How To Be Confident

  • Опубликовано: 8 фев 2017
  • The fastest route to confidence is to stop being so attached to one’s dignity and seriousness; and plainly admit that one is - of course - an idiot. We all are. For gifts and more from The School of Life, visit our online shop:
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Комментарии • 1 915

  • Marian Diaz
    Marian Diaz Час назад

    I stumbled upon this video two weeks before Valentine’s Day. I was deliberating whether I should give chocolates to a guy I like at work. Finally I decided to give it a go. I did end up acting like a fool but thankfully he appreciated that. Now we are happily in a relationship :)

  • John Bebita
    John Bebita 6 часов назад

    How do you make this kind video/animation???

  • W A X Y
    W A X Y День назад

    i want to be confident with my face...

  • Jimbo Jenkins
    Jimbo Jenkins 2 дня назад

    This is a cool video

  • Ryan Chan
    Ryan Chan 2 дня назад

    I gave it a HUGE like.This is so insightful !!!

  • A8HBU
    A8HBU 2 дня назад

    0:48 but they do, one look at #metoo and you'll see.

  • Giovanni Pezzino
    Giovanni Pezzino 3 дня назад

    I feel bad for the people that are struggling with this and haven't watched this video.
    Have a great day anyway🙂

  • Erisbel Gonzalez
    Erisbel Gonzalez 3 дня назад

    Makes sense

  • Jdm Flash
    Jdm Flash 5 дней назад

    Yay! Im just like everyone else!

  • Learning Time
    Learning Time 8 дней назад

    Such an uplifting video

  • Enterthemind1
    Enterthemind1 9 дней назад

    Hey you...yeah you
    If your a woman, go look in the mirror and tell yourself that you are beautiful and awesome
    If your a man, go look in the mirror and tell yourself that your handsome and a badass
    Always install confidence in yourself.

  • God Nite
    God Nite 9 дней назад

    Bro ur ugly voice makes me sleep and boring👏

  • Alois Eberhard
    Alois Eberhard 9 дней назад

    How to be confident?.... MAKE CONFIDENCE YOUR BIATCH!!!

  • Faheem Wani
    Faheem Wani 9 дней назад +1

    Now that is motivative!!!

  • Artistic Nicol
    Artistic Nicol 14 дней назад +1

    Thank you this really helped me

  • Marion Hoogstoel
    Marion Hoogstoel 14 дней назад

    Ahahah thank you ! I laughed a lot and felt relieved.

  • SJArmstrong
    SJArmstrong 15 дней назад

    The 3 second rule;
    Passersbys see you and forget you in
    3 seconds.

  • D A
    D A 15 дней назад

    This doesnt teach me to be confident.

  •  16 дней назад

    The part with the painting made me laugh genuinely, tomorrow, when i wake up, i will tell myself "God damnit! i woke up! what a fool i was to stop dreaming so pleasurably!" and then move on with an idiotic grin on my face. Thank you for this.

  • Riggin Thorniley
    Riggin Thorniley 16 дней назад

    This is awesome and I can agree with anecdotal evidence. As a kid, I always had a fear of messing something up. As I teen, I remember telling myself, "kids are supposed to screw up... so I'll just give it a try." Now I realize how much that helped me, and that by "kids" I should have just said "people".

  • Mr. Noseyman
    Mr. Noseyman 17 дней назад

    How I be confident:
    Girl asks me: what’s ur name?
    Me: YeSsssSssS! (With lost of confidence)

  • jungkooks voice is my Aethetics
    jungkooks voice is my Aethetics 19 дней назад

    I clearly don't understand myself. i am very confident around close friends and also at my school,i do well at reporting infront of my classmates,Teachers and other people too. but when im around my Cousins i just feel like a piece of shit,like i am really freezing whenever i saw them. or maybe is it because my cousins are rich and succesful and im just a nobody retarded ugly goat.

  • Nicholas C.
    Nicholas C. 21 день назад

    Hmmm very strange philosophy indeed, doesn't this kind of affirmation harm the self-esteem?

