"Everything happens for a reason" -- and other lies I've loved | Kate Bowler

  • In life's toughest moments, how do you go on living? Kate Bowler has been exploring this question ever since she was diagnosed with stage IV cancer at age 35. In a profound, heartbreaking and unexpectedly funny talk, she offers some answers -- challenging the idea that "everything happens for a reason" and sharing hard-won wisdom about how to make sense of the world after your life is suddenly, completely changed. "I believe that in the darkness, even there, there will be beauty and there will be love," she says.
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Comments • 80

  • Nadeen Rashed
    Nadeen Rashed 13 hours ago

    You are so brave thank you for sharing this story I hope you get better I will pray for you 🙏🏼❤️❤️❤️

  • loretta applebee
    loretta applebee 3 days ago

    the scientific version of "everything happens for a reason", evangelized by physicists like kaku : "there is no free will"

  • Tracy Hoàng
    Tracy Hoàng 3 days ago

    Thank you

  • 안수영
    안수영 9 days ago

    This talk is very impressive. What a nice video!
    Thanks for giving me a new hope to live a life.
    'Yesterday is history, tomorrow is mystery, but today is gift. That's why it called present'

  • Shan Yizhe
    Shan Yizhe 18 days ago

    Bad voice

  • soph b
    soph b 20 days ago +1

    I mean, everything is a “test of character.” That’s just life- whether you believe in God, in the universe, in nothing at all. Maybe things don’t just ‘happen for a reason,’ but we do learn from each of our experiences.

  • Israel Letawane
    Israel Letawane 20 days ago

    I respect you so much.

  • Ira
    Ira 21 day ago

    I grew up in a very religious family. I've been told all that god and justice bullshit ever since I was a child. It worked well until I met the right person and faced the criticism on christianity and the idea of god. It took me years to become an atheist. In a way I became free and much more observing. I hope theres alot of people who can understand what I'm talking about. Facing the cruelty of the world and admiting theres probably no one up there to watch over this chaos is really really hard. Sometimes I want to go back to those times when everything was black and white, but once you've seen something you can't unsee it again. No hate, just wanted to say it...

  • Nasir Seyedi
    Nasir Seyedi 22 days ago

    I am really sorry to hear someone who loves to live but they lose their hope and suffer from fear of death ,if it was possible I wish I got it the cancer instead of you because you have had happy life but I have never seen a single day of happiness in my life , being alive has no meaning for me, either god love

  • Manuel Espinosa
    Manuel Espinosa 23 days ago

    Life will break your heart, but sometimes we need to feel alive.

  • Thelifeof VedaMariiee
    Thelifeof VedaMariiee 23 days ago

    Your soft spoken voice and nurtured words helped me get through the thoughts that i always had . Why am i always going through the worst ? Even if i gave my last and all.

  • Alun49
    Alun49 23 days ago +1

    I often re-phrase "everything happens for a reason" as "we can attach to random events meanings that can sometimes be helpful to consider."

  • The Profile
    The Profile 25 days ago

    Some inspiration quotes are only delusions that people want to believe to feel better or don't think too much.
    There is no universal karma, we can't be guaranteed to be rewarded for our good acts and we can't be guaranteed to be punished for our bad acts.

  • verilyheld
    verilyheld 26 days ago

    "Everything happens for a reason."
    Children kill themselves because of bullying, but that's okay, because it's for a reason.

  • Lui Sforza
    Lui Sforza 27 days ago +6

    I've Been Through
    Painful Tragedy...

    " When The Feelings Recede
    Like The Tide
    They Will Leave An Imprint "

  • Nalin Chheang
    Nalin Chheang 28 days ago

    You’re amazing person. Thank you for your story and please be strong as you always.

  • Sonya Berkenpas
    Sonya Berkenpas 28 days ago

    "But I have a son." And he will see this video someday and KNOW how much he is loved and how strong and beautiful his mother is.
    Also, I needed these words today. Your words on how to start living and loving without reasons and assurance that nothing will be lost....so powerful. Thank you.

  • Taha Khniss
    Taha Khniss 28 days ago

    So, verily, with every difficulty, there is relief: إِنَّ مَعَ الْعُسْرِ يُسْرًا Quran

  • D Unicornsio
    D Unicornsio 29 days ago

    You are loved more and more and more then anything in the world can replace a life for . You are love simply the definition of love and you words will always be remembered ❤️

  • Gunwanti Ramchandani
    Gunwanti Ramchandani 29 days ago

    "But I don't know any inspirational quotes."

  • nhi ho
    nhi ho 29 days ago

    So nice :))

  • Phương Nguyễn An

    Hey isnt feeling love and meaning through this a reason?

  • Nicky Davies
    Nicky Davies Month ago

    so im confused does she believe in god or is she an atheist?

  • Stephen Beres
    Stephen Beres Month ago

    We contemplate Eternity beneath the vast indifference of Heaven.

