Do You Think I Had A Baby Too Young? | We Need To Talk

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  • Published on May 25, 2019
  • Esta's life changed when she became a teen mum, but so did her best friend Brogan’s. To bring them closer together, Esta wants to ask her friend 'do you think I had a baby too young?' But is Esta prepared for Brogan's answer?
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Comments • 104

  • Sascha Brinkmann
    Sascha Brinkmann 29 days ago

    Why are so many blacks on BBC? It seems to me as a german that Britain is part of Africa by now? Are there so many blacks in Britain? Or are they just totally overrepresented at BBC?

  • Emma Jamieson
    Emma Jamieson Month ago

    Question is: Do you think it’s ethically right to have a child when you’re not financially stable yet and expect others to pick up after you?

  • Renée De Beer Saab
    Renée De Beer Saab Month ago +1

    The friend was not being honest!! And her dad excuse is nonsense she lost him at 3 not 12... Can she even remember what it was like having him around! I lost my mother at 4 and cant remember one thing about her!!

  • Ultra Conservative
    Ultra Conservative Month ago +1

    Lol 18 yrs is not too young for a baby at all. There are 13 yr olds having kids in other nations, now that's too young.

    • Ultra Conservative
      Ultra Conservative 28 days ago

      @Galaxy McDragon What age do you think is old enough?

    • Galaxy McDragon
      Galaxy McDragon 28 days ago

      King Of Combat I think it is but if you want to do that then that is fine as long as the kid still has a happy life

    • Ultra Conservative
      Ultra Conservative 28 days ago

      @Galaxy McDragon It is a teen but not took young at all.

    • Galaxy McDragon
      Galaxy McDragon 28 days ago

      King Of Combat It is still technically a teen tho but if you think it is fine then you do you

  • Laura Moore
    Laura Moore Month ago

    Of course she was to young, I also hate when people talk about prgenacy like its something done to a person rather then something they did to themselves, especially if you decide to continue with the pregnancy, obvisly her life would be better without a child, she would have more of everything, a child isn't an object to fill a void, most of the reasons people have kids are stupid selfish reasons though so she's not on her own!

  • Iyrah Russell
    Iyrah Russell Month ago +1

    Im 24 and about to give birth, I couldn’t do it being 18 or anything
    Props to alllllll young mums

  • Thiara Sanchez
    Thiara Sanchez Month ago

    What I don’t comprehend is how at 18 years old you’re considered to be “too young” to be a mother, but old enough to serve on a jury. Get a tattoo. Buy cigarettes and tobacco. Buy and drink alcohol in a bar. Join the military. Play the lottery. Listen, fuck society’s standards on what you should do or not do. If you’re happy and you’re content with what you’re doing, let it be. Don’t ever let anyone’s opinions on you make you change yourself or your traditions. So what if she had a baby that young, I respect that more than someone who got pregnant and aborted the baby.

  • Catarina Fonseca
    Catarina Fonseca Month ago

    ❤️🧡💛💕💕💕🙏🧡❤️💕💛

  • Becky Wight
    Becky Wight Month ago +3

    I have two kids aged 2 and 8 months, my partner works and I stay at home with the kids, we live in a little flat and we're HAPPY. I love my life. I'm 21.
    My sister has a 7 year old and a 3 year old. She refuses to get a job, she's a single parent. She takes drugs and is CRUEL to her babies. She makes other people take them because she hates being a parent. She's 31.
    Age has nothing to do with being a good parent. It's got nothing to do with how much you love your kids and the perfect age doesn't exist.
    Have kids young or old or don't have any just don't try to tell a person they are the wrong age. It's insulting.

  • K G
    K G Month ago +41

    they both have really clear skin ❤️

  • Star-Angeliah Cole
    Star-Angeliah Cole Month ago +18

    Before I had a baby, I knew I wanted to be married to the love of my life,
    I wanted to have a job,
    & I wanted to have my own house.
    I also had a baby fund which had over a thousand pounds in.
    In 1997 I found the ONE, he had been in my life for years yet I only noticed him in the supermarket in June 1997.
    We celebrated our 1st year together by getting married ~ I was 22 yrs old. We had purchased our own home a month before our wedding. On my 23rd birthday I found out I was pregnant with our 1st child, our amazing daughter Chloe-Renae.
    I don't think anyone is "ready" or has enough "money" to have a baby. I think I was lucky to have all my boxes ticked.
    My life actually haven't been easy but I have been happily married for 21 years & I have 4 incredible children & 1 baby girl in heaven.

