How To Be Confident

  • Опубликовано: 8 фев 2017
  • The fastest route to confidence is to stop being so attached to one’s dignity and seriousness; and plainly admit that one is - of course - an idiot. We all are. For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop:
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Комментарии • 1 830

  • Oracle Wyrd
    Oracle Wyrd 4 часа назад

    I don't find calling yourself a fool helps at all.
    Been doing it most my life and ended up a near skilless, middle aged, over weight underachiever. It's only until recently that, as I've been telling myself that I can do things and not think of my negatives, that I even found hope in becoming anything else that what I find myself to be now.

  • a64750
    a64750 20 часов назад

    get FIREd - financial independent retire early on dividend inadequacy melts away, confidence engorge!

  • Janice yan
    Janice yan День назад

    Wish someone told me early

  • Ankita Nawalakha
    Ankita Nawalakha День назад

    Amazing video

  • Breton lord
    Breton lord 4 дня назад

    The problem is when you get rejected or spat on , get fired from your job , and people won't be friendly with you...

  • Anjana Janardhanan
    Anjana Janardhanan 4 дня назад

    Great concept.👌 Kudos to the team👏👏👏

  • Rm
    Rm 4 дня назад

    thank you for the arabic subtitle

  • RobZoneFire
    RobZoneFire 5 дней назад

    Just Do it and Ignore Your Fear

  • Jacob Mendoza
    Jacob Mendoza 6 дней назад

    There's this girl that I find attracted to that I see on the bus now and then, here and there... I think I just might kiss her by surprise hehe lmao cuz idk, I mean, we all have one life, right? I'll do it

  • Roderick Molasar
    Roderick Molasar 6 дней назад

    I am LORD Garth!

  • Grace Kathryn
    Grace Kathryn 7 дней назад

    This helped. Thanks.

  • xueping song
    xueping song 9 дней назад

    I wish I had seen this earlier.

  • A Burrito
    A Burrito 10 дней назад

    stand with me boys! #WeAreIdiots!

  • AJ Truss
    AJ Truss 12 дней назад

    Lotta truth in this. And this is where the saying "just be yourself" comes in. I've noticed that when I'm the more uncensored version of myself I have a lot more fun going out. It honestly works.

  • Krush Works
    Krush Works 12 дней назад

    Might sub after watching, really like the vid.

  • Captain Fish eye
    Captain Fish eye 13 дней назад

    im ugly and im proud

  • ismail bouhariche
    ismail bouhariche 13 дней назад +1

    There are several ideas worth trying
    Work out why you suffer from shyness - the first step to solving a problem is to understand why you have it.
    Be comfortable with yourself - this makes it easier when you meet others.
    Challenge youself - you will gain confidence by taking action - especially by doing things that stretch your limits.
    (I learned these and more tips from sebs shyness tactic site )

  • Buddlebot
    Buddlebot 14 дней назад


  • Heavy Rocky
    Heavy Rocky 15 дней назад

    I AM A NITWIT!!!!!!!!!!!!

  • luke Dog
    luke Dog 15 дней назад

    I like a comedians response "get confident Stupid!

  • Kelvin Shani
    Kelvin Shani 16 дней назад

    this is beautiful.

  • Christian Alexis
    Christian Alexis 16 дней назад

    Being an idiot is fun

    ZA WARUDOO 17 дней назад

    Tell that to depressed people. That oughtta cheer 'em up.

  • grytlappar
    grytlappar 18 дней назад

    This one is my favorite. I almost busted a gut.

  • Nature Cure
    Nature Cure 19 дней назад

    The school of life is a lifesaver!

  • Brian Bernard
    Brian Bernard 21 день назад

    This honestly is amazing, and precisely what I needed to hear. Earlier, even though I've been singing for all of my life, with lessons and coaches throughout, I had a unanimous vote against me in a karaoke contest. Talk about looking like a prick. At the very least, this is something new to try; admitting that failure is the norm, so any flashes of greatness that do happen can be better, and more appropriately, appreciated. I prefer singing my own songs anyway... I think I'll write one mocking my own habits. Cheers!