  • Matthew B.
    Matthew B. 21 день назад

    Lower your expectations for yourself and others while maintaining high aspirations for both. Sounds easy.

  • G A
    G A 21 день назад

    I god daam like those videos 😊✌👍

    IYANULIVE 21 день назад

    Definitely a goodie. It’s funny seeing this point of view versus the ‘love yourself’ approach. It goes hand in hand but this is the other side of the coin that says ‘enh eff it’

  • Segorisk Johnny
    Segorisk Johnny 22 дня назад

    "Looking like a prick" then a banana just bursts in, like WHEYYYY
    Haha, man that got me good.

  • TheEscalofrio
    TheEscalofrio 22 дня назад

    Yeah i get it, but the sting of rejection and crippling embarrassment is all to real and painful. Good message tho

  • Provi
    Provi 25 дней назад +1

    I have a presentation so I had to watch this

  • harman bawa
    harman bawa 25 дней назад

    After seeing this video so many people will lost job bcs of trying to kiss their colleagues 😂😂

  • napatcap
    napatcap 27 дней назад

    I will get up no matter how hard I fall on the ground I promised you.

  • Pooja Barathithasan
    Pooja Barathithasan 27 дней назад

    Here's to being an idiot 😂

  • Nguyễn Hồng Dung
    Nguyễn Hồng Dung Месяц назад

    Thanks it helps

  • Analfabeto brasileiro
    Analfabeto brasileiro Месяц назад

    I dunno ..i giving up to be...

  • ChaiShalom1
    ChaiShalom1 Месяц назад

    For me the over all message is go out and be stupid. Because it's better then staying home and pretending your normal.

  • Blue7
    Blue7 Месяц назад

    Very sweet and super cool vid thx :D

  • Ole O.
    Ole O. Месяц назад

    I don't really see how you can get confident by being authentic unless you're an authentical likeable person. Before I stopped being completely authentic people were ashamed of me.

  • RogueVector52
    RogueVector52 Месяц назад

    Seems to make sense. If you view it through that viewpoint, there is always some sort of bug in the people, whether they see it or not.

  • Autistinquisitor
    Autistinquisitor Месяц назад

    As an Autistic person, this helps. Thanks.

  • OneStauffder Sirynch
    OneStauffder Sirynch Месяц назад

    Peanut butter jelly time!!!!

  • Cam BIUBIU
    Cam BIUBIU Месяц назад


  • GlowingWellness
    GlowingWellness Месяц назад

    Whenever I do something stupid I will literally just say I struggle, we all struggle I just struggle a lot lol

  • G. Thompson
    G. Thompson Месяц назад

    This film editing is really quite good!

  • Kevin Ellerton
    Kevin Ellerton Месяц назад

    SO GOOD. All your videos are spot on.

  • Catie Marsh
    Catie Marsh Месяц назад

    How truthful all your videos are and how uncannily things connect in the real world to the videos astound me. The fact that you’ve been able to see the underlying causes to everyday problems that are just there is insane. I never knew how much childhood affects daily life or how we think of ourselves affect others. It’s like your channel is magical with all the truths spilling out

  • Sister Tips
    Sister Tips Месяц назад

    do not swear as much i am only nine i dont like to hear those words but funny video well done & noughty

  • cady the robloxgamer
    cady the robloxgamer Месяц назад


  • Ildar Zakirov
    Ildar Zakirov Месяц назад

    Oh my. Thank you.

  • Leena Khalid
    Leena Khalid Месяц назад

    this is gold 😍

  • Bulletproof Chiminchanga
    Bulletproof Chiminchanga Месяц назад

    I´m an extremely shy person and just interacting with people on a daily gives me anxiety. Be it friends, teachers, anything. I will sit in class thinking about how to approach the teacher about a question without actually bothering my classmates studying and learn time in class. So I end up asking after class. Yet, I´m always astonished when I see my classmates sitting on their phone ( hiding it ofc ) and then asking the teacher "I didn´t understand that can you repeat it?".
    I have the bravery of a chicken nugget.
    Any social interactions freak me out and I would rather go home at the end of the day with unanswered questions than ask teachers sometimes. Afterall what is the internet for.

