I Failed To Save My Girl From Her Father

  • Published on May 15, 2019
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    Hi everybody! My name is Gordon, I'm 17 years old and for a year already I've had a girlfriend. Well, I HAD a girlfriend. I would like to tell you why I broke up with her.
    I liked Emma very much. She was so fragile, so modest, so beautiful. Most modern girls aim to be in no way inferior to guys but Emma was pure meekness. She always let me choose which movie to watch or which meal to order. And she never argued with me. I always felt very strong and masculine when I was with her.
    But as time passed, I started to find these particular qualities pretty annoying. Maybe I just didn't appreciate how lucky I was, but I got bored because she always agreed with me.
    The only thing that she was painfully strict about was time when she had to be at home. She was petrified by the very idea that she could come home after eight P.M..
    Once, we were stuck in traffic on our way back from the movies and she sobbed violently all the way home, and she didn't want to explain to me why she could not simply call home and explain that she would be like fifteen minutes late!
    At first I thought that her parents were very strict, but then I met them at a picnic and they seemed very nice!
    Emma’s mother was still very beautiful, and Emma looked and acted a lot like her, very quiet and polite. I doubt she has ever scolded anyone.
    Emma’s father, Mark, made a great impression on me! Very bright, witty, self-confident, and charismatic.I'm embarrassed to admit this, but I even tried to compare him to my own father… and my old man totally lost.
    So, I had taken a lot pictures on the day of the picnic and the day after my mother and I went to visit her sister - my aunt.
    I've loved aunt Mary since my childhood and I always tell her in detail about everything that is going on in my life. So she knew that I had a girlfriend and now I told aunt Mary that I had finally met Emma’s family and showed her the photos from yesterday’s picnic.
    Aunt Mary couldn't wait to see the pictures, until she saw Emma’s father in one of them. She broke off and it seemed like her hand was shaking.
    “Do you know what his name is?” she asked in a strange, empty voice. And when I answered: “Of course! It's Mark!” she jumped up and ran out of the room. My mother followed her and I was left alone in the room, totally clueless.
    Soon my mother came back, looking very serious. “She'll be alright,” she said, answering my silent question and then added: “But you have to know something. A while ago your aunt knew Mark very well. And it was the most terrible story of her life.
    And my mom told me that Mary and Mark used to go out together - a long time ago, before I was even born. In the beginning everything was fine and aunt Mary was head over hills in love with this brilliant, macho guy. But soon she realized that Mark was trying to control her more and more. He decided what she should wear, which girls she should be friends with, and even which books she should read. And when she tried to object, he became more and more aggressive.
    …When he hit her for the first time, she was ready to leave him. But he didn't want to let her go. He became so nice again and asked for her forgiveness promising that everything would change.
    But nothing changed. As soon as Mary thought that everything was back to normal, Mark started to tighten his grip. And everything turned out bad again, Mary tried to leave him, he wouldn't let her go, and the story repeated again. And again. And again.
    At the end, Mary no longer understood what was going on and what she felt toward Mark - whether she loved him or whether she was afraid of him. She kept telling her parents that everything was great and that they were going to get married. Until her older sister, my mother, noticed the bruises on her hands and demanded that she tell her the truth.
    My mother helped aunt Mary to get rid of her abuser, they went to the police, and Mary got a court order to keep Mark away from her.
    But Mary never got over this relationship. Neither pills nor psychologists could help her. Since then she has been afraid of being in a relationship and has stayed single forever.
    I was shocked. And as we went home, I was thinking about Emma, her mother… and Mark. I started to realize that he has not changed at all. I remembered that Emma’s mother was wearing a long-sleeved shirt - probably to hide the bruises from her husband’s hands? I remembered how both she and her daughter meekly agreed with him. I also remembered how Emma was scared of being home late, even like by a minute... she was scared to death!
    I have to confess that when I went out with Emma the next time… I conducted a cruel experiment.

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Comments • 14 653

    ACTUALLY HAPPENED  4 months ago +5815

    Have you or anyone you've known ever met an abuser? Tell us in the comments and please share this story, 'сus we think it's really important - to resist people who try to control other people like this.

