know it's disappointing that you lost a friend, but his wife comes first , even if she was disrespectful. Also women are territorial.

  • Papa Cage
    Papa Cage 2 months ago +1

    Everyone in this comment section could be on r/nicegirls
    If this dude's wife is so insecure about their realtionship that he can't have female friends then the female friends aren't the problem.
    Men and women can be friends without any other feelings being there, and just because they aren't related by blood doesn't mean they can't have a brother-sister type of relationship.

  • giselle joseph
    giselle joseph 2 months ago

    Girl define friend to a married man she would not trust u

  • kgoldmon
    kgoldmon 2 months ago

    "The Friend's Wife Causes Problems"? uh no, more like "The Husband's Friend Causes Problems for the Wife"

  • Kevin A.
    Kevin A. 3 months ago

    It's over sis 😂 until you get married too or something

  • Carleen-Mariee
    Carleen-Mariee 3 months ago

    I feel like the comments in here are a little harsh. I Defo agree, okay it’s his wife so she should fall back, but imagine having a bestfriend for years that’s become family and you genuinely don’t see them in an form of romantic way and then because the wife in my opinion is insecure, you lose that friendship. I see it from both perspectives🤷🏾‍♀️. My question is, does that wife have any guy friends? Has she been allowed to keep them? Hmmm and if the shoe was switched would the reaction be the same. I don’t know

  • Sparkle LovesYou
    Sparkle LovesYou 3 months ago

    Ppl are crazy... You have no place inn their marriage period. No way to get around that. I had a platonic relationship with a friend and he got married and his wife wouldn't meet me and didn't want me around I told him that he had to honor her wishes. No one comes before your wife/husband. If she was a true friend she would understand that. If she was a real woman with pure intentions she wouldn't press the issue and respectfully back off like she would want a woman to do if she were someone's wife.

  • Chuna G
    Chuna G 3 months ago

    Bye girl

  • Vreanna Renee
    Vreanna Renee 3 months ago

    No ma'am leave them alone. You are not above his wife.

  • Tonice Mon’a
    Tonice Mon’a 3 months ago


    LARY GIBBIONS 3 months ago

    My niece was married and she had several men as friends!. Her husband did not care because
    they we all just friends and he knew this!. He never ever had a problem with her Male friends!.

  • TMac473
    TMac473 3 months ago

    I’d love to hear Steve’s advice if the sexes were reversed. So many women think it’s ok to have a male “friend”. Hypocrisy 101

  • ams30393
    ams30393 3 months ago

    Trust me. You are going to be 60 still not married, waiting for him. Why would you go to such length of having an altercation with wife over her husband you call friend? Why do you want the husband to be between your fights? Leave them alone and find a husband. Never fight with this woman. She is right. You were friends. Accept that the friendship is over. Move on even to a different city. Moving on is easier that way. Goodness. My 6th sense is telling me the friendship is more. One is lying to the other.

  • j Pat
    j Pat 3 months ago

    I had a male friend like that. I just faded into the background. This girl ain't got enough sense to do the same.

  • plum 777
    plum 777 3 months ago

    No, thank you 😂😂😂😂😂😂

  • reggie paramoure
    reggie paramoure 3 months ago

    This is a very sensitive topic in monogamous relationships. I believe the husband should have an open conversation with his wife to gain clarity on the situation. If in the conversation the wife reveals being uncomfortable with the situation with legit reason then as husband you must set the necessary boundaries with your female friend. If she’s a true friend she’ll understand and play her part but if she’s not she’ll disappear like the rest of your fake friends.

  • MrsAmayaKobe
    MrsAmayaKobe 3 months ago +2

    👩🏽 if you don’t take a seat and wait on your on man 👌🏿👌🏿👌🏿💯💯💯

  • tshireletso khumalo
    tshireletso khumalo 3 months ago

    Handling it respectfully would've been to leave 'em alone...

  • Sha
    Sha 3 months ago

    For once i disagree with steeve if is a friends from a very long time like a bff because me i do believe in male and female friendship most of women who dont like female around day they still have a male friend (bff) 😒

  • Efua Abok
    Efua Abok 3 months ago

    Very well spoken lady

  • True Real Pearl
    True Real Pearl 3 months ago

    Why do people take so long to get to their question?!?

  • Jae Jae
    Jae Jae 3 months ago

    Steve’s so smart. Love his directness

  • T.C. Harris-Durrant
    T.C. Harris-Durrant 3 months ago

    Why do females always quote years when talking about a friend. So many of you all don't respect the friend zone go away.. You think way too highly of yourself like he supposed choose you. Get over yourself. Know your place and move on.

  • naturally_blessing
    naturally_blessing 3 months ago

    I love how she tried to articulate that well. Psshhh. Honey, wake up. You are 'the other woman' that every Wife hates. Goodbye.

  • Mariana Estrada-Salas
    Mariana Estrada-Salas 3 months ago

    I'm glad when my friends got married, we were all friends way before so we all hang out and there's nothing awkward no jealousy, nothing. I can hug my guy friends, sit next to them, joke around with them and their wives won't be mad because they're my friends too. We've all known each other 10+ years.

  • Charlene Stevens-Townes

    Girllllll You Got Nerve!!! Please MOVE ON..You NOT A VICTIM!🙄

  • V
    V 3 months ago

    she wants her friend to have her back against his own wife 😂😂😂

    VIP TEAM 3 months ago +5

    He picked the wife for a reason. Your friendship wasnt good enough to marry, just accept it.

  • jamey smith
    jamey smith 3 months ago

    She doesnt have a man.shes stupid as hell and lonely

  • Emily W
    Emily W 3 months ago

    I love when steve gets brutally honest.

  • Iyinoluwa O
    Iyinoluwa O 3 months ago +1

    Some of my mum's closest friends are guys, my dad is good friends with them now too (they go on guys trips together) & my mum does day trips with their wives but even when single, neither parent cut off the other's friends, just made friends with them as well. When everyone knows their place and the friendship is platonic, it can work. My parents still put each other first before even us kids and after God alone and their friend's respect that and do the same.

  • Anasco KLA-US
    Anasco KLA-US 3 months ago

    Obviously she is single, that's the bottom line. I completely understand the wife. So sad for this pretty young lady.

  • no online harrassment
    no online harrassment 3 months ago

    "the wife" she can't be that close with the famly like an aunt if she refers to her friend's wife as " the wife". That just rubbed me wrong. She obviously can't stand her. Move on and don't look back.

  • Myrabel Gbe
    Myrabel Gbe 3 months ago +3

    The fact that all y’all are ok with people being forced to lose friendships because of marriage is so weird, it’s no supposed to be that way

  • RubyRim
    RubyRim 3 months ago +1

    Selfish as hell! This is why I start reducing my communication with my guy friends the minute they get married. I can't have anyone disrespecting me.

    ANIRT MCQUETE GARCIA 3 months ago

    I dont understand girls / wives doing this. I understand distance and not being this close but how can you destroy a 10 year friendship? I doubt she'll do the same if her husband saids that wife cant be friends with this girl.

  • Adwoa Dadson
    Adwoa Dadson 3 months ago

    Back off girl
    He is married

  • Asna B
    Asna B 3 months ago

    i dont need to be married coz i dont need this type of drama