  • The Youth Revive
    The Youth Revive Month ago

    The only problem is we all living in a lost world where evil and good are in war. God would never punish His children with cancers, diseases or accidents to teach them good behaviors. All the punishment had been put on Jesus and all those who belong to Him may have trials in the world (without any reason that come from their action) but behold, Jesus had overcome the world. Never let yourself or lead anyone else fall into the trap of "karma".

  • yoochonix
    yoochonix Month ago

    This TED talk spoke directly to my soul, quite comforting me that there is actually no reason for the bad things...I used to think i did something really evil in life for this to happen. Can we have a follow up of her health status? Is she in remission?

  • Moonlighted.
    Moonlighted. Month ago +1

    I'm crying.

  • Noizy OTR
    Noizy OTR Month ago

    This is far away from the best presentation ever ruclip.com/video/xzh-ofGJ1z0/video.html by Simon Sinek I watched it last night and I'm really impressed 👍🏻

  • My name
    My name Month ago

    same here. after diagnosed I got a lot smarter, I wish I could still be blissfully ignorant

  • Viva Las Vegan
    Viva Las Vegan Month ago

    "Life is beautiful and life is hard" I know dear,

  • It’s me Victor
    It’s me Victor Month ago

    Life is a full of struggle

  • Dreamer Apricot
    Dreamer Apricot Month ago

    Nothing is lost because there is afterlife. I understood that our religion Islam is best because it also says that your efforts wont be nothing because there is afterlife

  • rebrai
    rebrai Month ago

    Ecclesiastes 9:11 I have seen something further under the sun, that the swift do not always win the race, nor do the mighty win the battle, nor do the wise always have the food, nor do the intelligent always have the riches, nor do those with knowledge always have success, because time and unexpected events overtake them all.

  • Gone Anonymous To Stay Employed

    Read Exodus, worship of the golden calf led to the Israelites destruction.

  • Samantha Clarissa
    Samantha Clarissa Month ago

    God the god you think you know does NOT exist :) GOD IS YOU, GOD IS WITHIN YOU AND YOU, only you create IT ALL! yES, Good and bad. We create every moment for good or bad. We don't know many times what we are attracting that's when things go wrong. Everything is in the mind and so we are CREATORS!

  • Don Gillam
    Don Gillam Month ago

    I just want to give her a hug........what an amazing women !

  • Jeniset Gonzalez
    Jeniset Gonzalez Month ago

    🥺🥺 my eyeballs cried out so much idk if any are left ...

  • Monica Lee
    Monica Lee Month ago

    I love this talk💕It makes me understand life more.

  • Diego Argueta
    Diego Argueta Month ago

    Of course, it was the best motivational speech that I've heard, 'cause sometimes we think the worst things, but if we are optimism and we believe, everything is possible 😊

  • Jason Voorhees
    Jason Voorhees Month ago

    the life is beautiful, prayers the life will bring you happiness and miracle

  • Brandon2705
    Brandon2705 Month ago

    The Bible never tells you that your good works will be rewarded with the wealth in the world. Good works aren't even what get you into heaven. Being a good person has nothing to do with it. You just have to acknowledge the fact that the universe didn't create itself, and that we didn't create ourselves. Either we were created, or we created ourselves. To me, only one of those options makes sense. The universe and all in it was created. You don't necessarily need to believe it was God, I personally do, but a force outside of our reality responsible for starting it all.

  • carlos mera
    carlos mera Month ago


  • Manuel Espinosa
    Manuel Espinosa Month ago +1

    Life will break your heart, but sometimes we need to feel alive.

  • Suvderdene Amgalan
    Suvderdene Amgalan Month ago

    when something happens its hard to accept that all I want its fulfilled when I was born . which is I already have everything I wanted its human ID . and whether its good or not those are troubles nothing compared to the beauty HUMAN ID . I realised that I have got everything already and I got it and it has been hidden inside of me

  • Gene Marhovich
    Gene Marhovich Month ago

    This was awesome! Thank you

  • Emma Mackay
    Emma Mackay 2 months ago

    ❤ beautiful soul!!

    MUDIT PUROHIT 2 months ago

    Nothing happens for a reason. All this is total bs.

  • rajeevchugh12
    rajeevchugh12 2 months ago

    Read the Bhagwat Gita. You will have your answers.

  • Deniz Eren
    Deniz Eren 2 months ago

    'Everything happens for a reason' this is one the biggest excuse that the people say when they failed. Or when they don't get what they want. Innocent people are dying every day, what is the fucking Reason?

  • Stephen Atkinson
    Stephen Atkinson 2 months ago

    Wealth and prosperity is found in the import from Canada and your little boy. Embrace life.