    • John Rattlesnake
      John Rattlesnake 12 days ago

      Yes but I helpmhim

    • Julya T.
      Julya T. 17 days ago

      My brother doesn’t really abuse me he just gets angry easily but he’s still a really nice person

    • Anthony Nguyen
      Anthony Nguyen Month ago


    • Gamer Wolf
      Gamer Wolf Month ago

      Not to the extent in the video but yes

    • Kimberly Moore
      Kimberly Moore Month ago

      Im sorry but im to embarrassed to tell anyone

  • IblueWolfHourss timeless

    My name is mark

  • Shadow The hedgehog
    Shadow The hedgehog 18 hours ago

    rest in peace

  • Silly Nigga
    Silly Nigga Day ago

    The title should be “My girlfriend did not let me save her from her father”

  • Henry Flores
    Henry Flores Day ago

    Omg that's bad

  • Googoomonkey Club

    Is no one going to address the fact he called his girl a him

  • PhiAn Tafili Pomee
    PhiAn Tafili Pomee 2 days ago

    idk- but at the start of when he sayd i liked , did he say i liked him very much or .

  • Sharina Khan
    Sharina Khan 2 days ago +1

    So u left her... 👏🏻👏🏻👏🏻 good job!! 🙄🙄

  • Kiro Uchiha
    Kiro Uchiha 2 days ago

    2:08 bruh dat neck

  • NinjasHyper 19874
    NinjasHyper 19874 3 days ago

    Him you mean her

  • GOS_RaiderYT
    GOS_RaiderYT 3 days ago

    0:12 I liked him gay????

  • Miller Cornejo
    Miller Cornejo 4 days ago +1


  • WhatIsNormal
    WhatIsNormal 5 days ago +1

    you said him put the voulmue up to hear in 13 seconds the he time he said that

  • sean sweeney
    sean sweeney 5 days ago

    No if that stupid girl wants to get abused. Stay out of it

  • Leia Fraser
    Leia Fraser 5 days ago +1

    At the start he said he and then said she😕

  • Cora V.f
    Cora V.f 6 days ago

    Sorry say that again, why you left her??

  • Winter Gaming
    Winter Gaming 6 days ago

    The place where you are sitting or standing is lava! in



  • nasheka bryan
    nasheka bryan 6 days ago

    What a waste of 9 months he is.

  • Fightertate Login Wilsonn

    Him what do mean by him it a she :/

  • Sam Alexander Wilkinson

    Wow bro you pretty much shamed all men here...its pretty obvious that she was being abused...so instead of protecting her and support her...you LEFT HER???

    • xDorothii; Not Uploadin'
      xDorothii; Not Uploadin' 5 days ago

      He was a child. Teens are often are stupid. I would wait until i can marry her then convince her to tell the, police about her dad

  • Private Information
    Private Information 8 days ago

    That's what they say that they don't want you to interfere with their life, but if you ever loved her you would go back and help her.

  • Vipmrcraine Awesome
    Vipmrcraine Awesome 8 days ago

    I like HIM

  • The Bloxxs
    The Bloxxs 8 days ago

    lol xd i wana be prancer

  • unicorn lets play
    unicorn lets play 8 days ago

    My dad hits my mom

  • SpawnAlSimmons 1987
    SpawnAlSimmons 1987 8 days ago

    Why you didn't tried something else?

  • cute puppy
    cute puppy 9 days ago +1

    My dad’s name is Mark... but it’s spelled M.A.R.C

  • NequaEats
    NequaEats 9 days ago +2

    I also think he was trying to control his girlfriend to the point that he got bored.She needed someone to treat her different from her father but her boyfriend failed.. HE is no different...

    • xDorothii; Not Uploadin'
      xDorothii; Not Uploadin' 5 days ago

      Her boi couldn't notice it at first he has no psychological degree for this. Also not everyone can take the perfect action

  • Little Wolfie
    Little Wolfie 9 days ago

    My dad was an abuser and my step dad is too but my mom doesn't know my step dad is..😣

  • Chad Standifer
    Chad Standifer 9 days ago

    He sad him😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭🤯😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭😭🤯😭😭😭😭😭

  • BloxerPlayzz
    BloxerPlayzz 9 days ago

    0:11. .....