  • Pikachu Revisoren
    Pikachu Revisoren 21 день назад

    This video got it wrong, rely on your strenghts and boost your ego everytime you gonna do something new. :) "Ofc you can do that! "You the best" and so on. This handbook of confidence is for beta people, if you wanna be alpha, then boost your own ego, everytime you do sometthing! :)

  • David Cordova Santibañez
    David Cordova Santibañez 22 дня назад

    Not sure if you realize the amount of love you are giving to the world through this amazing work you are gifting to us ❤️

  • deeznutz235
    deeznutz235 26 дней назад

    What a slap to the face lol

  • soupspam
    soupspam 28 дней назад

    I’m a compete dipshit and I accept that.

  • Natasa Vujic
    Natasa Vujic 29 дней назад

    Thank you this is fabulous! I needed this for soooo long! :)

  • Bobby Undsoweiter
    Bobby Undsoweiter Месяц назад +1

    thank you. that was beautiful

  • Yudith Consepts
    Yudith Consepts Месяц назад

    This video makes me smile

  • Dimakatjo Phaho
    Dimakatjo Phaho Месяц назад

    Thank you so much for ALL your insightful and encouraging videos. THANK YOU

  • taco cat
    taco cat Месяц назад

    Jordan Peterson has said, before you become a hero you must first be a fool. Basically, before you become a beast at something you usually start off being a idiot and not knowing what you're doing.

  • Kaitlyn Perry
    Kaitlyn Perry Месяц назад

    Why does the "looking like a prick" scene make me laugh so hard

  • Salublox
    Salublox Месяц назад

    I am in year 7 (aged 12) I want to be student council but I'm shy quiet and not confident I really want yo do this but I don't know how. Can you guys help me?

  • ant migzlon
    ant migzlon Месяц назад


  • Vanta Coffee Addict
    Vanta Coffee Addict Месяц назад

    This gave me confidence to be indifferent with whatever is holding me back. Instead take whatever chances I see.

  • Alex T
    Alex T Месяц назад

    "you're already a shithead loser, why not be more of one by doing whatever gay shit you want"

  • Michelle Ridd
    Michelle Ridd Месяц назад

    This made me laugh 😄😄 well made 🖒

  • Kerkoub Med
    Kerkoub Med Месяц назад

    this is the same conception of confidence that i have but no one in my surrounding is doing agree with me. for them the confidence is the capibility to live with same way others ¨succefull¨ people are doing.

  • Ixpert CA
    Ixpert CA Месяц назад

    What an inspiration

  • Noir Blanc
    Noir Blanc Месяц назад

    Happiness is short

  • BooTsNcATsa
    BooTsNcATsa Месяц назад


  • sSaEeDz I Designs
    sSaEeDz I Designs Месяц назад

    Aghhh i want to go out and be dumb.

  • Amal Adel
    Amal Adel Месяц назад

    I am an idiot 😂it's feeling relax to know that 😃

  • Tadeo Catania
    Tadeo Catania Месяц назад

    Accept Jesus as your saviour and he will make you confident, trust me.

  • Chase Mbu
    Chase Mbu Месяц назад

    Can I be homeschooled with my friends and everyday we watch a new video from school of life and learn something

  • Jason Lopez
    Jason Lopez Месяц назад

    We are all egotistical apes

  • Sophie Bai
    Sophie Bai Месяц назад

    u always give answers to the deepest questions , thank you

  • Renato Huber
    Renato Huber Месяц назад

    And that is how Trump was elected....

  • Ahmed Z
    Ahmed Z Месяц назад

    That helped!

  • WelsWestRapunion
    WelsWestRapunion Месяц назад

    This is important

  • Sherlock Holmes
    Sherlock Holmes Месяц назад

    Who coined the word "idiot "?

  • Bogdy Yo
    Bogdy Yo Месяц назад

    True dat

  • Robyn Sophie
    Robyn Sophie Месяц назад

    I’m only comfortable around my friends and family. But other than that I struggle to talk to people without getting hot and sweaty.

  • Samsonite
    Samsonite Месяц назад

    You people are geniuses. Your videos are up there with the lectures that Alan Watts has given, in my eyes.

  • Katyy Petch
    Katyy Petch Месяц назад

    When in an uncomfortable situation like publicly speaking or in an argument or even before the thing that you’re dreading happens, I recommend you either imagine everyone naked to make you less anxious, or think about the worst possible scenario that you could ever face in any situation. Make it so bizarre that it makes you recognise that any real life situation could never ever be as bad as that. In other words compare what your facing with something even worse... it makes you feel better. Trust me

  • Emma Kerry
    Emma Kerry Месяц назад

    I stick by this moto "YOLO!!!"