  • KKa
    KKa Month ago +3

    The delayed response meant low key yes 🙄

  • Sorcha O'Reilly
    Sorcha O'Reilly Month ago +18

    You don't get to tell someone they're "too young"! 18 is an adult. There can be such thing as "too unprepared" and "had sex for the wrong reasons" but it's not easy no matter what the age age there is a lot of shaming and pressure in society which is not right.

    • Noora Queen
      Noora Queen Month ago +1

      Still a teen it’s called teen parent

  • Foreversleeping17 Xo
    Foreversleeping17 Xo Month ago +6

    Guess who’s no longer best friends lol

  • pvnks
    pvnks Month ago

    i was 18 when i was pregnant

  • janelle jandreau
    janelle jandreau Month ago +1

    It was Esta's choice and her life. Brogan needs to live her own life.

  • frito burrito
    frito burrito Month ago +9

    There’s no “too young” or “too old” you have kids when you think you are ready to have kids. Obviously that means stay in legal range but telling people they had a child too young is literally nothing more than an opinion. It’s all about whether you are sure if you want kids or not at that moment.

    • KKa
      KKa Month ago +2

      There is such thing as "too young". The legal age for sex is like 16 here but you would barely finish school or have a job so there is such a thing as too young. Can't see the point in struggling if you can wait until a point when you don't have to or will struggle less at least. This question is kind of pointless, no ones opinion matters as it won't change anything. All you can do is take responsibility be the best parent you can be and be there for your child. They are your number one priority.

  • Emily Harman
    Emily Harman Month ago +94

    I was pregnant at 16 & had my child at 17. Having a child so young is a massive emotional strain. Yes I was too young but now at the age of 24 I've got a degree & a roof over my head & I'm doing well for myself. But I had to work very hard to get where I am today.

  • Rapid Steve
    Rapid Steve Month ago +16

    reality is people are having kids too young and instead of being good parents just throwing an ipad at them
    makes me sad to remember how I acted as a kid to now see kids that are 10 swearing at their parents because they watch youtube

  • Dakota Miller
    Dakota Miller Month ago +17

    I became a mom at 16. Its not easy at all but I graduated high school started college but had my son. This week I passed my correctional officer test. My 2 kids are my pride and joys and I can't picture not having them in my life even though I had them young.

  • Miss Candy
    Miss Candy Month ago +5

    I had my first at 20 and my second/last at 30. I think I was much more prepared at 30. I’d matured, finished college, and was more financially stable by then. I think 30-40 is what I’d shoot for if I had to do it all over again.

    • Hampton Little
      Hampton Little Month ago

      Ideally yes that is the age people should have children. Live your life, do as you wish and enjoy doing nothing for how long you want to do nothing for! Embark on new experiences for yourself, enjoy your freedom!

  • MonkeymagicsMum
    MonkeymagicsMum Month ago +19

    Sounds like a conversation they should have had five years ago. What difference would the answer make now? Not like she can change anything. If you have to ask the question, seems to me like you already know the answer.

    • Sibs Lawrence
      Sibs Lawrence Month ago +2

      I think the reason she asked is because she may have been feeling judged. The best friend did say at the end that she has allowed motherhood to hold her back and not reach goals.

    • DARKKISS
      DARKKISS Month ago +2

      I thought the question was pretty pointless for the same reason.

  • Tamms B
    Tamms B Month ago +2

    Imma say yes honestly, but end of the day you gave birth to a blessing and you’re doing great with your son, most young mums aren’t and don’t grow up and take responsibility for their kids, so good for you. You did that and hopefully you’ll inspire others to do the same including me even though I’m not a mother yet!

  • Alex S
    Alex S Month ago +1

    18? Back in the day, you used to have to be married and working before you had a child. She was way too young.

    • Hannah Collings
      Hannah Collings Month ago

      @Alex S religion is dying out as it should. Having a baby young and unmarried doesn't make my personal standards low.

    • Alex S
      Alex S Month ago

      Hannah Collings I get where you’re coming from. But what I’m saying is that just that times have changed doesn’t mean that personal standards have to aswell. I believe that it’s better to be married and settled before you have kids, and that’s from my personal religious stand point. If you feel like having a kid at 18 is fine, then carry on doing your thing

    • Hannah Collings
      Hannah Collings Month ago

      Im saying times change and so do standards, you aren't allowed to beat your wife and kids anymore and you can have kids without being married. Im saying you're wrong and you don't need to be married and it's ok to have a baby at 18 I did

    • Alex S
      Alex S Month ago

      Hannah Collings are you saying that it’s okay to have a child at 18? Because I don’t think it’s okay to beat your wife and kids.

    • Hannah Collings
      Hannah Collings Month ago

      Back in the day you could beat your wife and children. Times change.