  • Tunes System
    Tunes System 10 days ago +1

    Many times, people don’t want to accept that people close to them are abusive. They will often make excuses - more so the longer they have been close to the abuser. If you report it, she may never forgive you for the consequences. But she will be safer.
    You pointed out all the things that she suffered over at his hands, you pointed out that they were problems. She knew that already; she already accepted that. But then you started talking about taking serious action - doing things that would drastically change her life. Change can be scary, especially when you have such an unstable foundation underneath you. The unknown future is always more intimidating than the familiar present. She got scared. She went into denial to escape her fear - made excuses for why that action is a bad idea. That contempt she displayed was because of fear. Everything you saw there was the result of her fear. And when your suggestion scared her, you left.
    Not that it was your fault. Like you said, you didn’t understand. I hope this helps, if you see it. One option would have been to try to warm her up to the idea. But that’s slow and tiring and it might not work - she might just become increasingly defensive. It’s a hard way to try to help. Another way is to report it anyway - bring all the evidence that you have and convince the police to investigate. She will resent you. She might get over it when her life settles back down. She might not. But she’ll be safe whether she consents to being safe or not. Or, of course, you can drop it and leave that choice up to someone else, assuming someone else will be able to see through the abuser’s mask. I don’t think there is an easy action to take in these situations.

  • AstroBoyFan2019
    AstroBoyFan2019 10 days ago +1

    Well Gordy’s aunt is from his mom’s side, not his dad’s side.

  • Kero kerem
    Kero kerem 11 days ago +1

    Small world...

  • NoahStarves
    NoahStarves 11 days ago +1

    “Vry body”

  • We like Sports
    We like Sports 12 days ago

    0:13 I liked him u gay?

  • Bálint Dubravcsik
    Bálint Dubravcsik 12 days ago

    0:13 I liked him só much.

  • Benjamin Hansson
    Benjamin Hansson 12 days ago

    That sounds like my moms boyfriend 😔

  • Shut up Channel
    Shut up Channel 13 days ago

    He said he liked *him*

  • Rey Naldo
    Rey Naldo 13 days ago +2

    0:00 - 0:08
    Hi my name is Kira and I’m 33 years old

    Edit: it is, a jojo reference

  • TRT_devindaboss3 GAMING
    TRT_devindaboss3 GAMING 13 days ago +1

    Did anybody notice how he said I loved him so much in the beginning 🤔 but still a sad story

  • Speederblue
    Speederblue 13 days ago


  • Epic Gaming
    Epic Gaming 13 days ago

    He said he and not she at 5

  • Super Fnaf Damion
    Super Fnaf Damion 14 days ago

    At the start of the vid listen it said I like him

  • Wilfred Peake
    Wilfred Peake 14 days ago

    thats the thing about toxic relationships they are easy to see as a third party but almost impossible to see when in one

  • Moses UBF
    Moses UBF 14 days ago

    If Emma was in high school, a simple talk with the principal or social worker would've probably been best

  • Joanna Saito
    Joanna Saito 15 days ago +1

    15 if you agree that he said he leave a like

  • Rachell Pascua
    Rachell Pascua 15 days ago

    Leave the girl

  • Rachell Pascua
    Rachell Pascua 15 days ago

    Everything is go w to be okay

  • Zaida Barrett
    Zaida Barrett 15 days ago +1

    Well I'm not judge you because they true cleanse read my world and changed so why does my friend and brownies nav well let's fighting love for every time over and over why I don't know why how and why did that but I'm not liking much is a sexy voice

    RPM BLACKRANGER 16 days ago


  • Ben Strutz
    Ben Strutz 16 days ago +1


  • Rose Goodwin
    Rose Goodwin 17 days ago

    I have that happened to me

  • Daniel Garcia
    Daniel Garcia 17 days ago

    Is it me or does he sound like light yagami

  • Eli Spiegelman
    Eli Spiegelman 17 days ago

    0:00 the word 'hi' was cut!

  • Dio PritWow!rd
    Dio PritWow!rd 17 days ago

    I have a girlfriend and I'm 7😍😍😍😘😘💋💋💕💕 pheobe rose garrison western read this I love you I want you to know that ok

  • boxmaster is cool
    boxmaster is cool 17 days ago

    The nailed smile reminds me of the Marionette from fnaf

  • flowers on fleek
    flowers on fleek 17 days ago


  • Ej Cavaliers
    Ej Cavaliers 18 days ago


  • Oliver Reyes
    Oliver Reyes 18 days ago

    I had a best friend Nice to me he always curses at me all the time for no reason always following me at school calling me names. He always acts nice when everyone’s around by everyone when we is not around he asked men

  • Nicole’s World
    Nicole’s World 18 days ago

    You should’ve stayed with her so she could have someone to talk to