  • Rishiraj Chauhan
    Rishiraj Chauhan Месяц назад

    The English you use is very hard to understand .........most of your audience is children i pre assume so you should ......speak in more easy or understandable English ....😐

  • Fotini 00
    Fotini 00 Месяц назад

    lol i always called myself an idiot what's new???xDDD
    loved this video,and ill start reading Erasmus's book,it seems so interesting.

  • Real Deal
    Real Deal Месяц назад

    😆☺ love the animation and alight sense of humour

  • ahmed aziz
    ahmed aziz Месяц назад

    I'm investigating treating shyness naturally and found an awesome resource at Seans Shy Program (look it up on google)

  • Месяц назад

    wow..nice video..It really boosted my confidence.

  • StupidityKiller -
    StupidityKiller - Месяц назад

    If you confidence is based on your strengths points, you forgot that your weak points are still there, so you will try to be perfect but you will never archive it.
    You're imperfect.
    When i walk all mornings to university i see all this peoples trying to be perfect, to walk perfectly, to not be ridiculous, that so sad to watch because they hide they true self, they hide their imperfections, they hide their "clown" [like said in the video].

  • Aaron D
    Aaron D Месяц назад +1

    "Placing ourselves beyond mockery" - Honestly that sounds pretty nice! No but I definitely agree with everything being said here!

  • Teresa Silva
    Teresa Silva Месяц назад

    reverse psychology

  • Stefán Atli Jakobsson
    Stefán Atli Jakobsson Месяц назад

    Or like Steve Jobs put it, "Stay Hungry, stay foolish"

  • Jessamie Yule
    Jessamie Yule Месяц назад

    I really enjoy The School of Life channel and find their content extremely insightful. One comment I would (hopefully) like to be corrected on is the lack of reference to female philosophers throughout their videos. If this is the case, it would be nice to see them make this change.

  • Oracle Wyrd
    Oracle Wyrd Месяц назад

    I don't find calling yourself a fool helps at all.
    Been doing it most my life and ended up a near skilless, middle aged, over weight underachiever. It's only until recently that, as I've been telling myself that I can do things and not think of my negatives, that I even found hope in becoming anything else that what I find myself to be now.

  • a64750
    a64750 Месяц назад

    get FIREd - financial independent retire early on dividend inadequacy melts away, confidence engorge!

  • Janice yan
    Janice yan Месяц назад +2

    Wish someone told me early

  • Ankita Nawalakha
    Ankita Nawalakha Месяц назад +1

    Amazing video

  • Breton lord
    Breton lord Месяц назад

    The problem is when you get rejected or spat on , get fired from your job , and people won't be friendly with you...

  • Anjana Janardhanan
    Anjana Janardhanan Месяц назад

    Great concept.👌 Kudos to the team👏👏👏

  • Rm
    Rm 2 месяца назад

    thank you for the arabic subtitle

  • RobZoneFire
    RobZoneFire 2 месяца назад

    Just Do it and Ignore Your Fear

  • Jacob Mendoza
    Jacob Mendoza 2 месяца назад

    There's this girl that I find attracted to that I see on the bus now and then, here and there... I think I just might kiss her by surprise hehe lmao cuz idk, I mean, we all have one life, right? I'll do it

  • Roderick Molasar
    Roderick Molasar 2 месяца назад

    I am LORD Garth!

  • Grace Kathryn
    Grace Kathryn 2 месяца назад

    This helped. Thanks.

  • A Burrito
    A Burrito 2 месяца назад

    stand with me boys! #WeAreIdiots!

  • AJ Truss
    AJ Truss 2 месяца назад

    Lotta truth in this. And this is where the saying "just be yourself" comes in. I've noticed that when I'm the more uncensored version of myself I have a lot more fun going out. It honestly works.

  • Kickass TV
    Kickass TV 2 месяца назад

    Might sub after watching, really like the vid.