  • Joe Langan
    Joe Langan Month ago

    this is shit

  • BlackSouledCrowz
    BlackSouledCrowz Month ago +4

    Both of them have amazing skin. I can't focus on the video lol i just keep wondering what they are using!

  • Zninja 1162
    Zninja 1162 Month ago +52

    Being a mom is hard, especially when you're that young. But either way, it happened, and personally I don't think there's anything wrong with that. 🙃

  • Jack
    Jack Month ago +14

    If you are financially ready for a child I guess there’s no age for that, if not you shouldn’t be having a child when you’re not ready for one. But personally having a child below 25 is too young imo.

    • s s
      s s Month ago +3

      I dont think it is just if you are financially ready a bigger factor is if you are mentally ready.

  • Liam Matthews
    Liam Matthews Month ago

    Too young but tbh i don't even give a shit as they where paid for this

  • J Jones
    J Jones Month ago +1

    Having a baby or being a single mom

  • FASHION, BEAUTY & WINE
    FASHION, BEAUTY & WINE Month ago +33

    She looks like Dreya from Basketball Wives

  • Dee M.
    Dee M. Month ago +34

    I was 21 when i got pregnant, still way too young, but my son saved my life ❤. I wish i would've been smarter when i was younger, but i was on a dark path and my baby changed everything. He is my truest love.

    • Leah star
      Leah star Month ago +2

      Me2!

    • Megatron Yhyh
      Megatron Yhyh Month ago +7

      See just because people go through really hard times doesn’t mean that they have a baby and it makes it harder for them, most of the time it saves your life, not ruins it.❤️

    • Renee Myricks
      Renee Myricks Month ago +10

      My son saved my life too. After I had him I no longer had suicidal thoughts.

  • elji02
    elji02 Month ago +3

    See? Young woman got a child and nothing bad happened. No need for abortion to avoid the consequences of your actions. :)

  • Julia cardassian
    Julia cardassian Month ago +13

    I have my son when I was 17.an now my son look like my brother we are best friend am so proud of him

  • Nella Grace
    Nella Grace Month ago +18

    If you are between the ages of 18-30yrs old. You should not have a child. Your 20s are for going off to college , traveling and finding yourself. I had my son at 21 and made terrible mistakes I have to live with. I had to grow up with him. I have many regrets but my son isn't one. I made a lot of bad decisions in life but the best decision I made was having him.

    • Hello Dear
      Hello Dear Month ago +2

      Nella Grace
      Yes ideally you’d want to go and do all that but who says you can’t with a child? That’s just your experience.
      I’m 18 with a one year old and I’m doing everything i would have done Normally. I’m sitting alevels for a start and want to go to uni meanwhile I’ve had friends who’ve had to resist a year and whatever. I’ve never had to resist and do better than many other people my age

    • Kathleen Adeshoga
      Kathleen Adeshoga Month ago +5

      I know people who are quite comfortable and established in their respective fields by 25-30 I dont think think that it's as strict as that. But I understand what your saying in a sense.

  • alimar pr
    alimar pr Month ago +17

    there is never a right age,i am 33 and now i am scare of having kids,i would rather have them young and the energy

    • BVBG33K
      BVBG33K Month ago

      @Adam Alvarez Actually a woman in her 30s is referred to as a geriatric mother in medicine. As there are way more risks of a child developing life altering conditions or for example: an increased likelihood of down syndrome. Also, once you hit 35 your eggs deplete and you only have limited eggs.

    • Adam Alvarez
      Adam Alvarez Month ago +3

      @Ahmed Hassan not everyone goes to menopause in their 40s. No one said 33 isn't old enough to have children. I simply said to the OP that 30 isn't even old, she implied that it is old and she rather have them when she is young. A lot of people have their children in their late 20s and early 30s.

    • Ahmed Hassan
      Ahmed Hassan Month ago +1

      @Adam Alvarez women go through menopause in their 40s so how is 33 not old enough

    • Sophie Sophie
      Sophie Sophie Month ago +2

      You don’t have to have them

    • Adam Alvarez
      Adam Alvarez Month ago +6

      alimar pr 33 isn’t old though. 😕

  • Matt Powell OFFICIAL
    Matt Powell OFFICIAL Month ago +13

    It’s best to be married young and have children young. It’s not an issue to support a child if you’re married and doing things God’s way.

    • Hannah Collings
      Hannah Collings Month ago +1

      Im 19 unmarried, living with my partner with a beautiful baby boy. I have a good job and im studying higher education, God has nothing to do with it.

  • eon001
    eon001 Month ago +71

    How is this not a question you've already asked your best friend? Anyway 18 is too young regardless.