  • Dominick DiBart
    Dominick DiBart Месяц назад

    So yesterday I was at the mall shopping for presents alone. I rarely ever go into Hot Topic, because I usuallu go to the mall with my friends, and I'm embarassed of what theyd think. This time however I was alone, and wanted to check out some band tshirts. So after walking back and forth thinking about it, I figured "Screw It I'm all alone I'll go in!"
    I walk in and before I can even look at the shirts I hear from behind me, "Hi Dom" (my name is Dom)
    Immeadiately in my head I'm like "This is what I get for trying new things" but turns out it was actually someone I knew who was just happy to see me, and we had a pleasant little chat.
    This video, these comments, and that experience I feel tie together in one grand idea. All people make mistakes and do things that may be somewhat embarassing, and for the most part other people don't care so why should you. I'm gonna try and take these lessons woth me into my life going forward, because I often spend to much time thinking about what others are thinking

  • Marco Schettino
    Marco Schettino Месяц назад

    Maybe i shoudn't be here but i still believe confidence is a dangerous tool to educate younger generations , as everyones has a different level of confidence that they are comfotable with , and its imposible to be 100% confident , i believe replacing sel-control and discipline for confidence was a mistake , and we're now seeing its effects on younger generations who can't live without being always confident about themselves...

  • Gabriel 1
    Gabriel 1 Месяц назад

    How liberating to know in truth how everybody feels ridiculous! It's not just me! Thank you!

  • Gabriel 1
    Gabriel 1 Месяц назад

    True true we're all mad in an insane world.

  • Gabriel 1
    Gabriel 1 Месяц назад

    True confidence is not being afraid to be vulnerable.

  • Josefina Fairbanks
    Josefina Fairbanks 2 месяца назад

    this is awesome XD

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    Miljan Krkic 2 месяца назад

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  • ray n
    ray n 2 месяца назад

    "the person we try to kiss" can slap you or you can never have a chance even to talk anymore. if you don't feel importance of making good relations with that specific person, then you are stupid enough for advices in this video to be exactly for you. and as it's said at the end - some time in future it will work. just like with a pack of old chips in shop that will eventually be picked by smb too.
    p.s. you'll especially like theory in this video, when once a doctor comes after your operation and says "Failure is the acceptable normal".

  • Azuma
    Azuma 2 месяца назад

    I love the message of this video and I've been practicing this 'no fear of judgement' thing. But a part of me just wants to let loose and be WRECKLESS now. Any advice in case I blow up a big opportunity in the distant future?

  • jhon cena
    jhon cena 2 месяца назад

    Fuck, I love this channel

  • mynameisirrelevant !
    mynameisirrelevant ! 2 месяца назад

    In college, there was a guy I knew of that was very out going...Very active in different programs on campus, he was never scared to raise his hand to ask a question in crowded auditoriums and speak his mind and guess what ....He had a bad stutter !!....Always admired the fact the he didn't care what people thought about him and that he had the confidence to not let the way he talked hold him back...

  • duy thong ngo
    duy thong ngo 2 месяца назад

    hahahahahahahahahahahahahaha . . . . . i'm laughing at myself, because i'm an idiot, and i don't care how people think about me

  • Harry Lewis
    Harry Lewis 2 месяца назад

    Будь проще и люди к тебе потянутся © Люди

  • Arathrum
    Arathrum 2 месяца назад

    Funny to see how something Erasmus put forward is still present in the Dutch mindset. The interpretation is a bit different though. We have a saying that translates into "Just act normal, that's crazy enough".

  • Mbtgamer
    Mbtgamer 2 месяца назад +1


  • Blck Paradise
    Blck Paradise 2 месяца назад

    i love this channel.. so well illustrated, such good ideas !

  • Aidan Zoldyk
    Aidan Zoldyk 2 месяца назад

    This was sooo amazing! I've watched many videos like this but undoubtedly this was the BEZTTT👌👌
    *BESTT (haha! Pun intended)

  • Benjamin Deckard
    Benjamin Deckard 2 месяца назад

    Hey isn't that painting the cover to a Fleet Foxes Album!