  • jack-カイ
    jack-カイ 2 months ago

    then tell me why Kobe and his daughter passed way so young

  • Spew Formula
    Spew Formula 2 months ago

    The most passionate and intense speech I've ever heard👍. I wish all the best for you 💓

  • A.J Deets
    A.J Deets 2 months ago

    I don’t think a lot of people understand what ‘everything happens for a reason’ actually means. It’s not saying there’s a reason behind everything that happens in your life. To me, it means that life is unpredictable and there will be some very good and some very bad things along the way. But you shouldn’t dwell or worry about it because you have to believe everything will be fine in the end. In other words, live in the here and now and just let go.

  • Samy Mahmoud
    Samy Mahmoud 2 months ago

    Has the time not come for those who have believed that their hearts should become humbly submissive at the remembrance of Allah and what has come down of the truth? And let them not be like those who were given the Scripture before, and a long period passed over them, so their hearts hardened; and many of them are defiantly disobedient.
    Read the Quran
    Muslim population 1.9 Why..؟

  • Thảo Ngọc Vũ Hoàng

    your speech left me speechless. I just really hope for the best things to happen to you.

  • Michael Turman
    Michael Turman 2 months ago

    If you read your Bible in its entirety, you'll see it's about mankind's triumphs and tribulations, Graces and Mercies, victories and defeats.
    In it all, God gives us beauty for ashes (Isaiah 61:3).
    When we suffer disappointments we appreciate our successes and happiness that much more. If we never experience setbacks and failures, we'd never appreciate the love and joy that this world brings.
    Disappointment and success are the yin and yang, the two sides of the same coin, the beauty for ashes, and the apathy in exchange for true love's kiss.
    The truth is, without disappointments and failures, we would never know what true happiness is. And we as a species would never grow, learn, mature, live life to the full, or be truly loved in return.
    1 John 4:8
    "God is love."
    1 John 4:19
    "We love because God first loved us."

  • Lynne Mclachlan
    Lynne Mclachlan 2 months ago

    What an amazing lady

  • Francisco da Rocha Rocha

    Without words.

  • Sneha Banskota
    Sneha Banskota 2 months ago

    😭😭Such a strong lady

  • Satish Arockiaraj
    Satish Arockiaraj 2 months ago +1

    May God bless her with the serenity to accept the things that cannot be Changed!! Long live you beautiful soul!!

  • Karen Henderson
    Karen Henderson 2 months ago +1

    what an amazing lady - I too was diagnosed with something rather nasty - and where as "things happen for a reason" may not be exactly the correct belief, I do believe that i have learnt a lot since the diagnosis, my appreciation of everyday has increased, friendship on a real level is healthier, I no longer fear death, I remember when I was told of my diagnosis saying "I can't die I have so much to do" I thought I was special but have now leant that none of us are special and in fact we are all dying! the minute we are born we are dying, so instead of being held in this state of why me, I have thrown myself into nurturing the loves in my life, my family, my friends and my career. I no longer fuss over the trivial stuff, and my mantra has now become "if it aint life threatening dont worry about it"..

  • immaSHRIMP
    immaSHRIMP 2 months ago

    you can't avoid life

  • Conor M
    Conor M 2 months ago

    Gosh this was hard to listen to. I wish you the recovery you dream off

  • Juan Manuel Espinosa
    Juan Manuel Espinosa 2 months ago

    Life is so hard, but sometimes we need to feel alive.

  • papatyalar
    papatyalar 2 months ago

    where she is now?

  • low life xo tour
    low life xo tour 2 months ago +1

    I felt her pain 😥
    God bless u 🌹

  • Quanghuy Nguyen
    Quanghuy Nguyen 2 months ago

    It is a lesson for me.

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  • Xavier Sánchez
    Xavier Sánchez 2 months ago

    Wow! Thank you so much for sharing!

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    Muhammad Parwez ROSTOM 2 months ago


  • deep
    deep 2 months ago +4

    The people that walked in darkness have seen a great light: they that dwell in the land of the shadow of death, upon them hath the light shined. -Isaiah

  • Mahziar Parsapour
    Mahziar Parsapour 2 months ago

    That's incredible!!

  • Emelinda Ike
    Emelinda Ike 2 months ago

    this is the best video i ever seen. you are great woman 🤗🤗

  • billi jeans
    billi jeans 2 months ago

    oh nice story
    i love it

  • Sarah Ezzeddine
    Sarah Ezzeddine 2 months ago

    You're a very nice strong woman
    Get well soon ❤

  • Capricious Men
    Capricious Men 2 months ago

    The only unreplaceable things in life will surely be lost. There are causes to be sure, but reasons why are all our own and in vain.

  • Justice Boofer
    Justice Boofer 2 months ago

    Planet Earth is a meat grinder. Sorry.

  • Jimba Dawa
    Jimba Dawa 2 months ago

    after watching, i just to live my beautiful life with love and serve

  • Silva Gomez
    Silva Gomez 2 months ago +76

    I can’t be the only one that start crying during the first 3 min

  • Giselle Santiago
    Giselle Santiago 2 months ago

    Wow. This spoke to me. Much love to this woman