    • Just Kate
      Just Kate Month ago +1

      I had my son at 18, it it young to have a child but I think I’ve done a good job. It’s not a question I ever asked my friends.

    • Hannah Collings
      Hannah Collings Month ago +4

      Im 19 , I got pregnant at 18. It was planned, im financially stable , living with my partner etc. It's perfect timing for us,18 isn't too young if you have your shit together.

    • JLew
      JLew Month ago +9

      They probably never had to have the conversation until now .. it’s clearly emotional for them to do it too ..

    • Lady bug
      Lady bug Month ago +9

      Maybe but there are many 18 year old out there who had kids and are doing a much better job then a lot of parents in there 30s

  • Mylife Mollybrazier
    Mylife Mollybrazier Month ago +1

    I am 18 and I never grew up with a dad and I got a step dad at 13 so I understand the pain

  • Mylife Mollybrazier
    Mylife Mollybrazier Month ago +71

    I don't see how this is a hard question to he honest?

    • It’s Shithead
      It’s Shithead Month ago +1

      Because she loves her child, how tf can you not understand that

  • ChikaCherry / Artist of Trash

    Yes, makes sense your an idiot for it.

  • Collie House
    Collie House Month ago +4

    Brainwashed freaks.

  • OxM
    OxM Month ago +11

    My mum had me when she was 16

  • Osob Jama
    Osob Jama Month ago +26

    Why is taking care of a baby and being a full time mother not enough? That in itself is hard enough and deserves mountains of praise.

  • Karmarie
    Karmarie Month ago +14

    A hole in me hat

  • PTPfightwisdom
    PTPfightwisdom Month ago +12

    Kids are not pets. Most people who have kids shouldn't even have kids at all. Or pets.

    • PTPfightwisdom
      PTPfightwisdom Month ago +2

      @Zain K this is probally the worst era of parenting I agree. Too many distractions. The phone and social media doesnt help. And drugs. Broken homes. Kind of sad but we should honestly spade and neuter people like cats and dogs. Is that population control ? Would the world be better off with 4 billion people or 16 billion ?

    • Zain K
      Zain K Month ago +2

      There are some parents I don't understand who have kids. I get angry when I see kids messing around, going on peoples property and their parents not doing anything about it. Don't know if the parents have given up trying to discipline them or just bad from the start.

    • Karmarie
      Karmarie Month ago

      Pets are can be kids.

  • Indie
    Indie Month ago

    👑

  • Baftagirl London
    Baftagirl London Month ago +288

    She was too young.. Having a child won't fill that void. Won't keep a relationship together. Won't make a man/woman love you more. Having a child because of loss, loneliness and entrapment Is just a plaster on a gun shot wound.. Deal with your issues before you add a child to the mix x

    • Zain K
      Zain K Month ago +1

      @BVBG33K make sure it gets you in the career path you want. I heard from a friend that nowadays employers look at people with at least a masters. Don't know if it's true or if that also means you need extra qualifications other than a undergraduate degree. Thing with some unis / courses you can get anyone getting in there. There's someone who left school at 12 and came back in in uni. Do have to admit she's a nice girl and have a feeling she will get a first class.

    • BVBG33K
      BVBG33K Month ago +1

      @Zain K I am torn between a masters and a PGDE

    • Zain K
      Zain K Month ago +2

      @BVBG33K that's good to know from your perspective 👍. I just feel that when I see people in university around my age I'd say a good amount don't act mature. There's obviously some who are mature for their age. Don't know if it's like you said down to certain events. Wish you the best though for your next step in your education 👍. Just finished my degree also and just planning what to do next 😬

    • BVBG33K
      BVBG33K Month ago +2

      @Zain K mid twenties? Noone is ever really ready, I'm 20 and finishing my degree now with a 6 month old son. I'm a good mother, 'growing up' well it depends on life events and whether you were sheltered whether you are 'grown up'. Believe me, I've travelled, been with the same guy since I was 16, experienced university partying which is tedious and honestly do not see a reason why you need to put an age on something that we have been doing for thousands of years.

    • Hello Dear
      Hello Dear Month ago +2

      Baftagirl London
      Agreed if you’re really unstable or in a bad relationship try to avoid having kids
      But I’m sure for many people when it happens it can set you on the right path actually so it just depends
      And this applies to people of all ages not just young parents really

  • eliscia tomlinson
    eliscia tomlinson Month ago +3

    3rd

  • King Khan
    King Khan Month ago +38

    Ask yOuself that question you weird women

  • maram hssin
    maram hssin Month ago +2

    1st comment

  • RickandMortyforlive

    2nd