  • Yoshi Agentyoshi
    Yoshi Agentyoshi 2 месяца назад

    But it's not easy to stop these fear... As a perfectionnist, I have hard time doing stuff without being scared to be rediculous...

  • Al C
    Al C 2 месяца назад

    Half agree. Saying you're an "idiot" is one thing, but this doesn't work if you don't tell yourself that that's OK, that's normal, and nothing to be ashamed or self-critical of.

  • Andre Akcelik
    Andre Akcelik 2 месяца назад

    This was so heart warming, it made me laugh.

  • KingDM6 _
    KingDM6 _ 2 месяца назад

    But i laughed and agreed. I’m so insecure and i practice this. Whyyyyyyy

  • AliG
    AliG 2 месяца назад

    Fuck this shit death is the only option
    Or just living alone where I don’t have to deal with Shit and eventually die

  • Neena
    Neena 2 месяца назад +1

    Your voice is the voice of Tasty Tuts.

    MIND SHORE 2 месяца назад

    hey, I like your channel a lot, thanks for uploading. I've started something similar on my page. Feel free to check it out

  • ax k
    ax k 2 месяца назад


  • gitta wynant
    gitta wynant 2 месяца назад

    Love this video! I do want to point out that the painting of Pieter Breugel is not necessarily about idiot people, but about Dutch sayings. "Walking against a wall" means for example "making a obvious mistake.

  • MyTube Tv
    MyTube Tv 2 месяца назад

    How can i learn to do the same video ??? plz..

  • quickster93
    quickster93 2 месяца назад

    "Looking like a prick"
    * immediately stops dozing off*

  • Noelle L.
    Noelle L. 2 месяца назад

    Every aspect of our life are commanded by our state of mind. We will get more by staying positive and live without caring what others think. I get it. It's just not that easy. We are our greatest ennemie in life, we need to be more kind and friendly to ourselves.

    • Facing Your Dragons
      Facing Your Dragons 2 месяца назад

      That is why I hate advice like this. It doesn't help to say "don't think about it". I need actual actionable tips. Things you can do right away. And believe me, there are some things that actually boost confidence and aren't about flipping a switch inside of your head.

  • Rashika Garg
    Rashika Garg 2 месяца назад

    This is a very nice video.. But I just didn't understand how this is related to confidence. How do i tell myself I'm an idiot.. failing is normal and still comvice myself to feel confident that I can do it and that I can achieve it
    I think video though awesome should've had a little more different title like how to be open to opportunities maybe

  • omgwtfrofltomato
    omgwtfrofltomato 2 месяца назад

    This reminds me of when I was a kid. It was taught in church that the greatest evil a man could have, was pride. That stuck with me.
    Watching this... Same thing, no? Love both either way.

  • drago
    drago 2 месяца назад

    who is the famous character on the top left at 1:53 ?

  • mars8254
    mars8254 2 месяца назад

    I love this idea, but it goes both ways. Everyone's such an idiot, but other idiots will still think they are a smarter than another idiot. Which leads to hate because of their stupid egos.

  • Chinmaya Singh Rawat
    Chinmaya Singh Rawat 2 месяца назад

    How beautiful. Helped bring a fresh breeze of positivity in my life. Also, loved the style of presentation.

  • Pearce Fitspatrick
    Pearce Fitspatrick 2 месяца назад +2

    How do we let the pains of the world not take over our lives

  • andy hasi
    andy hasi 2 месяца назад

    heureux imbecil

  • Maida San
    Maida San 2 месяца назад

    Yup, humans are stupid

  • Natesh Subhedar
    Natesh Subhedar 2 месяца назад

    i just love you. The creator. The self-help industry these days try to sell us all the "feel-good" stuff. but So hopeful to watch this

  • Decode Channel
    Decode Channel 3 месяца назад +3

    Great video! Thank you.
    Here is summary:
    1. We hold back from opportunities in which there is any risk of ending up looking ridiculous.
    In a concerted bid never to look foolish, we don't venture very far from our cocoon.
    2. Everyone, however important and learned they might be, is a fool.
    3. Once we learn to see ourselves as already, and by nature, foolish, it doesn't matter to us if we do one more thing that might make us look stupid.