  • Captain Fish eye
    Captain Fish eye 2 месяца назад

    im ugly and im proud

  • ismail bouhariche
    ismail bouhariche 2 месяца назад +2

    There are several ideas worth trying
    Work out why you suffer from shyness - the first step to solving a problem is to understand why you have it.
    Be comfortable with yourself - this makes it easier when you meet others.
    Challenge youself - you will gain confidence by taking action - especially by doing things that stretch your limits.
    (I learned these and more tips from sebs shyness tactic site )

  • Buddlebot
    Buddlebot 2 месяца назад


  • Heavy Rocky
    Heavy Rocky 2 месяца назад

    I AM A NITWIT!!!!!!!!!!!!

  • luke Dog
    luke Dog 2 месяца назад

    I like a comedians response "get confident Stupid!

  • Kelvin Shani
    Kelvin Shani 2 месяца назад

    this is beautiful.

  • Gg Mu
    Gg Mu 2 месяца назад

    Being an idiot is fun

  • And The Salt Spreads
    And The Salt Spreads 2 месяца назад

    Tell that to depressed people. That oughtta cheer 'em up.

  • grytlappar
    grytlappar 2 месяца назад

    This one is my favorite. I almost busted a gut.

  • Nature Cure
    Nature Cure 2 месяца назад

    The school of life is a lifesaver!

  • Brian Bernard
    Brian Bernard 2 месяца назад

    This honestly is amazing, and precisely what I needed to hear. Earlier, even though I've been singing for all of my life, with lessons and coaches throughout, I had a unanimous vote against me in a karaoke contest. Talk about looking like a prick. At the very least, this is something new to try; admitting that failure is the norm, so any flashes of greatness that do happen can be better, and more appropriately, appreciated. I prefer singing my own songs anyway... I think I'll write one mocking my own habits. Cheers!

  • Pikachu Revisoren
    Pikachu Revisoren 2 месяца назад

    This video got it wrong, rely on your strenghts and boost your ego everytime you gonna do something new. :) "Ofc you can do that! "You the best" and so on. This handbook of confidence is for beta people, if you wanna be alpha, then boost your own ego, everytime you do sometthing! :)

  • David Cordova Santibañez
    David Cordova Santibañez 2 месяца назад

    Not sure if you realize the amount of love you are giving to the world through this amazing work you are gifting to us ❤️

  • deeznutz235
    deeznutz235 2 месяца назад

    What a slap to the face lol

  • soupspam
    soupspam 2 месяца назад

    I’m a compete dipshit and I accept that.

  • Natasa Vujic
    Natasa Vujic 2 месяца назад

    Thank you this is fabulous! I needed this for soooo long! :)

  • Bobby Undsoweiter
    Bobby Undsoweiter 2 месяца назад +2

    thank you. that was beautiful

  • Dimakatjo Phaho
    Dimakatjo Phaho 2 месяца назад

    Thank you so much for ALL your insightful and encouraging videos. THANK YOU

  • taco cat
    taco cat 2 месяца назад

    Jordan Peterson has said, before you become a hero you must first be a fool. Basically, before you become a beast at something you usually start off being a idiot and not knowing what you're doing.

  • Kaitlyn Perry
    Kaitlyn Perry 2 месяца назад

    Why does the "looking like a prick" scene make me laugh so hard

  • Salublox
    Salublox 2 месяца назад

    I am in year 7 (aged 12) I want to be student council but I'm shy quiet and not confident I really want yo do this but I don't know how. Can you guys help me?

  • ant migzlon
    ant migzlon 3 месяца назад


  • Vanta Coffee Addict
    Vanta Coffee Addict 3 месяца назад

    This gave me confidence to be indifferent with whatever is holding me back. Instead take whatever chances I see.

  • Alex T
    Alex T 3 месяца назад

    "you're already a shithead loser, why not be more of one by doing whatever gay shit you want"

  • Michelle Ridd
    Michelle Ridd 3 месяца назад

    This made me laugh 😄😄 well made 🖒

  • Kerkoub Med
    Kerkoub Med 3 месяца назад

    this is the same conception of confidence that i have but no one in my surrounding is doing agree with me. for them the confidence is the capibility to live with same way others ¨succefull¨ people are doing.